Henry's lame and cr@p from friends *rant*

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I was so smug after Tuesdays vet visit when I was praised for how well he's doing. The vet said not only is there marked improvement in his weight, but also his coat looks better, he's happy, relaxed and his confidence is really growing. Naturally my head was HUGE by this point!

So.....this morning he seems fine, this evening he's hopping lame! I brought him in, checked him over, no sign of injury, no heat whatsoever....I'm thinking an abscess, I know I've been out of the loop for a few years but I can vividly remember my old mare being seemingly fine, then hopping lame in next to no time, and that was an abscess.

Rang the vet, explained everything, and bless him he's coming out first thing in the morning, on his way to work. I've poulticed him, under the vets instruction, and shall have to see. I also phoned the farrier (see-I'm a panicker!) just to see if he'd be available tomorrow if I needed him, and he said if I needed him he'd be here. Someone said to me if it's an abscess to just get the farrier, but firstly I'm not 100% sure, and secondly he may need antibiotics or something? I can remember when my old lady had hers she was on Bute (which I have none of) and I had to peroxide her hoof once a day, using a syringe the vet supplied to get into the hole he parred(sp) then squirt this cream in a tiny tube with a tiny nozzle used for cows udders, then animalintex, vetwrap, plastic and duct tape. Not quite sure what the practise is these days, but those were the vets instructions to a tee then....

A so called 'friend' has been calling me behind my back over Henry...apparantly I call the vet "way too much" and I "Must be so inexperienced to rely so heavily on him...."

Yes, I've never denied that I have no experience whatsoever when it comes to an emaciated TB....However I'm feeding him on the advice of a nutritionist, yes, I rely havily on my vet, at the moment, and for the past 5/6 weeks he's visited weekly, the first week three times, firstly to check him over when I first bought him, secondly as he colicked the third day I had him and again to take bloods as I wanted to rule out illness/disease for his weight (or lack of).... But as I told her before, everything being done is in Henry's best interests. I'd rather continue the weekly vet checks for a few more weeks and be sure I'm doing everything I possibly can for him than muddle on alone and possibly make matters worse or delay improvement. I don't see what her problem is, it's not as though the services, such as the vet, cost HER money....

She also berated me for buying him new rugs etc, apparantly "second hand ones would have done..." Why?? Because he's a £100 horse? Or because he's nothing 'special'? He's very spcial to me and means an awful lot....apparantly he was a waste of money and "is going to end up costing me more than he's worth".....Again...SO?? It's my money....my savings....Yes, I did go a little crazy, maybe he didn't need all of the rugs I bought him, nor the likkit he doesn't touch, and all the little bits and bobs, maybe he doesn't know the difference between a new and a second hand rug, maybe he doesn't care if his equipment's colour coordinated....But though I've always made ends meet with my horses, without scrimping on their care, I've never been in the position to be able to do this before, and I thought he deserved to be spoilt a little after his rough time....even if he doesn't realise it!

I'm sorry, that probably didn't even make sense, I'm just really worried about his lameness, and have been sat here winding myself up going over her comments, and need to get it off my chest.....

Fingers crossed it's a simple problem easily fixed (the foot not the friend
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Rant away PWH. Your horse sounds like a lucky boy and maybe someone is just a wee bit jealous????!!! You do what YOU want to with your horse and enjoy him!!! Don't take any notice of your 'friends'. Good on ya for giving him the best possible care.
 
Your probably far too nice to tell your friend to bog off and mind her own business, but honestly you don't need negative people like that around you. Rise above her snide comments and treat her with the contempt she deserves...I mean..some friend huh?

It's still early days with Henry, you are bound to be concerned about his progress and wanting to do everything right by him, and you are, your doing a brilliant job and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.!!!
 
Don't listen to them, load of b*****s. If you're in the Midlands, I'll come and knock their blocks off for you
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There's nothing wrong with caring and asking advise, better than do what you think and it be wrong.
 
I hope that Henry's lameness is nothing serious and that he soon improves. As for your "friend", what an interfering busybody! I used to get a lot of negative comments about the rugs etc I bought for my first horse but, as you have worked out, if you can afford it and it brings you pleasure what business is it of anyone else?
 
Sounds like Henry fell in the poo and came out smelling of roses!

People are strange creatures!, I wouldn't want one as a pet. Maybe there is a bit of jealousy behind all this, my horse gets the best of everything and I do find other people, possibly not in the same position as me get resentful. However Star is my world and it sounds like Henry is yours. It sounds to me that you are doing a fantastic job with Henry, and, I am sure your vet discusses with you before coming out? He doesn't want to waste his time coming out if it's unecessary.

As for relying heavily on your vet because you are inexperienced, what a load of rot! He is a medical professional, Henry is an unwell horse at present, why take any risks? I would just smile sweetly and carry on with what you are doing!

Regarding the "experience" matter, all I can suggest is to read and read. Ideas regarding horse husbandry change all the time and you never stop learning.

Until Henry is back to full health and weight you are going to need to be very pro active, good luck and keep us posted!

Jo x
 
What a stupid tart your friend is, tell her to F off and mind her own business!!
Sounds like your doing the right thing with a horse you adore, always better to be on the safe side in my opinion.
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tell her to stick it my horse is a £100 horse tb as well and all of his rugs and tack was new i can not stand people like that!! I am sure he is fine my horse scratched his leg i gave him bute and called the vet so I am the same as you take no notice good luck!!
 
You are doing the right thing...... if you don't know what the problem is you cannot treat it so call out the vet. You'll be told exactly what the problem is & the correct treatment will be administered, job done! As for second hand rugs, yes they would do him but you wanted to buy some new ones so you did. There's nothing wrong in treating your horse & a bit of retail therapy probably did you some good as well.

You are doing the right thing, don't let that 'friend' get you down..... as your knowledge & confidence grows you will probably get to know when you need the vet & when you can treat adequalely yourself. Good Luck, you're doing well!
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I see! Of course your horse is cr@p because he was cheap! How silly of you! How could you spend your money on your horse! Maybe you should be spending it on her horse?! (please note hint of sarcasm!)

What a mean old cow! I agree with all the above, someone is very jelly. It doesn't matter whether is a 1K horse or a 10K horse, you have the right to spend whatever you want on him. What a lucky boy to have a mum that cares & loves him so much!

Having just got my own 1st horse, I panic alot as K is always coming in with cuts, grazes and the odd bite or 2 but I always do my best and if it means calling the vet out, so be it! Def keep going as you are and ignore her.
 
As you said it's your money you can do what you want with it! Also, why would you want second hand rugs anyway? I have never bought a second hand rug. We have been given rugs on occasions (years ago) when ours were stolen but there were the old wax ones. Theres so many better ones and tonnes of companies now it's not like you have to spend thousands is it!

I wouldn't buy and wear second hand clothes/shoes so I buy new for my horse! hee hee. I would buy 2nd hand saddles though cos I am far too poor to buy (as much as I'd like to) these fancy new saddles!

Bet henry turns out to be a star too - ooh I can just see it now! ha ha
 
Don't listen to your 'friend', it sounds like the green eyed monster & she also sounds like one of these people who would pick at whatever you did. For example if you didn't call the vet out to see to Henry when he needed it you would get a comment along the lines of 'ooh you don't bother to get the vet out when henry needs one, how bad'. I've come across people like this, next time she makes a comment about his rugs/accessories just smile & simply say your horse deserves the best
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Sounds like you're doing a great job & you are both very lucky to have eachother
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If I had the money I would have the vet out to mine weekly just to make sure they are ok and there ar no issues I am missing, even after the years I have had them. You are doing the best for your boy and his monetary value doesnt come into it. I reckon she is jealous too, I suppose we would all be a little envious if we saw someone giving their horse what we cant afford on a daily basis. Good on you, and he will know and appreciate that he is loved even if he doesnt appreciate the actual money you are spending.
 
Hope he's better soon, Im sure you're ''friend'' would be moaning if you hadn't got the vet out! He sounds like he couldn't of got a better owner, bugger what other people say,

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To PWH - as others have said, sound like the green eyed monster to me and just tell your friend to bog off!! (nicely or not up to you).

As for calling the vet for a unknown lameness, even if an abcess is suspected, you absolutely did the right thing. My mare had abcess type symptoms in November, I rang the guy that does her feet and he told me straight away to call my vet first - turns out he was right, she actually had tendon/ligament damage and has been off work since then! (not saying that is what is wrong with Henry, just highlights the need to call the vet in the first instance if any doubt as to what it is).

Technically a farrier shouldn't do any invasive digging for an abcess - I know they are usually the best people to do it, but.......as a reply to your friend, its a pretty sound one!!

End of the day, your money, your horse - you sound like you are doing a brilliant job for him.
 
Thanks everyone.

Ooooooh she does make me cross though! It's not as though I'm made of money as she makes out....The money I class as 'savings' is actually my old veterans. Obviously she couldn't be insured so the money I'd pay out monthly for the insurance went via D.D from my bank account to a seperate account, solely for vets bills. She never needed one, she was healthy right up to the end, and accumulated a nice little lump sum. I've never been able to bring myself to touch it before now, so it just sat there....then I saw Henry.

This woman has used me, and I'm actually quite cross that I'm only just really noticing it. I've lent her money on several occasions, I even paid for her horse to be shod last time the farrier came....She called me up sobbing she had no money to feed her kids, so I went round there with a basket of food out of my own cupboards, sat her down, made her a cuppa then cooked us all lunch and cleaned up her kitchen, then ran a hoover round the lounge. Left her £20 and took her 2 kids back to mine to give her a break. Bumped into her later that afternoon and she's spending the money on a 70cl bottle of vodka and 40 cigs.....

She was off with me for days because the next time she reckoned she was broke and had no dog food, horse food, nothing to feed the kids etc I scooped her a carrier bag of dog food out of my sack, some frozen chips, a lasagna, a loaf of bread, couple of pints of milk etc from my cupboards etc and a voucher I was given by the feed place.

I'm no angel, I smoke, I enjoy the odd glass of wine etc, but if it came down to either feeding Poppy (my daughter) or a packet of fags I'm afraid the cigs wouldn't come into it.

She led me to believe she was 'helping' me get back into the swing of things, when in reality I did her horses all winter, without so much of a thankyou, and then she turned round and had a go at me when I told her I couldn't do a certain saturday morning as it was Poppy's 1st birthday, she ranted on about horses being a full time commitment....when in reality, up until March, I bet she'd seen her horses maybe twice a week on a good week, since last October! It's not as though it was due to time issues either, as she has 2 older children who are in school and doesn't work, I have an 18 month old daughter and work 16-20 hours depending on shifts.

I shall hush now, as I'm getting as bad as her, bitching behind backs, but thankyou all for your kind comments re; Henry.
 
Nice friend not!!! Please don't get taken in by the "poor me" routine, particularly lending people money - been there, got the tee shirt, got s**t on big time!!!
 
What a nice person you are, this woman doesn't know how lucky she is. But then quite often users don't.

You're doing a fab job with Henry, what a lucky boy finding you to care for him. Sounds absolutely like jealousy to me, try not to take any notice even though it's difficult. I bet she'll be as nice as anything when she wants something again.

I hope Henry's OK and his lameness is sorted quickly
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All I can say is what a stupid c@w you'friend' is ignore her and get on with being happy with henry, (when he comes sound!) Good luck! Whats his story? How did you come about getting him?
 
Ditto everything above. She is no friend, she is a sad person who uses others.

I think you are doing a wondeful thing with Henry and he is a very lucky boy. None of us should be ashamed of relying on people with superior knowledge.
 
If I was a £100 TB with a sore foot and the need for a new winter ensemble, I'd be thanking my lucky stars I was owned by you and not your friend! Friend or not, her attitude sounds deeply unpleasant. FWIW, I think you have done exactly the right thing with regard to his lameness, and hope you get it treated successfully.
 
firstly' someone who says things behind your back is not to be called a 'friend' , a friend would be happy for you, and your horse and support you, in whatever you decided to do, even if she may do things differently herself mayb!

secondly' seems to me the things shes saying are down to the green eye monster and i would feel sorry for her, she obv has issues!!

thirdly' no matter what the horse costs he deserves the same care!! think your doing a great job, keep it up, and make sure she knows about all the new things you buy your boy and how wonderful he is!!!!!!!
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