Horse viewing was AMAZING, but also some bad news currently in tears

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Good news is always the best to hear first I'd say
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Anyway, went to horse viewing, lady brought in horse from the field, put him in the stable, easy to groom, tack up, put boots on etc. Asked a few questions and she was very honest and genuine. She rode him, lovely mover, very clean, neat jump too. And I tried him, managed to do some flying changes which were amazing, also jumped him, I have never felt so confident on a horse over 16hh before and we are really interested in buying him, might be getting him vetted soon after lots of talking
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Bad news - still in tears over it
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Dad now wants to sell Castle (extremely long story he just heard some bad experiences about it etc.), I keep repeating to myself it's for the best and he can be someone elses special pony, and I still can treasure all those memories, it's nearly finalised but I feel awful
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He was waiting for me at the field gate this evening and when he saw me he let off the longest whinny ever, as if he was saying something to me
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I just feel like absolute and utter cr*p
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Great news about the other horse, and it is hard about selling castle but its for the best he will give some other little rider the confidence he has given you, I cant say much it is hard selling them but it all works out ok in the end. Tell me more about the grey
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He is such a special little pony that there will be people biting your hand off to take him and I'm sure you'll be able to choose his home.

Would anyone from your hunt be interested in having him?
 
Sorry to hear your news about Castle - However I guess you have outgrown him and need to move on??
Maybe you could loan him out or sell him to someone you know if that would make things easier?
Good to hear that you tried a horse that may suit you....
 
Oh honey. I know its hard to tell you not to feel like crap but if your Dad won't change his mind and put Castle out on loan and he has to go then just make sure he goes to a really good home with someone else who will love him as much as you do. Treasure the time you have had him, and think of all the fun he has with you doing jumping, hunting, hunter trials, dressage etc. I'm sure if you think about it hard enough he would be better to go to someone else who loved him and did lots with him having fun, than perhaps being stuck in a field doing nothing. Just my view on it, I've never been in that situation I'm afraid only having had horses a few years (I'm 36). Sending you lots of hugs xxxxx
 
Oh no hon
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. I agree with you re he can be someone elses special pony, and you know he'll carry on doing what he loves most and does best. You can vet any home and keep in tough with him, plus you could ask that they offer you first refusal should they want to sell him in the futire.

I'd have him like a shot if I was nearer.
 
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Its very exciting about the new horse and fingers crossed for the vetting.

Its hard to let go of that special friend but you can vet the new home to make sure its what you feel you want for Castle. I am sure he would be happy to be teaching someone else about the fun that can be had together.

Hugs to you.
 
Huge huge hugs. I had one of those days at the weekend - managed to spend the day in tears over my silly little donkey
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It's worse I think when you have done so much with them, they are your baby, so I know exactly how you feel x
 
There is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better if Castle has to be sold. You will say all the right things to yourself, as you are doing, about him being someone else's special pony, and you cherishing your memories of him - and it won't make the slightest difference. You will feel you have let him down, you will worry about him and you will feel dreadful.
Happily, whatever you fear, he will settle with new people (and I am sure you will take every precaution that they are right for him) and he will be as happy and loved as he was with you. Fact of life. People are far more emotional than horses.
Your prospective new horse sounds amazing. It's a time of transition for you, and changes like this are often very sad, as well as being exciting.
 
Potential new horse sounds great. Sad about Castle, but I sure you will easily find him a good home (he rocks). I can only offer big hugs, as I have never had to sell a horse on (mainly because I didn't own one till I was 30!!).
 
Awww hun - I haven't spoken to you before but the pictures and stories of you and Castle are so lovely to follow. He's a super chap and you've had so much fun together. He will be a very special friend to someone else too. Keep calm and keep communicating with your Dad. Get opinions from here on how people have found loaning is from both sides of the gate and also about people who keep in touch with ponies after the sale.

If it's a worry about having Castle back from a loaner in a hurry then see if you can put together a contingency plan. Sort out carefully what the problems are with loaning Castle out and then calmly find a way round them. IF you find that the problems are insurmountable from your Dad's point of view then you can still take the time to make sure that he has the perfect home - with one of the people who will keep in contact with you. For instance I keep in contact with two of my ponies' previous owners. And the only pony I've sold sends me christmas cards with updates on how he's doing with photos!

Big hugs - and chin up!
 
Thanks everyone, really appreciate it
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We may find a home via our hunt, as he will have good references, M_M I feel exactly as you described, I feel as if I've let him down to sell him on
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I think it will be better for him to go, loaning is neither keeping or letting go, you will worry for him if you loan and never move on truely. Having sold Liberty who was my little friend, I adored her, It look awhile and it got worest but then having visited her I relise how it was the bestest thing possible. She has all the things I could never give her, Including mummys who are smaller then me. Find him the perfect home and it be the bestest thing alround. Any photos of this possible new horse? Or advert? I'm nosy
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You haven't let him down at all, in fact you have set him up for a cracking home as he is a great allrounder who turns his hoof to whatever you ask of him - you should be proud of him and what you both have achieved
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Why is it for the best?
 
Sounds great, so he wasn't as strong/sharp as T found him then?

Sorry to hear about Castle, but I'm sure you'll find him a great home.
 
What helped me alot was taking her to her new home, unloading her, watching her settle in her new home, and checking out the yard etc. Made a hell of a difference then loading her up and watching her drive off down the road, feeling like you have sent your horse away, then spend ages worring if she winnied alot, how she reacted when you weren't at other end etc etc...
 
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Why is it for the best?

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So he can do well with someone else and reach his full potential
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Sounds great, so he wasn't as strong/sharp as T found him then?

Sorry to hear about Castle, but I'm sure you'll find him a great home.

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I'm so used for Castle to go at everything, I don't think fighting and pulling back helps at all, so I just let the horse go for everything and he was very pleasant to ride
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You haven't let him down at all, in fact you have set him up for a cracking home as he is a great allrounder who turns his hoof to whatever you ask of him - you should be proud of him and what you both have achieved
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Thank you very much, that means a lot
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no problem, have really enjoyed seeing you and Castle progress and go out there and try different things. Chin up honey xxxx
 
To be fair, T is a beautiful rider so I'm sure she didn't fight/pull him either but I bet it's just one of those thinsg where one person clicks with the horse when another doesn't!

He's a lovely horse and would be great for eventing, when's the vetting?
 
My cousin was in EXACTLY this situation last week.
But the new owner is a lovely little girl,who's parents said they'll let gabbie come round at short notice or whatever to see her old pony
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Maybe just sell him within about 5 miles of where you are and keep in touch,and go and see him and stuff
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Aww I'm in tears reading this thread myself and really feel for you
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I have only had my two since September last year and I'm so attached to them that I couldn't let them go. Don't mean that in a horrible sense btw but my lad is 16 and perm loan so will be with me till the end and the other one Mcfly I got for my daughter is just shy of 15 hands and is 7 and will be with us for life as daughter shouldn't outgrow him, even so we would keep him anyway.
I really feel for you though as it is your dad's decision to sell and it must be really hard for you.
Big hugs ((( ))) I cannot imagine how you are feeling right now
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It's a hard decision to make really where to let Castle go.
Do you keep him local with someone who may let you see him once in a while if you so wished or do you let him be rehomed in another county far away so that you don't get tempted.
You need to do what is best for Castle and also for yourself.
If you can handle seeing him in the care of someone else and you think he may not get upset by seeing you ( as horses do form bonds) then keep him close by otherwise you need to let him go and have a permanent separation so that the only memories you have of him are in your heart and head.
Hope that does not come across as being unsympathetic as I don't want to be seen like that as I am very sentimental about horses.
I agree about the comment about you preparing him for someone else and the fact that he will be a lovely confidence giver and will make someone a lovely horse ( or is he pony sorry if I'm wrong about that).
You have not let him down.
In fact you have given him a far better chance in life as due to the experiences you have had with him you have made him a sound character who will be someone's dream horse and will not end up being passed around from pillar to post.
I wish you luck in your search for a new horse and I know you will find Castle a very loving and kind home just like you have given him
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take care x
Cazx
 
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