Horse owner takes own life, after her beloved horse is PTS

I once heard a lady say the best thing in her life was her dog, and heard said that for a lot of people their horse is the best thing in their life, they are not just animals but have mysterious qualities that take hold of our hearts, sometimes they understand us better than people, who I find in general have long way to go where simple kindness to others and understanding or empathy is needed, and are sometimes just plain thick.
not saying anything about this dear lady`s tragic end except god bless, but to bury your head in your horse`s mane with your arms around its neck is the best place for me when I feel misunderstood or need a good place to be.
 
Terribly sad indeed.

I've been lucky enough to have my lad for 8 years during which time he has seen me through loss of business/home/relationship (in a one-er!), job loss and parental illness. I finally found my soulmate 5 years ago, aged 34 - the timing was all wrong but we were very close and supportive of one another despite obstacles. I thought I'd found a human to see the mutual hard times through with, someone who'd be around for life. And then I lost him in July to pancreatic cancer.

Mum and Dad are as supportive as they can be since they are not on the doorstep. I've one or two friends in particular who are great, but they have their own lives and families to get on with and, only 4 months down the line I often feel like it's all been forgotten.

Through it all pony is still there every day, chuntering away and blowing bubbles in anticipation of a juicy apple or a ripe banana! He's on DIY - this gives me purpose on non-work days and he is sometimes the only reason I get out of bed. I do sometimes wonder what on earth I'd do without him. So it's not such a hard thing for me to imagine how this lass must have felt.

I reckon I'm of sound mind and I certainly have had days when I don't want to carry on - but more in the sense of, for example, having a near miss in the car and thinking "oh well, what will be will be" rather than an active wish to end it all. But if some other loss were to happen in the near future, who knows what might happen in a moment of intense grief? RIP to them both and heartfelt condolences to family and friends left behind.
 
RoughcutDiamond said:
Terribly sad indeed.

I've been lucky enough to have my lad for 8 years during which time he has seen me through loss of business/home/relationship (in a one-er!), job loss and parental illness. I finally found my soulmate 5 years ago, aged 34 - the timing was all wrong but we were very close and supportive of one another despite obstacles. I thought I'd found a human to see the mutual hard times through with, someone who'd be around for life. And then I lost him in July to pancreatic cancer.

Mum and Dad are as supportive as they can be since they are not on the doorstep. I've one or two friends in particular who are great, but they have their own lives and families to get on with and, only 4 months down the line I often feel like it's all been forgotten.

Through it all pony is still there every day, chuntering away and blowing bubbles in anticipation of a juicy apple or a ripe banana! He's on DIY - this gives me purpose on non-work days and he is sometimes the only reason I get out of bed. I do sometimes wonder what on earth I'd do without him. So it's not such a hard thing for me to imagine how this lass must have felt.

I reckon I'm of sound mind and I certainly have had days when I don't want to carry on - but more in the sense of, for example, having a near miss in the car and thinking "oh well, what will be will be" rather than an active wish to end it all. But if some other loss were to happen in the near future, who knows what might happen in a moment of intense grief? RIP to them both and heartfelt condolences to family and friends left behind.
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Sorry to hear about your problems.Hang on in there.Things will get better.
 
RoughcutDiamond said:
Terribly sad indeed.

I've been lucky enough to have my lad for 8 years during which time he has seen me through loss of business/home/relationship (in a one-er!), job loss and parental illness. I finally found my soulmate 5 years ago, aged 34 - the timing was all wrong but we were very close and supportive of one another despite obstacles. I thought I'd found a human to see the mutual hard times through with, someone who'd be around for life. And then I lost him in July to pancreatic cancer.

Mum and Dad are as supportive as they can be since they are not on the doorstep. I've one or two friends in particular who are great, but they have their own lives and families to get on with and, only 4 months down the line I often feel like it's all been forgotten.

Through it all pony is still there every day, chuntering away and blowing bubbles in anticipation of a juicy apple or a ripe banana! He's on DIY - this gives me purpose on non-work days and he is sometimes the only reason I get out of bed. I do sometimes wonder what on earth I'd do without him. So it's not such a hard thing for me to imagine how this lass must have felt.

I reckon I'm of sound mind and I certainly have had days when I don't want to carry on - but more in the sense of, for example, having a near miss in the car and thinking "oh well, what will be will be" rather than an active wish to end it all. But if some other loss were to happen in the near future, who knows what might happen in a moment of intense grief? RIP to them both and heartfelt condolences to family and friends left behind.
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Hi, sorry to hear your story, my heart goes out to you. One of my best friends lost her husband last January, aged just 30, to cancer. It was dreadful, they had been together since 16, had 2 children and one on the way, but nearly a year on and with regular counselling she now has a more positive outlook on life and is looking to the future and the possibilities it will bring. Not meaning to preach or pry, but I was wondering if you had considered or been to counselling, as I felt it really did help my friend during a very dark time and maybe could help you too. Hugs xx
 
Thank you tristar, eahotson and roz84. Sorry it has taken me so long to say so - been incredibly tough over Christmas and turn of the year, came on to reply and then unable to on several occasions.

Roz84, you certainly weren't preaching or prying - I had been considering counselling so it's good to hear of a positive story from such terribly sad circumstances for your friend. I'm now actively organising something after losing the plot at work last week and realising I am far too close to breaking point. Fingers crossed it will help. xx
 
RoughcutDiamond said:
Thank you tristar, eahotson and roz84. Sorry it has taken me so long to say so - been incredibly tough over Christmas and turn of the year, came on to reply and then unable to on several occasions.

Roz84, you certainly weren't preaching or prying - I had been considering counselling so it's good to hear of a positive story from such terribly sad circumstances for your friend. I'm now actively organising something after losing the plot at work last week and realising I am far too close to breaking point. Fingers crossed it will help. xx
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Roughcutdiamond you have had a truly horrendous time of it. It is no wonder you feel close to the edge of the precipice at times. Please do seek counselling etc and maybe think about talking to you gp about medication to help make the hard days a little easier if you haven't already done so. Wishing you every strength and hoping you find calm and happiness soon.
 
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