clevergirl
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So I bought some land, and a friend of mine was very keen to move his horse off the livery yard we met at. I thought "great, my horse will have a friend and I won't have to buy him a pony!" so we worked out a small fee for me to do AM feeding and kind of treat it like an assisted livery situation. Shame on me for not thinking more about the "side effects" of not being mentally prepared to run what's basically a livery with a friend as a client.
I didn't realize how emotionally draining it would be to have people at my house every day, and also his horse is rude, disruptive and a bit of a pain to deal with. I go through nearly 2 bales of hay per day (of which my horse eats like 25%; other horse is already overweight and shouldn't be eating 1.5 bales per day in addition to grazing IMHO), along with a barrage of "ideas" to build stuff for the horses on my land that I'm actually not too keen on- I would like to get more of my own horses in the future and preserve some of my existing grazing for when that day comes, not building more outdoor feeders and hard standing and an arena. The horse's owner is super nice though and I value him as a friend, which makes it tricky.
The ultimate passive aggressive move would be to just push back building the stable block and arena until he gets tired of riding in an unlit field... I would like to be more direct, but I'm SO bad at confrontation and struggling to find a way to preserve our friendship but also keep my little dream farm to myself a bit more before I get too resentful. Any ideas?
I didn't realize how emotionally draining it would be to have people at my house every day, and also his horse is rude, disruptive and a bit of a pain to deal with. I go through nearly 2 bales of hay per day (of which my horse eats like 25%; other horse is already overweight and shouldn't be eating 1.5 bales per day in addition to grazing IMHO), along with a barrage of "ideas" to build stuff for the horses on my land that I'm actually not too keen on- I would like to get more of my own horses in the future and preserve some of my existing grazing for when that day comes, not building more outdoor feeders and hard standing and an arena. The horse's owner is super nice though and I value him as a friend, which makes it tricky.
The ultimate passive aggressive move would be to just push back building the stable block and arena until he gets tired of riding in an unlit field... I would like to be more direct, but I'm SO bad at confrontation and struggling to find a way to preserve our friendship but also keep my little dream farm to myself a bit more before I get too resentful. Any ideas?