Help Please, what to do?

Thanks everyone, I can't believe what a few kind words can do. They really do help and are much appreciated. x
 
That would be fab if you could, the dogs may be a f*** up, they usually are in these situations but you never know! Thank you so much for trying for me, I'm very touched by the support from here.
 
251libby said:
Cannot belive some of these replies.
I am sorry that your husband left you and you feel unable to work but thats where my sympathy ends
Do the people paying your incapacity benifit know you are able to look after all these animals?????
You are obviously capable of doing some sort of paid work.
Unless your illness is something psycological of course.
I honestly do not belive that anyone on these benifits should have this many animals.
Have you thought about offering to turn other peoples horses out, mucking out etc in exchange for a few quid?

I cannot belive people are suggesting she go and beg to the council, they have people going in and saying they cannot feed themselves, or use any electric, heating etc.
Why would they care if someone says they cant afford their menagery of animals.
I work full time at an ok job and can only just about afford one horse.
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You are seriously out of line there? Who the hell made you judge, jury and executioner???? :mad:
No one has said that she should claim money to pay for the animals and actually if she loses the house in August she is legally entitled to be housed in temp housing by the council until they find her a suitable property. Even if she wasnt working her partner was with her and that is obviously how they supported themselves and the animals, not that it is any business of yours or ours for that matter.

Anyway, the goverment lays out a certain amount that is the minimum you can live on OP and also the new law for paying housing benefit is called local area housing, under that if you are single and have no dependants they deem you as only needing a one bed property. So what you need to do is register with the local council, they will prioritise you due to illness and potential homelessness.
Good luck sweetie. X
 
Vizslak, I can't imagine how shattered you must be feeling. I don't think I can offer anything of any help really but just wanted to say how heart warming it is to see the great kindness offered by other forum members. I'm sure things will look a lot better for you in a week or two. I wish you all the very best for the future.
 
Gosh, at times like theses it shows how wonderful HHO can be :)

Vizslak, I cannot imagine what you are going through right now, but have a hug from me :) If it was my decision and predicament I would have the older 2 PTS and try and rehome the youngster, blunt but there you go, that would be my course of action.

I wish you tons of luck and hope the magic wands that appear to be being waved work in your favour :D xxx
 
Best of luck to you. but if the worse comes to the worst, have the 2 old ones pts, I've got a couple of spare stables, could take the youngster on for you till you got sorted out. I live in Bedfordshire but that shouldn't be a problem.:):):):)
 
I'm so sorry to hear about this but posts like this restore your faith in people- nice to know there are so many people out there!

Hope one of the (many) suggestions you've had turns out to be viable.

I'm probably a bit far away (and lacking in land etc) to help but I'll send you a PM if I miraculously win the lottery tonight!

*hugs*
 
I did offer rehoming via pm, unfortunatley im in a different country, and it may not be ideal.

But id just like to add its so wonderfull to see so many people rallying together to offer support, from rehoming to kind words. Just shows how loving people can be :)
 
It is really lovely, I am honestly extremely greatful to be a member of this forum today (and have a high enough post count that you didnt all think I was a troll :p) all your kind words alone have made me feel that little bit stronger, in my current circumstance that is worth as much as anything. x
 
Yep I drive and have a car..... likely to be replaced with a much smaller far less flashy and more economical car very soon! :)
 
Micras are a pretty good bet on the small, economical scale, although they are not in the lowest tax bracket. Toyota Aygo's are in the lowest road tax bracket, and I seem to recall Top Gear quite liked them!:)

ETA I'm not being nosey, but what you used to do - is it something you could do freelance? That way you could work around the bad days. Sorry if that's a totally stupid idea!
 
I think I may end up with a vw of some description given that, well I just will because of my ex. I'm sure he will sort that at least. It doesn't need to be teeny tiny to be downgrading from my current ridiculously large fuel guzzling range rover! The new golfs are entirely tax free I believe.
 
Oh Yuk!! I love my old Range Rover, my 4 dogs front and back 5 bags horsefeed on back seat, bags of carrots, birdseed and she can tow!:D:D:D:D Never mind the weekly shop.:D:D
 
johnrobert said:
Oh Yuk!! I love my old Range Rover, my 4 dogs front and back 5 bags horsefeed on back seat, bags of carrots, birdseed and she can tow!:D:D:D:D Never mind the weekly shop.:D:D
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I actually hate mine anyway, despite being good for feed/hay/dogs/shopping it is very unreliable. Its a new one though, I think the older type are mechanically alot sounder!
 
johnrobert said:
Oh Yuk!! I love my old Range Rover, my 4 dogs front and back 5 bags horsefeed on back seat, bags of carrots, birdseed and she can tow!:D:D:D:D Never mind the weekly shop.:D:D
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Yes, but those of us in eeny weeny cars can go whiiiizzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzing round the bends and leave all those clunky old 4x4s in a cloud of dust:D:D:D Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!:D:D:D
 
Yes but mine has go up a 4-1 hill, and she's 16 years old, my OH looks after her and she's called Ruby and the 1 before was Fiona and before that Ethel and before that Big Bertha and the series 1 Land Rover was Mathilda. Must admit I don't like the new ones and a small WhiZZZZZ car wouldn't make it into my field or out of it.:D:D:D:D:D:D
 
I loved my freelander, but I can go round the lanes alot quicker in the fiesta zetec, although it is hard to fit 3 dogs and everything else in!
See V, a bit of a giggle and lots of cyber hugging makes things seem much better and you seem to be doing something Saturday now too!
 
That's a very good sign!! At times like these carbs rule (ooops! typed 'crabs' the first time :o)

I wish I lived closer and could help with the gs...
 
Good good:)

Keep thinking of the whiiiiiizzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzing
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spud I am giggling, you crack me up!
Don't you start on me too ester, I have no choccy in the house :(
 
I'll come over and we will go shopping :) you can test the whizzzzzzzzzzing in my little (now functional ;) car) choc is a must..... though actually right now I can only offer you a penguin............ :o sorry am rubbish!
 
I'm so sorry to hear that, it must be a heart wrenching situation. I can't imagine what you're going through.

But like a few others have said - if you can care for 4 dogs and 3 horses surely you are capable of working part time? I know they take a lot of energy out of you so surely you could manage a job? Desk jobs would pay enough to get you out of this sticky situation and they're a damn sight easier than mucking out/going on long walks/poo picking/riding!

I hate to be all right wing on you but I work a horrible long day, get shouted at, have to live on 5 hours sleep and have 1/3 of my wages taken for taxes which is all well and good - but people who live off benefits who might actually be able to work does make me feel slightly put out about the nature of society today.

I'm sure you're not one of these people but I would say rather than having your pets put to sleep I would have a look round for any jobs I could do to prevent it having to happen.

Good luck with your situation - I hope you work something out and start feeling better soon. x
 
This has got to be THE worst nightmare for you, i am sorry you have been put in this position.
If you rent your house and land, would it be possible to get a lodger or two, and maybe have some livery horses in, or rent some grass keep out, DIY??
Also if you have the land, you could have car boot sales on it once a month, or something along those lines. I watched something about it on telly. and they raked it in with the car boot thing!!
Anyway have a hug, and have a think before you make any big decisions, you might suprise yourself with what you come up with.
 
ester said:
I'll come over and we will go shopping :) you can test the whizzzzzzzzzzing in my little (now functional ;) car) choc is a must..... though actually right now I can only offer you a penguin............ :o sorry am rubbish!
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a measley penguin?! :mad: good god woman, how desperate do you think I am?! :p :D
 
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