littlelottie
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I got a sharer for my horse about 4 years ago when I found myself in a position where I could not longer afford the time/money my boy needed. The sharer was really good (she was 14 at the time but very mature for her age) and I went out of my way to make her feel included in decision making etc. After a year my personal circumstances (marriage breakdown) meant that I was still finding it hard to support the horse and the sharer then became a full time loaner. In the years that followed I regularly see my horse and despite their persistant requests to buy him off me, I have made it clear that that will never happen as I could never part with him.
Last year I requested that I take him back for 2 days a week as I missed him desparately and this went well for about 4 months then I got a phone call out of the blue saying they were thankful for my efforts but they no longer needed me to help out. I was so suprised to say the least that I put the phone down then burst into tears.
I'm now in a position where I would like him back even it its only one day a week but I'm a bit scared of rocking the boat. I don't know why - I know he's still my horse but as per the title the loaner is very protective of him and I know the news won't go down lightly. I don't want her stop loaning him (I don't think she would) as I would struggle with him full time. I also know she's good for him and does more riding, schooling, shows etc than I could do. On the down side it would mean be having to bite my lip as we differ on opinion on whats best for him (she rugs him up to the hilt where as I don't think he needs that much etc)!
I don't know what I'm asking exactly, just advice on how to proceed I supose? Sorry its so long
Last year I requested that I take him back for 2 days a week as I missed him desparately and this went well for about 4 months then I got a phone call out of the blue saying they were thankful for my efforts but they no longer needed me to help out. I was so suprised to say the least that I put the phone down then burst into tears.
I'm now in a position where I would like him back even it its only one day a week but I'm a bit scared of rocking the boat. I don't know why - I know he's still my horse but as per the title the loaner is very protective of him and I know the news won't go down lightly. I don't want her stop loaning him (I don't think she would) as I would struggle with him full time. I also know she's good for him and does more riding, schooling, shows etc than I could do. On the down side it would mean be having to bite my lip as we differ on opinion on whats best for him (she rugs him up to the hilt where as I don't think he needs that much etc)!
I don't know what I'm asking exactly, just advice on how to proceed I supose? Sorry its so long