Help Please, what to do?

Car boots you have to get planning permission for and only allowed 14 if parish council agrees. If you own the land a livery could make sense sort of. Still love my Range Rover:p:p:p:p
 
It's ok spud, people are entiteled to their opinion, I am actually considering some part time work with a very kindly employer that wont sack me for being ill, I'm waiting for a call from her. My specialist will officially flog me very hard with something very sharp and pointy but if I can do it then I will right now.
 
You can do it hun. Gundog owners have vast reserves of inner resiliance, we need it to get through all the naughtiness:D ((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))
 
Vizslak said:
It's ok spud, people are entiteled to their opinion, I am actually considering some part time work with a very kindly employer that wont sack me for being ill, I'm waiting for a call from her. My specialist will officially flog me very hard with something very sharp and pointy but if I can do it then I will right now.
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I think you are doing really well here, actually - you have only attracted 2 benefit bashers;):D
It must be ''empathy day'' on HHO or summit:rolleyes:
Do let me know if I can help in any way!
 
Anyway it's your OH lose not yours and you sound like a strong character and no doubt after the crisps, your brain will slip into gear and you will work a way thru your problems. that I have no doubt about and Best of Luck:D:D:D:D
 
LOL martlin, yes it is to be expected.
I certainly could never look after all the animals without help, although the nature of the condition means that most days I can if i strike while the irons hot and do it when I am feeling ok or not too bad. The difficulty is applying that to a job when you have to be in at a certain time or at least be able to guarantee to work the next day either am or pm....I can't do that, I don't know which part of the day I will be well, what time I will be able to get up, what time I may need to go back to bed, what time a horrendous migraine may start, when I will be able to stand up or sit down even and for how long. I understand the naivety of someone that doesn't suffer with it. When I'm ok I seem 100% normal and feel almost normal too. Its a tricky thing for an outsider to understand I know.
 
Oh &*!£*&^?%£!!! So sorry to hear of this hun. No idea whether it was expected or a bolt out of the blue, either way, it's pants :(. Have a huge hug and an extra large hot choccy (served up in smaller mugs :)).

I have no fields or stables, etc. at the moment so cannot offer you anything much in the way of usefulness, but if I can be of any help at all as and when moves take place, please shout! I enjoy driving and will happily load Hugh the Trailer and Doris the Disco, distance is no object.

I know what you've said about work - if you are able to think of something that you can do and need a website, I'll give you a site (domain and hosting) and build it for you if that would help? I'll pm you my email and mobile :)
 
johnrobert said:
Anyway it's your OH lose not yours and you sound like a strong character and no doubt after the crisps, your brain will slip into gear and you will work a way thru your problems. that I have no doubt about and Best of Luck:D:D:D:D
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Haha you are right, how dare he leave me! Like he could ever get anyone better :rolleyes: :p :D
 
God some people either jump in without reading the whole thread or just assume things!
Dont you think that if she was capable of going to work and preserving the things she loves she would?
Dont you also think that now is not the time to be having a go! Just let her get herself together emotionally, time will tell.
She may well of worked most of her life and I am pretty damn sure she doesnt ask to be ill!
 
johnrobert said:
Car boots you have to get planning permission for and only allowed 14 if parish council agrees. If you own the land a livery could make sense sort of. Still love my Range Rover:p:p:p:p
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Well thats more than one a month, even with my bad maths:D
I was trying to get the op to think past what seem to be insamountable (sp) problems at the moment, sometimes one idea leads to more practicle ones:)
 
Oh and V, not prying but if you are on the higher rate of dla then you can opt for a car rather than the cash each month.
 
Unfortunately I don't live close enough to offer a solution with the horses or your housing situation but am sending you huge {{{{{{hugs}}}}}

I am sure that the good folks of HHO will sort you out in no time :D
 
Oh dogs balls Vizlak :( It happened to me in October, OH of 20 yrs left.

I know exactly how you are feeling and what you are going through and what will hit you in the next 6 months I afraid :(

I am lucky that I can work and have a reasonably paid job, but to support a house, two kids and far too many animals - is bloody soul destroying at times :(

I am 6 months further on down the line from you right now so I can say, don't panic just yet, its amazing how things seem to work out especially with all the help from the HHO'ers - they really helped me when the chips were down.

I also went to CAB but found them totally useless, I had managed to research more information myself - but a free one hour interview with a solicitor really put my mind at ease.

Please, please PM me if you need to let off steam, offload etc. We are not that far from each other and a good blast on the moor with dogs makes the whole world seem a better place - well, for an hour or two at least! :)

You have got a rough few months coming up ahead - I am always here, particularly late at night, when most normal people have gone to bed!
 
MrsMozart said:
Oh &*!£*&^?%£!!! So sorry to hear of this hun. No idea whether it was expected or a bolt out of the blue, either way, it's pants :(. Have a huge hug and an extra large hot choccy (served up in smaller mugs :)).

I have no fields or stables, etc. at the moment so cannot offer you anything much in the way of usefulness, but if I can be of any help at all as and when moves take place, please shout! I enjoy driving and will happily load Hugh the Trailer and Doris the Disco, distance is no object.

I know what you've said about work - if you are able to think of something that you can do and need a website, I'll give you a site (domain and hosting) and build it for you if that would help? I'll pm you my email and mobile :)
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Mrs M that is a really lovely offer thanks. It would be fab if I could come up with something to take you up on that. Will try and get brain further in gear, there are a few things I was considering loosely before all this happened (because I'm not a scrounger and wanted to keep my mind active and contribute to the household more) Thank you. x
 
Just to add, V, have you thought of setting up an online pet store? I did it for a while on ebay and it earned me some money before I went and got a 'proper' job! There are a couple of sites you can order cheap stock from, if you are interested pm me and I will give them to you :)
 
Thanks RW, I think a pack walk may be in order soon ;) OH WHEN TILLY AND ELLIE COME OUT OF BLOOMIN SEASON!! They don't half pick their moments my dogs, I would have taken them away to a holiday let or something this week for a few days break (they need it as much as me) but oh no, they have to come in season!
 
I am glad that for the moment you have got your sense of humour back! We do all need people even if they are cyber. You seem to have some very good friends on this forum that are able to help you, and those who also want to help you. I dont know if you read my previous post, but I said that you would never be in a darker place than when you first posted. Please give yourself time before you make any drastic decisions about your horses. Every day situations change, its bad enough now without the thought of putting your horses down. Dont knee jerk!!!!!
 
Just had a thought, V.

Your punctuation, grammar and spelling are very good, so how about doing some proof-reading from home?

I know there's usually an ad in the Big Issue for this and you could do it in your own time on the pooter to suit you as and when you felt up to it.

Will keep my thinking cap on... xx
 
Yes its good to talk, I have felt very touched by support from friends on here, RL friends and also by the kindness of complete strangers on here. I feel a little stronger this evening and hope it lasts more than just a few hours. I was in an ok place yesterday, felt I was on the up a tad and then was crippled in the evening with intollerable hip pain that had me blubbing like a baby and very down in the dumps again.
 
Kate Sturgess said:
Just had a thought, V.

Your punctuation, grammar and spelling are very good, so how about doing some proof-reading from home?

I know there's usually an ad in the Big Issue for this and you could do it in your own time on the pooter to suit you as and when you felt up to it.

Will keep my thinking cap on... xx
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Thanks, that actually has been one of my other plans. I really enjoy reading and writing and would like to be able to find something I could do from home. I only last week was hatching a plan to try and get some proof reading work.
 
I just wanted to send you a hug too. I'm too far away to be of any practical help unless you ever need a weekend break in Brighton - dogs are welcome as well.

It's lovely to see the offers of help and support. I would also say that there are far worse options than to PTS and if you can't keep them then at least you would have peace of mind and know that they will not suffer. I PTS a 10year old a month ago, my first horse - it broke my heart but I believe that it was the kindest thing I could do for him.

Chin up and keep buggering on. Please feel free to PM anytime.
 
O ginger nutter I am so sorry to hear this:(:(:( - hugs and stuff (I have LOTS of ice cream available;):D:D:D:D). I am too far away to help with practical stuff but if you need some one to run ideas past re earning some cash PM me - in fact you can PM me anytime to whinge, moan etc etc Probelm solving is what I do best.:cool::D

Don't listen to Spudlet and her whizzing.............:rolleyes::rolleyes:;):D:D:D

Like I say anything I can do just shout!!:D
 
I made a bit of money with these www.aqa.63336.com when I was struggling once.
You can work from home, on computer, whatever hours you like. Probably struggle to beat minimum wage, but even that sounds a lot better than £67 week. Good luck with it all and best wishes.
 
Also, what's your area of work? There are so many people making their own web sites now, but their writing skills are dire! Could you find a way to market yourself to turn people's waffle about their company and abilities into punchy paragraphs for the www?

Maybe if you start by offering this in the area you are familiar with, you'll see what's possible in other markets and topics?

I appreciate this will take a while to research and set up, but if you could start with the proof reading....

And you probably know of them, but a brilliant way to set up a free, hosted blogging and website for yourself is www.wordpress.com

I am a COMPLETE IT numpty and have two running at once! :D
 
O V the other site worth looking at in case you don't already is www.moneysavingexpert.com it has lots of hints and tips on how to save money on things like mobiles, bills, credit cards, insurance etc etc :)

I am sure we can all make contributions to a money saving thread for you!! :D

I also have lots of bits and pieces like a spare microwave etc etc let me know if they can be of any use and I can arrange to get them to you some how if they would be useful for you.:)
 
Poor you.xxx

What area are you in? someone may have a spare field or something nearby. May give you some time...

If you did have the older two pts, could you perhaps get a live-in position as a groom? You can quite often take a horse and dogs....
 
Oh dear, you poor thing! I really feel for you, not sure if my sympathy is much help or a bit annoying but take it if you like ;). I hope you don't have to pts your oldies but if you do try to keep smiling. They won't be suffering and they don't think about things the same way as us.

Onto money making schemes! If you are any good as a photographer why not look into freelance equine photography stuff? Even if it's RC shows and stuff where "real" photographers don't go as there aren't enough people? All the posh sites are very bloomin expensive and it would be nice to buy lots of pics from a local show.... Or how about a lodger? Maybe one who also has a horse and you could share some of the duties as and when you feel up to it?

I have jaffa cakes and cups of tea for everyone but not much else I'm afraid as am dieting :(
 
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