help YO pregnant, do i move?

As others have said. Possiby find a sharer?
If you are happy with yo, other liveries and your boy being happy why change a good thing?
See what you can do about sharer, maybe the money saved on her riding can pay for a professional to ride him out temporarily?
I'd stay if possible though

Pan
 
Sorry read whole thread now. Yo - don't let this get in the way, she didn't identify you and was trying to keep a good friend but having concern for her horse. At least you have a livery that cares about both! Rather than letting it get between you, sit down together over a cuppa and decide what both of you will be happy with.

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CalllyH.....do you not think that everything she deals with in her life she deserves to have her weekends to spend with her horse! She pays to have him on full livery and spends 3 days a week with him, what an utterly insensitive comment you have made - twice!!:mad:

You can think yourself lucky that you have ALL the time in the world to spend with your horse....some don't but that doesn't mean their horse is any less cared for or loved, in fact shows how much the horse means to them in spending all that time and money on him in such hard times!

Some people need to get off their high horse ;)
 
muddygreymare said:
Firstly congratulations to your YO :)

Secondly, could you get a rider/sharer in a couple of days a week that could help you exercise him? Then you wouldn't have to move yards. If not, then yes I'd consider moving yards as it sounds like he needs the work so would be best suited elsewhere if there was someone on the new yard that could exercise him for you.
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I can't imagine the OP will be flooded with offers from people who are happy to only ride (at trot) for 30 minutes on alternate days!
 
Cally H - the wheel always does a full circle and some day soon we all might have the chance to put the boot in with you when things aren't going your way

Gempeg - I don't think there was any need for your posts - if you look at the thread calmly and rationally you will see the only person that has identified you or your yard is yourself - the OP DID NOT portray you in a negative light at all. I think you also should remember that not only are you being rude to a fee paying customer but also to a 17yr old girl, whom I am sure you are completely aware of her circumstances - I hope your post can be put down to hormones and that you will offer an apology to the OP if not on here in person.

OP - you have one hell of a lot on your plate, and quite rightly you should be allowed some down time and if by having your horse is how you get this then don't let anyone tell you you should not have him.

Personally I think you should move your horse - permanently. I think you need to investigate finding a yard nearer to where you spend the most time so you can cut down on the travelling and so that your horse is cared for exactly how YOU wish him to be cared for and not how you are told he will be cared for.

Another reason would be so that you are not under so much pressure - if you are 17 now are you taking your A levels in the summer? If this is the case you really need to have a more settled life with nothing to worry about other than your exams.

I don't live in the UK otherwise I would try and help you - is there anyone on here that could help this kid out for a few months so that she doesn't have the horse to worry about as well as everything else??
 
Thanks again everyone who has offered, I am doing my a-levels at the moment yes but as i said for the moment i am managing (apart from this ****** up) can't move him closer to london as it gets harder to get there and more expensive. I just want to make it clear that the yard I am at currently operates at a higher standard than any I have seen before. The quality of care is exceptional and it is a real community.
 
I have to say Maddie that I think you have behaved with far more aplomb than many a 17 year old, and I wish you all the best with everything that life is throwing at you at the moment. I hope things have settled down a bit with your YO and I'm sure you didn't need any more grief on top of everything else. Good luck x
 
Maddie2412 said:
My amazing YO (and good friend now) just told me shes pregnant (no one knows she just told me as im on full livery) and said she was sorry but wouldnt be riding my boy anymore as couldnt risk it. I completely understand as he can be unpredictable.
However: he is recovering from suspensory damage and must do 30 mins ridden trot work on alternate days, she said it is fine she can just long line instead but i dont think this is optimum as he hates being over schooled and becomes very nappy and naughty. No one else has time or will ride and I wander if it is awful to consider moving him.

I also cant drive and my livery is on my road and good value, moving would mean somewhere more expenive (if only a small amount, not a big deal though) but also mean i would be reliant on my parents giving me lifts (im 17 and learning to drive). what do you think? massive moral dilemma!?!??!?!?
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As far as long-reining/lungeing instead of riding as per vet's instructions to ride in trot, you first of all need to consult the vet on this one. However, I don't understand your comment about being over-schooled. 30 minutes long reining every other day is hardly over-schooling especially as she may well split it into 15 minute sessions.

If everything else is OK then I'd stay put. Good yards with responsible people running them are like hens' teeth and you need to think very carefully about moving especially as it is so convenient.

But this isn't entirely the issue here, is it? If you can't affiord the time to do 30 minutes work 3 or 4 times a week with your horse when he's on full livery, why have you got a horse in the first place? There are people on this forum who manage a full-time job, shop, cook, look after the home and their children and often fit in elderly relatives as well and who somehow manage to find the time for looking after their own horse and riding as well.
 
Ellen Durow said:
If you can't affiord the time to do 30 minutes work 3 or 4 times a week with your horse when he's on full livery, why have you got a horse in the first place? There are people on this forum who manage a full-time job, shop, cook, look after the home and their children and often fit in elderly relatives as well and who somehow manage to find the time for looking after their own horse and riding as well.
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*sigh* ...and if you can't afford the time to actually read the thread......:rolleyes:

Good luck OP. Hope you get this resolved. You have a lot of support here.
 
Ellen Durow said:
As far as long-reining/lungeing instead of riding as per vet's instructions to ride in trot, you first of all need to consult the vet on this one. However, I don't understand your comment about being over-schooled. 30 minutes long reining every other day is hardly over-schooling especially as she may well split it into 15 minute sessions.

If everything else is OK then I'd stay put. Good yards with responsible people running them are like hens' teeth and you need to think very carefully about moving especially as it is so convenient.

But this isn't entirely the issue here, is it? If you can't affiord the time to do 30 minutes work 3 or 4 times a week with your horse when he's on full livery, why have you got a horse in the first place? There are people on this forum who manage a full-time job, shop, cook, look after the home and their children and often fit in elderly relatives as well and who somehow manage to find the time for looking after their own horse and riding as well.
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Obviously you haven't got the time to read her posts..
Get over yourself please.
I have a horse, job, 3 children, a husband who works 7am - 8pm in London and NO family. I have no time to ride my lad much (maybe once a week) - but when I do ride the pleasure I get is worth all the 5.30am wake ups. My lad has had 3 months off as I have no time to ride.
The OP gets pleasure from her horse and even if that was once a YEAR she still deserves that.
 
Always Henesy said:
Obviously you haven't got the time to read her posts..
Get over yourself please.
I have a horse, job, 3 children, a husband who works 7am - 8pm in London and NO family. I have no time to ride my lad much (maybe once a week) - but when I do ride the pleasure I get is worth all the 5.30am wake ups. My lad has had 3 months off as I have no time to ride.
The OP gets pleasure from her horse and even if that was once a YEAR she still deserves that.
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^^^^ THIS ^^^^

I would actually just like to give the OP a bl***y great hug. She's seventeen years old with responsibilities and pressures that would cause most of us sleepless nights, if we didn't crumble first. I cannot believe that society is leaving a child of such tender years to 'get on with it' :(
 
That is exactly why people pay a fortune for full livery because due to work/life they haven't always got time to ride their horse.

Some weeks I can ride every day, others weeks only once, so I am on full livery so that my horse has a regular routine including exercise.

Does this mean I should not have him?
 
poor kid with all that to deal with, but she shouldnt of put private stuff on here. saying sorry doesn't take away damage done if other people see it when they werent ment to know.
 
JJW said:
poor kid with all that to deal with, but she shouldnt of put private stuff on here. saying sorry doesn't take away damage done if other people see it when they werent ment to know.
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She didn't identify the YO or yard in ANY of her posts! The only person that identified the YO was the YO herself and why shouldn't she post asking for advice on something that is going on in HER life. It not all about you YO. OP was clearly geninely worried about the welfare of her horse.
 
If other people aren't meant to know, you don't tell anyone. Does that principle escape people nowerdays? And you certainly accept, as an adult, that if you tell a child, they might tell someone.
Not that the OP has told anyone, she's just painted a picture in broad strokes and someone else has taken it upon themselves to snitch, which is really very kind of them :rolleyes:
I feel very sorry for her, seems she has a whole load of weight on her shoulders, only made worse by this now :(
 
BoolavogueDC said:
If other people aren't meant to know, you don't tell anyone. Does that principle escape people nowerdays? And you certainly accept, as an adult, that if you tell a child, they might tell someone.
Not that the OP has told anyone, she's just painted a picture in broad strokes and someone else has taken it upon themselves to snitch, which is really very kind of them :rolleyes:
I feel very sorry for her, seems she has a whole load of weight on her shoulders, only made worse by this now :(
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JJW said:
poor kid with all that to deal with, but she shouldnt of put private stuff on here. saying sorry doesn't take away damage done if other people see it when they werent ment to know.
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But she didn't. She asked for advice in a general way about something that was clearly worrying her - along with all the other stuff she's currently dealing with. She also said a lot of nice, positive things about her YO, nothing derogatory at all.

It was the YO who came on here, identified herself, and NAMED a minor on an enormous internet forum.
 
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