help!! what would YOU do??

[katieibiza]

i have a horse who in himself i love dearly i got him from a bloke who rehomes horses who doesn't treat them very nice i gave him £600 for him as donation and got a scrappy bit of paper saying he is your for as long as you want him but for if any reason i cant keep him i must contact him to collect him i never signed any of this (hes not what you'd call a turstworthy rehomig centre).
anyway i have had him since january after having a break from horses since my old horse was put to sleep and i have tried so hard to ride and do stuff with him but i have NO enthusiasim with him to ride and he has just become a very expensive field ornament that i do nothing with and i dont have time but i love him dearly but basically i just want to give up horses all together its not just a bad day i have been thinking what to do for ages but keep putting it off, i just dont feel like i did with my old horse.
I dont want to send him back to the bloke i got him off i have tried to find a sharer but no luck i am so upset because i know the people i share my field with just wont understand me? what would you do in my situation?

please help me ????

 

[The Original Kao]

i would send him back

horses are expensive to keep and you should have 1 that's fun for you.

 

[jumpthemoon]

Did you buy him or was he on loan? I can't quite work out from your post? Did he ask you for the £600 or was that a figure that you came up with?

 

[Silverspring]

I would send him back or sell him on as soon as you can. Horse's are such an expensive hobby it's just not worth it if you can't get the pleasure out of them

 

[katieibiza]

it was from a bloke who rehomes horses locally to me and basically like you would pay any rehoming centre a donation amount but he isn't a registered charity or anything sorry it is a confusing story ?

 

[katieibiza]

i dont wether i legally can loan him out though?

 

[jumpthemoon]

It all sounds a bit dodgy to me, tbh. If you really don't want to send the horse back to the man you bought him off, give citizens advice or Trading Standards a call and see what they think about the situation. Find out your rights first and then make a decision based on that. I think the most important thing is to find out where you stand legally.

 

[Honeypots]

Surely if you've paid for him he is yours? If he is not an 'official' rehoming centre then I guess you owe him nothing.
Is there anything wrong with the horse? Can you not just sell him on?

 

[Sprout]

I presume the dealer is the registered owner on the passport, in which case you should send him back there, or at least find out if he DOES still want him back, or whether you would be able to loan/sell him yourself.

Hope you can find a happy solution.

 

[saskia295]

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It all sounds a bit dodgy to me, tbh. If you really don't want to send the horse back to the man you bought him off, give citizens advice or Trading Standards a call and see what they think about the situation. Find out your rights first and then make a decision based on that. I think the most important thing is to find out where you stand legally.

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I agree with this. If they say you're ok to rehome him, I would try to ensure he has a home for life, poor thing being passed from pillar to post

 

[hellspells]

This may or maynot be helpful but I'm pretty sure that there was a post yesterday from someone who was giving up a bad share and was looking for a new one in Suffolk - I maybe wrong though.

Hope you find a good solution for both of you x

 

[burtie]

Give him back and only deal with reputable, registered charities in future or buy one outright.

 

[katieibiza]

i will try and ring citizens advice i have got his passport not sure whos name is on it though and he is also freeze marked mind you when i got him the bloke said i will be coming to check on him regularly but havn't seen a thing of him so he cant be that bothered about him. i just dont know what to do because i love the horse but i know i am not giving him the attention he needs btw he is 17.2 pure trekhner gelding the one in my sig if anyone thinks they could help me with sharing or loaning local or idealy at the same yard?

 

[imyourstalker]

Im not sure what I would do, probably go with the legal side of things that people have said. By the looks of him you won't find it difficult to find a home for him, he is absolutely gorg!

 

[katieibiza]

no he is lovely just wish i had enthusasim with him to ride and do more is so hard when you love a animal but know finacialy they drain you and you cant give them the attention they need i am in such a state not knowing what to do and i cant get through to any of the citizens adivce in the area so frustrating

 

[carthorse]

I feel so sorry for this horse.I have looked back on your posts ,I don't know your situation but from the pictures it looks a very strange place to keep him and you are obviously over horsed. He is going to cost a lot of money to keep through the winter and I just hope he is going to find a good home. How old is he , what is his story ? If he was being rehomed then he has had a tough time already and you took him on. I know you care for him but I just wish people would think before they take on a rescue horse as they do need a permanent solution in life. I wish him the best of luck and hope someone is able to help you.
I don't mean to be harsh but he looks a beautiful chap who deserves a break in life. I know you are trying but it is going to cost you money to sort this all out.
Find out your legal position and contact a good rehoming centre for advice.

 

[katieibiza]

i dont keep him there any more where them pictures in my signature he is at a lovely new place with 10 acres of grass and indoor barn stables his back ground is good he was witha lovly lady up in yorkshire for years he is 15 years old good as gold with no behaviol problems i kept him through last winter no problem just got a morgage and have gone from paying £30 a month rent to £100 a month thats the stretch not feeding him he does not go with out also not overhorsed as i am nearly 6ft and 12 and half stone so had to have a big horse to accomadate me i dont know i dont want to rehome him just got no up and go to ride him and i think he needs riding every day but i only ride him couple of times a week

 

[Pilib]

I would advise that you contact the horse rescue fund in Toft monks, near Beccles. Ask to speak to Mo. If she can't help (which is unlikely) she will know someone who can.
There number is 01502 679191.

This is the link to their website. http://www.horserescuefund.org.uk/default.asp

Please give them a call. I am sure they can help.

X

 

[Fairynuff]

Im sorry but today isnt the best for me and I have no 'comforting' words to give you. You took this horse on, he is not a boyfriend, you cant just give up on him. Hard times are here and people are thinking twice about loaning etc. IMO, you will just have to continue paying for a very expensive lawn mower unless you decide to 'return to sender'.You cannot base him on the horse you had before him, that is soooo unfair on him and certainly not realistic. Rant over but you have made me angry. M.

 

[carthorse]

I am sorry if your situation has changed but you do need to sort this out and by being overhorsed I was not talking about your size but your ability as you have posted that you were scared to ride him
http://www.horseandhound.co.uk/forums/sh...rue#Post3011243
. I really want you to get help but first you must know if he is yours. He looks a lovely horse but when they get to 15 years old they need a home for life .

 

[xXShelleyBXx]

Why not try callinmg the ILPH?
They'll know what to do and seeing as you've not signed any papers, you're under no contract. All seems abit odd to me.

This is a really sad story, but its not your fault if you've just not got the 'urge' to ride anymore.

It does need sorting however and the sooner the better. I would be more than willing to take him on...although distance and circumstances won't allow it. I live in Norfolk.

Find out where you stand with this man. Call him to just clarify agreements etc.

If not i do advise calling the ILPH.

Let me know what happens please, he looks adorable! You can always PM me if you'd rather talk that way x

 

[Chestnuttymare]

i am a tad confused, this horse came from a re-homing centre but the lady that had him before was lovely, and he has no issues, so how did this poor boy find himself in this situation. i take it the man got him free if he 'sold' him to you for £600.
personally i think you should call the ilph. they will find a nice home for life which he certainly deserves. i also looked at your post in april and you said you had a great bond with him. something seems to have changed for you. can you put your finger on it? maybe it is something that can be sorted. did you have a scare on him?

 

[katieibiza]

i know its not a boyfriend yes i took him on and yes but my health money and lack of enthusasim i think i am doing the right thing by him and being sensible so he has the life he deserves!!!

 

[FestiveFuzz]

This does all seem a little odd, but you didn't ask opinions on the situation, but more advice on what you should do, so, first things first you need to establish who is the legal owner of your boy, can you contact the guy who rehomed him to you and establish what your arrangement is. If he is the legal owner then it looks like you will have to hand your boy back if you no longer wish to keep him, if however you are the legal owner, then you have to look at the options available to you.

He is a handsome looking lad so I am sure you will have no problem finding a loving, long term home for him, you just have to decide whether you want to sell him or loan him out. I know it's of no use to you, but if I had more time or you were closer to me I would happily take him on.

It is not up to me or anyone else to judge whatever personal circumstances have led you to make this decision, I just wish you luck in finding your boy a lovely new home

 

[AmyMay]

Seems like the best thing you can do for this horse is to contact a reputible charity - like the ILPH - and see if they will take him for you.

Doesn't really sound as if his situation may be much improved from the one you got him from really.....

Terribly sad.