Hopefully some good to come out of so much sadness

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Today, I visited the WHW at Hall Farm, and gave them 10 clean rugs, grooming kit, feed bowls and a few other bits and pieces, all collected during 20 wonderful years of owning my horse. It's amazing what you accumulate over time. I only hope that some horses, less fortunate than mine was, will be helped by her things. Losing her 3 weeks ago still hurts so much, I keep crying, I miss her so. I know I did the right thing by her, but to be honest, that isn't easing my pain right now. This is my first (and last) experience of having a horse pts.

Thankfully, the centre wasn't officially open today,so no chance to look around. I just couldn't face having another horse, even though I know there are so many needing homes right now.

Now everything has gone, and it all feels so empty. I did keep some of her lovely tail so I can have a keepsake made. I'm normally such an outgoing person, and I've completely withdrawn into myself. I don't want company. I don't feel capable of making conversation...
 
I am so sorry for your loss, do not feel bad to cry let it out, try to remember the good times and know she is no longer in pain.

Giving her stuff to others less fortunate is such a wonderful thing to do, i think i will also do this when the time comes. I am sure others will come on and give you the support you need right now and tell you how you can help your grief. Big hugs to you xx
 
I havent had the experience of this yet and to be honest I don't know how I would cope :(

I think you have done a marvelous thing giving your belongings to WHW, that must have been very hard. I am so, so sorry for your loss and hope in time that your grieving & pain will turn to lovely happy memories that you had together. I know it's easy for me to say but please take care of yourself x x
 
You have done a really nice thing letting other horses get the benefit of nice cosy rugs which Im sure they will appreciate. I cant imagine what you are going through...I know at some point I will have my heart ripped out and just the thought of it makes my stomach churn. It must have been very difficult getting everything together. Nothing will make you suddenly feel better but time will give you comfort and one day you will be able to look back and think of your horsey with a smile...horses are amazingly good at causing us immense worry and joy. If you want to be miserable then thats fine...it is called grieving but try and speak to someone who will understand how you are feeling
 
Bless you. Im in exactly the same boat, not only mourning the loss of a super horse but also saying goodbye to my riding and horseowning days :(

I always said I wouldnt get another as I never want to feel this pain ever again.

I gave all his things to my yard owner as she has a few horses so atleast they will be used. Life is strange without my yard friends and the routine I was so used too. Seeing that empty stable will always be something I will rememeber, I was so used to seeing a grumpy head pop out to see if you had brought anything for him.

Sorry for your loss, the feeling is terrible. I still have days where i'm upset and have to take myself off for a few minutes at work to have a cry. Good on you for your good deed xx
 
You poor thing, you are not alone. I lost my horse of 20 years, 8 weeks ago and nearly burst into tears when I read this myself!

I have kept a lot of his things and i too have plats from his mane and tail. I spent the weekend after he died making a collage of our 20 years together. Following that I lost interest in all my other hobbies for a bit and felt as though I had no purpose in life.

Cry lots, remember she is still there and always will be, u just can't see her any more. U will find the right way of coping with it for you, but for me, I couldn't live without him so did the next best thing and got another last weekend.

I still cry for my old boy now, but it does get easier, it will always hurt, but u learn to cope with the pain x
 
Oh god i feel so sorry for you really ! :(

Cry like others have said i havnt lost a horse ever but our dog and honestly speaking about it made it better getting it off your chest. I dont know how i will make it through each day when its time for my mare to go :(
 
You can spend 20 years trying to prepare yourself for the dreadful day but it doesn't make it even the slightest bit easier when it arrives. My eyes were like pee holes in the snow for about 3 days, and I went back to work looking like it! I found talking about him really helped, bored the pants off all my work colleagues with it!
 
What a kind (and brave) thing to do. The mere thought of losing my boy one day literally makes me cry so god knows how I will cope when it actually happens. I'm so sorry for your loss. You will have helped so many unfortunate horses by donating your gear, so well done you for having the strength to do that. (((Hugs)))
 
I also think this was incredibly thoughtful of you at such a hard time. I've lost a horse, but not had one pts, but I've struggled since my cat was pts at the end of August, so completely understand what you mean about becoming withdrawn. Take it easy on yourself. Xx
 
Time is the only healer, and it will take you time to recover.

You sound such a nice person that |I hope you WILL at some point ride again - even if it's not yours! I bet that's what your horse would want for you.

Horses do so much for us, and it's often their passing that makes us realise that. I'm an antique rider so have been through this several times. It NEVER gets any easier, but none of my former horses is forgotten - I can only remember their good points!!! They are all Olympic stars in my eyes now, as yours will be.

Bless you and remember you have nlots of people on here, and doubtless in your own life, who will be so sympathetic - we all know what you are going through.
 
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