Horse ownership can be lonely for a single gal

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Anyone want to cheer me up?

After a longish break I got back into riding about 3 years ago and seem to have been perpetually single ever since!!

I have my boy on DIY, which means 0600am start.. then go to work all day, followed by 2 hours of horsey time in evening. Not so bad in the summer when he lives out.

Have had to cut back on socialising a bit to pay the bills... especially on those months when you get an unexpected vets bill :-) Which does make it harder to meet new people.

I have lots of lovely horsey friends now.. but men don't seem to get it.. after dating for a while it always starts creeping in.. no one wants to be saddled with a long term girlfriend who is always pretty much broke!

Which is a shame, because I don't feel like the horse rules my life, I have lots more to offer! I would be happy to have a guy with his own passions and interests.

Thoughts?
 
Your horse is obvioulsy nicer than any of the men you have met!!

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I know how you feel, I was the same as you but Ive come to realise that me and the horse come as a package- if a guy doesnt like it then thats tough! I think you need to find a guy who is laid back and has his own interests and/or someone who dont mind coming down and help you with your horse. There are pletny of outdoorsy types who dont mind helping out, even if they arent keen on the riding
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Agree with you both!

My horse is nicer than most men :-)

Anyone with suggestions of where to meet nice outdoors types would be welcome !
 
I am very lucky as I have a horse and a man but it has taken me years to train him.

Better no man than the wrong man theres a few on here stuck with self-centred narrowminded unhelpful OH's that would be far far worse!!
 
I'm exactly the same as you!

Have had my horses for 3 years now and not met anyone or been on a date since!

Mind you only spare time I have is at the weekend and then I'm always having to catch up on cleaning, shopping etc.

Early mornings and late evenings don't go with trying to have a social life and as you say, no money doesn't help either.

I've just resigned myself to always being single now. At least that way you don't have to try and keep someone else happy and give up your horsey time!!
 

Oh well at least its not just me! Thanks.

Any vets/ farriers or land owners out there looking for a nice young girlfriend? HA HAHAHAHA
 
Well in terms of meeting nice outdoorsy men I was spectating at Aldon horse trials and spotted several very nice looking men
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If money is an issue, dont compete at events, just go and have a look and a man-hunt
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It's not just the fact that we are constantly skint.....

I don't think the stench of horse pee helps in our quest for romance
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lol! My OH stinks of diesel and oil (mechanic). He still thinks he shouldn't hug me when he's a 'dirty oik', but I remind him it's not me who should be worried. He's ideal for me, as he's got his own time-consuming hobbies and our 'perfumes' complement each other, nicely.
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I'm the same...I've currently got 6 ponies, 3 my own and 3 my friends... I still manage to go to the pub twice a week, but always get the reaction of Not another horsey girl... I've dated one of them before! DO men not realise we're not all the same???
 
Men are rubbish, lol . I asked a male friend for a lift up to the yard today, he said yes, no problem, then I couldn't get hold of him! I can't drive because of medical reasons and theres no buses on a sunday. Try muddy matches dating site, theres plenty farmers on there
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Another singleton I'm afraid - I haven't met a bloke that is as tall, dark and handsome or has the glossy hair and rippling muscles as my gorgeous SP.
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There are single male riders about. In fact as 1, I would said there are a lack of single female horsey women about around here!

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You should move down here, nearly all of the horsey girls I know are single!!

Re. the OP. Muddymatches and lovehorse are crap, IMO! I am on both but from what I can see, they seem to consist purely of 50 something yr old bald men. I am on Plenty Of Fish, which is better though it's not a countryside / horsey only one. TBH, I wouldn't want to specifically get involved with a horsey guy, not only because he'd probably be a better rider than me
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Could you meet someone through your local riding club or something? Think someone with their own time consuming hobby, or another horsey person would be best otherwise I think people underestimate the time you spend down the yard, then eventually come to resent it.
I have come at this from the otherside! As a lapsed horsey girl, come city girl, I met my horse owning and loving other half, brought my own mare and now we get to spend loads of time together doing our girls! Our life now is very different to what mine was though! Plenty of saddle cloths and rugs to go through the wash, no lie ins, no saturday shopping trips to town (no cash!), variable at best feed times for us although our ladies eat on time every day, and very limited 'smart' evenings out! Wouldn't swap him and our new life for the world though!
 
I met my husband through riding.

In fact I've met a few nice single guys at the yard, although have only dated the one. Get out and about to some riding club shows or something and talk to everyone. Help out between classes or after you are finished and that will give you chance to meet a few more people. My DH was stewarding at one of our riding club shows around the time we met, he said it was a great excuse to talk to ALL the ladies.

Doing a bit of stewarding is good fun too and often has perks, at the least you'll get fed! You might learn a bit if you steward for a showing judge rather than just SJ. Or could you help the secretary with entried on the day and prize money etc?

Same with your hunt, there always seem to be a half decent selection of men at the hunt, either riding or foot following or helping out.
 
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