Olivio
Well-Known Member
Hi everyone
I'm a first timer in the dogs section so first of all hello to you all.
I am having issues with my dog and I am at my wits end so am desperately looking for some inspiration. I will give you a bit of background information as I think it is all pertanent to my current situation.
I got my lab x spaniel 4 years ago with my now ex partner. He was very soft on Fernie and treated him like a child rather than a dog. We split up about a year ago but were living together in a very tense atmosphere for a number of months. Fernie and I moved in with a friend who was not a great dog lover and she eventually moved out 6 months later leaving us in the flat by ourselves for just under 6 months. I treat my dog like a dog but yes I am probably a bit softer than I should be (although that is changing as I'm trying to be the alpha). In December I eventually had to give up my flat and Fernie and I moved in with my Mother, her Flatcoat retriever and her newly aquired flatcoat puppy. So, in summary Fernie and I have moved twice, and been in fairly high stress situations for the past twoish years.
So (and well done if you're keeping with me), Fernie has become very aggressive with my Mothers dogs. He is fine outside although will give a quick growl on the way past but in general its ok. When we are in the house my mum's dogs cannot even look at him without Fernie kicking off, putting himself in a corner and turning into a snarling mess. Her normally incredibly placid Flatcoat has now got to the point that he is completely fed up and has now started fighting back.
Fernie is not a nasty dog by nature and is wonderful when he is by himself. I feel horribly guilty about what I have put him through these past few years and am feeling right now that I have messed him up royally. As much as my mother loves Fernie, it is becoming unbearable to live with and we are having to keep the dogs seperate most of the time which in a small house is incredibly difficult. Unfortunately me getting my own place again is not an option for at least a year.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can fix this? I have put a DAP collar on Fernie and the adult flatcoat but this doesn't seem to have helped. Fernie has also had a course of Zylkene but again this didn't appear to help. We have been here nearly a month and I am certainly less stressed than I was (Fernie is a sensitive wee soul and feeds off my stress) and I would have hoped he'd have settled a bit by now.
I am so sorry for my ramblings but I just don't know what to do now. I have tried being dominant, soothing him, letting them sort it out themselves, seperating them and every option I can think of inbetween. I have insurance with Petplan that has £1k of complimentery treatment included so I'm not sure what that covers ie behaviouralists etc.
I'm a first timer in the dogs section so first of all hello to you all.
I am having issues with my dog and I am at my wits end so am desperately looking for some inspiration. I will give you a bit of background information as I think it is all pertanent to my current situation.
I got my lab x spaniel 4 years ago with my now ex partner. He was very soft on Fernie and treated him like a child rather than a dog. We split up about a year ago but were living together in a very tense atmosphere for a number of months. Fernie and I moved in with a friend who was not a great dog lover and she eventually moved out 6 months later leaving us in the flat by ourselves for just under 6 months. I treat my dog like a dog but yes I am probably a bit softer than I should be (although that is changing as I'm trying to be the alpha). In December I eventually had to give up my flat and Fernie and I moved in with my Mother, her Flatcoat retriever and her newly aquired flatcoat puppy. So, in summary Fernie and I have moved twice, and been in fairly high stress situations for the past twoish years.
So (and well done if you're keeping with me), Fernie has become very aggressive with my Mothers dogs. He is fine outside although will give a quick growl on the way past but in general its ok. When we are in the house my mum's dogs cannot even look at him without Fernie kicking off, putting himself in a corner and turning into a snarling mess. Her normally incredibly placid Flatcoat has now got to the point that he is completely fed up and has now started fighting back.
Fernie is not a nasty dog by nature and is wonderful when he is by himself. I feel horribly guilty about what I have put him through these past few years and am feeling right now that I have messed him up royally. As much as my mother loves Fernie, it is becoming unbearable to live with and we are having to keep the dogs seperate most of the time which in a small house is incredibly difficult. Unfortunately me getting my own place again is not an option for at least a year.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can fix this? I have put a DAP collar on Fernie and the adult flatcoat but this doesn't seem to have helped. Fernie has also had a course of Zylkene but again this didn't appear to help. We have been here nearly a month and I am certainly less stressed than I was (Fernie is a sensitive wee soul and feeds off my stress) and I would have hoped he'd have settled a bit by now.
I am so sorry for my ramblings but I just don't know what to do now. I have tried being dominant, soothing him, letting them sort it out themselves, seperating them and every option I can think of inbetween. I have insurance with Petplan that has £1k of complimentery treatment included so I'm not sure what that covers ie behaviouralists etc.