Hiding your pregnancy

Ah, that to me changes things. Assuming all is well you won't b riding for 10 months, I think you should privately tell the owner of your share horse so she can make other arrangements.
 
Llanali said:
Ah, that to me changes things. Assuming all is well you won't b riding for 10 months, I think you should privately tell the owner of your share horse so she can make other arrangements.
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Agree with this. It sounds like a 'needs must' situation.
I did a combination of 'the weather is crap/really busy time at work/been a busy summer for pony so giving him a break/being vague about when I last rode'
 
Llanali said:
Ah, that to me changes things. Assuming all is well you won't b riding for 10 months, I think you should privately tell the owner of your share horse so she can make other arrangements.
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This is what my sharer did. She told me when she was about 6 weeks pregnant, and that she didn’t want to ride whilst pregnant, and didn’t want to mislead me. She asked me to tell other people at the yard that she had a bad back and was stopping riding for a bit. Once was 12 weeks and public knowledge, no one minded the deception. I was glad she was honest with me, and I was able to find another sharer. (I also kept the door open for her as she was lovely, but she’s working full time with a high travel job, and a baby and rarely time to ride).

I think convention is normally to tell very few people until are 12 weeks pregnant as a high number of early pregnancies fail.

If you tell your share owner – you are stopping indefinitely / long term due to injury, then don’t think you need to tell her the real reason. But if there is any chance she’ll hang on for you to recover from your “injury” you should tell her why or give her a real timescale. Is only fair, IMO.
 
Llanali said:
Ah, that to me changes things. Assuming all is well you won't b riding for 10 months, I think you should privately tell the owner of your share horse so she can make other arrangements.
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I agree with this. I think it is only fair to tell her so she can make other arrangements. I've got a sharer and I would be quite cross if they strung me along knowing that they would be out of action for months (if not permanently).

I've had multiple mcs so I do understand why you wouldn't want to tell everyone though. Having gone through it alone (with only oh for support) each time I'm debating doing things differently if I ever have another pregnancy as having a more supportive network of people might be nice. It may also curtail the 'when are you going to reproduce' comments, but that is another story!

Congratulations and enjoy your pregnancy :)
 
I would agree with the above. Tell her but ask her to keep it quiet - shes going to realise youve lied when you announce it anyway.
I had to tell work, etc at 6 weeks because I ended up in hospital. I really didnt want to, having had a miscarriage three months earlier, but I couldnt see a way out of telling them. And I stopped riding straight away, why risk it? Its only a few months out of a lifetime. But sitting here typing this, I can feel him moving and its all worth it...congratulations anyway!
 
My horse was already having time off for his bad back, so I just told people he had a bad back and I was giving him the winter off.
I did, however, tell his owner immediately (I have him on full loan) as I needed to let her know that her horse wasn't going to be in work for nine months.
To be honest I'm more worried about people seeing me riding now they all know I'm pregnant - I'm not going to ride my boy as he bucks, but my mum's is pretty ploddy on the roads and I don't think I'm going to last not riding until July (due in June). I'm more worried about being judged for being on board!
 
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