FionaM12
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Hi, Im new here and could do with some advice please. I was a keen rider when I was young and had my own horse. But, I was also very ill and was forced to give up totally as it turned out my life-threatening illness included a devastating allergy to horses.
Im in my 50s now and bizarrely am not only finally reasonably healthy but also no longer allergic. So Ive returned to horses after a gap of 35 years. I had a few lessons last year, then rode out regularly on hired horses locally before deciding to take the plunge and get my own again.
I wanted a safe, quiet hack for myself and my daughter (a beginner) to ride. An old friend who lives far away found me what she believed to be a suitable mare, Mollie, and delivered her back in June. She is 17, 14.2hh, beautiful and gentle.
When Mollie arrived after her long journey, she was very nervous and jumpy which I assumed was the effects of travelling. Shed lived somewhere remote and rural (she was trekking pony) and where I live is busy by comparison and the farm is next to a motorway. Previous to her move shed been out at grass 24/7 and unridden for 8 months.
However, 2 months on, shes really no better. She spooks at everything. Shes very hard to get in from the field. When I ride her, she spooks and shies and when I take her out onto the road Im scared shell shy into traffic. Shes not scared by traffic, its just every bit of litter, road sign etc! She's nervous in her field and nervous in the stable.
I took her out the other day with two other calm horses (who she knows) and riders and while they plodded along she jumped about, spooked, trotted on the spot, and sweated copiously. I was actually very scared as I felt I had little control. I dont know which of us was more relieved when we got back to the farm!
Returning to riding at my age is a bit like being a beginner again. Im not confident, strong or very fit. However, I wasnt overly nervous riding other horses, but Mollies behaviour frightens me. I realise my anxiety will pass onto Mollie and make things worse, but dont know how to overcome it.
Returning her to her previous owner is NOT an option. I dont want to sell her either. But, do you think she should have settled by now? People who knew her previously say she wasnt nervous in the past.
Yesterday, on the way in from the field, she shied at something the wind had caught. She ran back so unexpectly and violently she heaved me off my feet. I didnt let go and managed to calm her and carry on past the object, but I have nasty rope burns on my hands, and my arms and shoulders hurt today.
Shes out at grass most of the time, with other horses. She comes in for a few hours most days and I groom her, fuss her, walk her about the farm in hand and I ride every few days. She eats only grass, hay and a few carrots.
Any advice would be appreciated! Thank you.
Im in my 50s now and bizarrely am not only finally reasonably healthy but also no longer allergic. So Ive returned to horses after a gap of 35 years. I had a few lessons last year, then rode out regularly on hired horses locally before deciding to take the plunge and get my own again.
I wanted a safe, quiet hack for myself and my daughter (a beginner) to ride. An old friend who lives far away found me what she believed to be a suitable mare, Mollie, and delivered her back in June. She is 17, 14.2hh, beautiful and gentle.
When Mollie arrived after her long journey, she was very nervous and jumpy which I assumed was the effects of travelling. Shed lived somewhere remote and rural (she was trekking pony) and where I live is busy by comparison and the farm is next to a motorway. Previous to her move shed been out at grass 24/7 and unridden for 8 months.
However, 2 months on, shes really no better. She spooks at everything. Shes very hard to get in from the field. When I ride her, she spooks and shies and when I take her out onto the road Im scared shell shy into traffic. Shes not scared by traffic, its just every bit of litter, road sign etc! She's nervous in her field and nervous in the stable.
I took her out the other day with two other calm horses (who she knows) and riders and while they plodded along she jumped about, spooked, trotted on the spot, and sweated copiously. I was actually very scared as I felt I had little control. I dont know which of us was more relieved when we got back to the farm!
Returning to riding at my age is a bit like being a beginner again. Im not confident, strong or very fit. However, I wasnt overly nervous riding other horses, but Mollies behaviour frightens me. I realise my anxiety will pass onto Mollie and make things worse, but dont know how to overcome it.
Returning her to her previous owner is NOT an option. I dont want to sell her either. But, do you think she should have settled by now? People who knew her previously say she wasnt nervous in the past.
Yesterday, on the way in from the field, she shied at something the wind had caught. She ran back so unexpectly and violently she heaved me off my feet. I didnt let go and managed to calm her and carry on past the object, but I have nasty rope burns on my hands, and my arms and shoulders hurt today.
Shes out at grass most of the time, with other horses. She comes in for a few hours most days and I groom her, fuss her, walk her about the farm in hand and I ride every few days. She eats only grass, hay and a few carrots.
Any advice would be appreciated! Thank you.