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BlackVelvet

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As title says,

This morning at 6am i lost my boy to colic, he started with it Thursday morning and he was taken to the vets so they could give him fluids. Vet first thought it was impacted colic but sadly he went downhill very quickly. He died of a heart attack before i could get there to say goodbye.

At the moment im at a complete loss, i spend everyday with him so now jst dont know what to do with my time. Im not getting another as i dont feel i could ever find another like him.

Does this get easier???
 
Oh bless you, you poor thing! I have to say that yes, it does get better but is still very painful when you look back. I know what you mean about not finding one as good as him. But that is just how you are feeling right now and that is not necessarily how you will feel in a few weeks or months time. So sorry for you.
 
so sorry to hear of your loss and I can fully understand how you feel. My mare is very special to me and has been a handful in the past yet is one in a million, i have told myself that when the time comes because she has been a handful and taught me so much i will hopefully buy a rescue as i want to give something back if that makes sense? x
 
I am so sorry for your loss. It does get easier and getting another one in the fullness of time helps with the feeling of utter emptiness.
It won't be the same love - just different - a bit like if you have more than one child. And its not being disloyal either. Allow yourself time to grieve and remember the good times. In time you will be able to smile at them.
hugs
 
want a horrible shock :( im so sorry.
I have no experience with horses in this situation but when my dog died who I had had for 14 years it was hard, the memories never go away but the pain does, eventually. It took about 3 years for me. It does get easier with time. I walked my dog 3 times a day every day for 14 years so when He died I found myself at a lose end- so I just went walking without a dog! at first I just used to cry but then I realized that he is still with me!!! They will always be with you, you gave your horse the best life possible and he will always remember and love you for that.

could you get a bracelet made out of his tail hair? or make a collage of all your favorite pictures of him. I hope things get easier for you soon x
 
Dont think its sunk in that hes gone yet :( cant face cleaning his stable or taking his things home.
Im so grateful that he was at the vets when it happened, atleast he wasnt alone and was in the best place. He has been through such alot over the past year that im glad it was quick.
The main reason im not getting another one is money, i have struggled to pay livery etc so thats my horsey days also over :(
 
Poor you. I found it a million times worse losing a horse suddenly so I know what you are going though. It took me a good 6 months before I stopped crying every day but what really helped me was using an animal communicator as I really needed to say goodbye. It's definitely not for everyone but it was doing that which marked a turning point in my grieving and I felt ready to move on.

All the best x
 
The vet kindly got my some hair from his tail so i will definitly look into getting a bracelet made when i feel better.
Also the animal communicater sounds interesting and i will look into that so i can say goodbye and hope hes not angry with me.

Just not sure what to do with my time and not be constantly covered in hay and shavings!
 
BlackVelvet said:
Dont think its sunk in that hes gone yet :( cant face cleaning his stable or taking his things home.
Im so grateful that he was at the vets when it happened, atleast he wasnt alone and was in the best place. He has been through such alot over the past year that im glad it was quick.
The main reason im not getting another one is money, i have struggled to pay livery etc so thats my horsey days also over :(
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So sorry you have lost your beloved horse. He will always be in your heart and you will always have your memories.
Give yourself some time to come to terms with what has happened. Your horsey days may not be over, you could maybe part loan in the future which wouldn't cost so much as having your own.
 
I'm so sorry, what a horrible thing to happen.

I'm sure that he's not angry with you, as you say, he was in the best place, with people doing their best for him. In my experience, animals are kind & generous of spirit & he will have known how much you loved him.

As other's have said, maybe you could find a share, so you can still enjoy some horsey time.

Lots of hugs.
 
So sorry for you, it is so devastating to lose them suddenly, I was inconsolable when my big ginger boy went, I could not go near the yard!
Life was unbearable so I spent all of my time looking at horses for sale, it gave me something to do, I then bought one , made myself have a bay and not a chestnut so I wouldn,t compare!
It really helped me even though I still missed my old boy dreadfully, its been three years now and I love my new little horse, just differently to Jack!
 
Thank you all,

Will hopefully get his ashes back Monday. I did get the option to go and see him but i want to remember him as my beautiful yet grumpy gelding. Atleast he didnt suffer, he had strong painkillers and it was peaceful.
 
Bless you, I am so sorry. I lost my old lad to colic. It's such a horrible way to lose them. Yes, it does get easier, though I have to admit I still miss him very much every day. I have another horse, had them both together, so that has helped. Maybe one day you will feel strong enough to have another. Never say never. He won't be angry at you, he would have known you loved him. It was just unfortunate you couldn't be there, so don't beat yourself up about it. I really feel for you. Thinking of you at this very difficult time. Take care xx
 
Poor you. It happened to us with our great dane and tbh it took a couple of years before we both stopped hurting. We got a new dog a couple of months ago (couldn't face it before then) and like others have said, it is different love but love nonetheless. It does get easier, just takes time.
 
So very very sorry for your tragic loss. Is there a friend you could help out with their horse for the time being so your days still have a horsey connection? Then when you are not grieving quite so much you could think about a part share etc to get your fix?
I know how hard it is I lost two together and didn't go near a horse again until my daughter became interested. Now I have two plus my daughters lost interest pony. All very different to my original two but I look back now with happiness at having had them rather than sadness at losing them.
You will get there. If helped me putting an album together of pics, rosettes, dressage score sheets etc and is a lovely memento to look at now and again now.
Hugs xxx
 
I'm so so sorry :( I lost my boy very suddenly too and I was so lost and bewildered, sending you the biggest hugs xx
It really does get better although it is awful for a while :( I found that I needed horses to heal and as you say to fill the big empty gap. I think a share would be a wonderful idea - for when you are ready. Take your time - it took me six weeks to face his empty stable. There's no rush and you could always ask someone else to do it as we have done for other liveries in the past.
Thinking of you. Take care of yourself xxxxxx
 
Wagtail said:
Oh bless you, you poor thing! I have to say that yes, it does get better but is still very painful when you look back. I know what you mean about not finding one as good as him. But that is just how you are feeling right now and that is not necessarily how you will feel in a few weeks or months time. So sorry for you.
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Exactly this.^^^

So sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you. x
 
Sorry to say i am in the same boat as you. I lost my 4year old to acute grass sickness 2 days ago. 1o/c looking not herself pacing abit in the field, three o/c vet says serious, 4 o/c on the way to Newmarket, 6 o/c told has no hope. They could have done a biopsy and wait for results next day but vets said she had every symptom and a classic case advised pts there and then. Had to go say goodbye to my wonderful girl, I am devestated, bursting into tears all the time. OH doing his best to cheer me up but utterly heartbroken. Still can't believe it, the shock was awful, not once did i think i would not get her back, at worse an op, now all i will have is a box of ashes to scatter.
 
I am so so sorry to read this.
I too lost my girl suddenly to colic last October, it was horrific, she had seizures after being given an injection for the pain which seem to 'work'. She had gone from rolling and writhing in pain to being docile, and on her feet, but then the fits came, the vet was called back and that was it, all within an hour she was gone, she had never had colic in her life before that point.

Colic is evil, and there are no words but it will get easier, it really will, just let the tears out *big hugs* to you and again, I am so sorry, time does ease the pain of it, but they will always be in your heart x
 
Sorry to hear of your loss. It takes time and you should allow yourself to grieve, what works for one person may not for another, everyone is different.

When our boy was PTS to sleep earlier this year, I couldn't look at the stable for weeks. If you do ever decide to get another, you're not replacing or disrespecting the horse you've lost or any memories you have, you'll build up a different bond with a different horse. Our new girl is completely different to our old boy so its not we've not replaced him, its just a new chapter with a new horse.

Thinking of you
 
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