Gentle_Warrior
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sssooooo sorry to get her name wrong
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Horsebox Tragedy
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Forget_Me_Not
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In tears all I can is if tragedys could be saved by 'ifs' and 'buts' they wouldn't happen. You were strong, you should be proud of your self for letting her go and cherish the time you had together.
Baggybreeches
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Such a terribly sad accident. But accidents happens to people and horses, they are just that.
WelshRareBit
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What an awful story, and terrible loss of such a beautiful girl. RIP girl, thank you for sharing your story, it will make me trust my heart more.
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Pidge
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That's an awful accident, I'm so sorry. you did the right thing for your horse and didn't prolong her suffering, for that you are very brave. thinking of you xxx
terrierliz
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Big hugs for you both, Sophie sounded a wonderful horse.
A tragic accident, RIP Sophie
A tragic accident, RIP Sophie
cariadssogreat
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Tragic tragic accident - you cannot blame yourself
mandy4727
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Crying as I read this. I am so so sorry. As others have said there are no words to say that will help. Everyones thoughts are with you at this very sad time. Huge hugs.
MagicMelon
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Wow, how absolutely awful. I think you know from all of us at HHO, we all feel for you.
Please try not to think about the "if onlys", there's really no point. Tragically accidents do happen, even in the simplest things like taking your horse somewhere.
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Please try not to think about the "if onlys", there's really no point. Tragically accidents do happen, even in the simplest things like taking your horse somewhere.
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Judie
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Ginny and Marcus,
I'm sure I speak on behalf of every one reading your post, who will be sincerely saddend by your lose, we are indeed very privileged to own our horses and we all do what is the very best for them, sadly they are fragile creatures and terrible accidents do happen, to the experienced, to the novices, to us all, some thankfully are not as tragic as yours but please think of all the goods times you had with Sophie and the moments you shared - you will always have those memories.
You did nothing wrong, either of you, you were just terrible unfortunate.
Take care...
I'm sure I speak on behalf of every one reading your post, who will be sincerely saddend by your lose, we are indeed very privileged to own our horses and we all do what is the very best for them, sadly they are fragile creatures and terrible accidents do happen, to the experienced, to the novices, to us all, some thankfully are not as tragic as yours but please think of all the goods times you had with Sophie and the moments you shared - you will always have those memories.
You did nothing wrong, either of you, you were just terrible unfortunate.
Take care...
Thistle
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RIP Sophie.
You tried to keep her safe in every way you knew. You are not to blame, accidents happen.
I too have had a horse go down in a trailer, it is very scary, luckily mine walked out.
You tried to keep her safe in every way you knew. You are not to blame, accidents happen.
I too have had a horse go down in a trailer, it is very scary, luckily mine walked out.
pottamus
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Please do not think of what if's and but's...you gave your horse a wonderful happy life which tragically ended through an unfortunate accident. You did what you thought best at the time and you cannot beat yourself up over that...although I know you will because I did too when I lost my horse.
I lost my horse to colic and wished upon wish that I had changed things to prevent it happening at the time...but it was too late and he had to be pts...but it destroyed my world and left me in such pain and grief it was hard to bear. Please do not put yourself through this misery but think of your happy times and the happiness that your horse will have felt being cared for by such doting and kind people. Please hold onto these memories because it will ease the pain you must feel...I can only say that through experience and hope you will try to think of things in a more positive light. Take care.
I lost my horse to colic and wished upon wish that I had changed things to prevent it happening at the time...but it was too late and he had to be pts...but it destroyed my world and left me in such pain and grief it was hard to bear. Please do not put yourself through this misery but think of your happy times and the happiness that your horse will have felt being cared for by such doting and kind people. Please hold onto these memories because it will ease the pain you must feel...I can only say that through experience and hope you will try to think of things in a more positive light. Take care.
Leg_end
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What a tragic accident. But please dont blame yourself.
RIP Sophie
RIP Sophie
ru-fi-do
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That has made me cry
what a tragic accident, you must not blame yourself although i know it is the easiest thing to do. You gave her a wonderfull life by the sounds of it and she would know that. I know words are hard to believe at this moment big hugs and cuddles to you. RIP Sophie. x x
Murphs_Mum
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What a heartbreaking post. Unfortunately these things do sometimes just happen and we have no time to prepare ourselves, you sound like such a caring owner, you really must never blame yourself. So very very sorry for your loss x
Safina
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Oh my goodness you poor poor girl. What a terrible and tragic accident. You witnessed something truely awful and I hope you and Marcus are not blaming yourself.
Can I suggest you contact a grief counsellor? Loosing an animal especially in such shocking cicumstances may take a while to come to terms with.
Can I suggest you contact a grief counsellor? Loosing an animal especially in such shocking cicumstances may take a while to come to terms with.
cobwithattitude
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totally agree with your words - poor Sophie and all concerned.
So very sorry....
So very sorry....
hussar
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I am so sorry for what happened to your lovely Sophie - everyone who loves horses would sympathise with your situation. Don't blame yourselves - as others have said, it was a tragic accident.
guisbrogal
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What a tragic thing to happen.
As everyone has said it was definitely not your fault so please be kind to yourselves.
I think it would possibly be worth a letter to the trailer compnay though explaining the problem with the chest bar. Not to blame them but just to make them aware incase they could incorporate a release system into newer models.
A friend of mine had a similar incident when her horse 'jumped' the bar while travelling
Fortunately for her horse, although very badly injured, it was a better outcome.
I do hope you and your OH can find some comfort in knowing that you loved your girlie very much and that I am certain that she knew that too and took great comfort in having you with her at the end.
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I think it would possibly be worth a letter to the trailer compnay though explaining the problem with the chest bar. Not to blame them but just to make them aware incase they could incorporate a release system into newer models.
A friend of mine had a similar incident when her horse 'jumped' the bar while travelling
I do hope you and your OH can find some comfort in knowing that you loved your girlie very much and that I am certain that she knew that too and took great comfort in having you with her at the end.
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_daisy_
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I really feel for you. RIP sophie. You shouldnt beat yourselves up about it - it was an accident and a tragic one at that. There is always going to the thoughts of "if only id done this or that" or "but maybe we shouldve done.." but dont dwell on them as it will not make it any better.
My mare had an accident in a trailer but luckily apart from a few cuts and bruises she was fine.
*****lots of hugs to you both*****
My mare had an accident in a trailer but luckily apart from a few cuts and bruises she was fine.
*****lots of hugs to you both*****
TheBlackMoth
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So very sad - my thoughts are with you.
Kate_13
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How terrible, what a tragic accident. As everyone has said, don't blame yourself.
All our thoughts are with you x
All our thoughts are with you x
wizzi901
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My heart truly goes out to you BUT you must not blame any decision that you made on this terrible tradegy, and that IS what it is. It was a freak unforseeable accident.
My friends dad breeds racehorses and they lost 2 fabulous horses many years ago by freak accidents such as this.
There was nothing you could have done to avoid it, you didnt know she would react like that, or get trapped like that. You took the precautions that the rest of us would take, the baler twine, the bar that should have moved.
We always leave our back doors open on our trailer, and would continue to do so even after reading this. My old boy will not travel with a partition if he is on his own, and again i wouldnt change that.
You say you had some history with her travel but who was to know she would react like that and also get herself in such a predicament.
Please do not blame yourself, sadly life sucks sometimes, had you shut the doors or used thinner twine she could have done something different that would have also caused problems.
To me you sound like a good owner and a responsible one, and when it counted, when you knew she was in pain, you did the right thing, you didnt prolong it for your own need, you put her first.
Its a terrible loss, but please know that it can happen to any of us, fate is a horrible thing, but I do believe human or horse, when your time is up, it simply is.
Trust in yourself that nothing could have prevented this really, it was a freak accident............. and an accident it was.
My friends dad breeds racehorses and they lost 2 fabulous horses many years ago by freak accidents such as this.
There was nothing you could have done to avoid it, you didnt know she would react like that, or get trapped like that. You took the precautions that the rest of us would take, the baler twine, the bar that should have moved.
We always leave our back doors open on our trailer, and would continue to do so even after reading this. My old boy will not travel with a partition if he is on his own, and again i wouldnt change that.
You say you had some history with her travel but who was to know she would react like that and also get herself in such a predicament.
Please do not blame yourself, sadly life sucks sometimes, had you shut the doors or used thinner twine she could have done something different that would have also caused problems.
To me you sound like a good owner and a responsible one, and when it counted, when you knew she was in pain, you did the right thing, you didnt prolong it for your own need, you put her first.
Its a terrible loss, but please know that it can happen to any of us, fate is a horrible thing, but I do believe human or horse, when your time is up, it simply is.
Trust in yourself that nothing could have prevented this really, it was a freak accident............. and an accident it was.
Lottie7
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Please don't punish yourselves. Her life may have been cut tragically short but she was loved and cherished by you when she was here. I travel my own horse with the trailer top doors shut but I know several horses who would be quite panic stricken by this. It is logical to think that a young horse would prefer not to be so enclosed. And as for the baler twine not breaking - how many of us have known ropes and goodness knows what give out when they shouldn't have...
Your point that horses don't just die of neglect is very true and one we should all remember. But sometimes tradgedies just simply happen, however much thought or consideration is given. I don't think she died as a result of your ignorance but I don't think there is anything we can say that will console you at the moment.
You are grieving for your beautiful girl. Having lost a dearly loved dog recently I know that the grieving process involves guilt and anger. That is natural. But it is absolutely unbearable at times, I know.
My thoughts are with you. Rest in peace dear Sophie.
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Your point that horses don't just die of neglect is very true and one we should all remember. But sometimes tradgedies just simply happen, however much thought or consideration is given. I don't think she died as a result of your ignorance but I don't think there is anything we can say that will console you at the moment.
You are grieving for your beautiful girl. Having lost a dearly loved dog recently I know that the grieving process involves guilt and anger. That is natural. But it is absolutely unbearable at times, I know.
My thoughts are with you. Rest in peace dear Sophie.
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fernando
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RIP Sophie
My heart goes out to you both, it was a horrible accident, that you both should not blame yourselves for.
Big hugs!!
My heart goes out to you both, it was a horrible accident, that you both should not blame yourselves for.
Big hugs!!
elainemcgovern
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Thanks so much for every word that you all took the time to write. I cant begin to express how badly they were needed and how very much each one has been appreciated. It was less than a day after the accident that I posted that message.
Four days on and MANY MANY MANY multiple times of accessing this forum to read your deepest sympathies, I am realising how much shock I was in and probably still am and how much I needed to hear your kind words.
You cant begin to imagine how heart warming it has been for us, Marcus included, receiving each of your virtual hugs, time and time again. Hopefully, under better circumstances, we too will be able to assist someone through this forum. And if we cant, I hope our unending gratitude for you kind words will be thanks enough.
Four days on and MANY MANY MANY multiple times of accessing this forum to read your deepest sympathies, I am realising how much shock I was in and probably still am and how much I needed to hear your kind words.
You cant begin to imagine how heart warming it has been for us, Marcus included, receiving each of your virtual hugs, time and time again. Hopefully, under better circumstances, we too will be able to assist someone through this forum. And if we cant, I hope our unending gratitude for you kind words will be thanks enough.
Coffee_Bean
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I'm so so so sorry for your loss, try not to think about the what ifs and try not to think about what she was like after the accident. Remember her as a healthy girl that loved you to bits. I've only had my mare for less than two months and i would be destraught if something happened to her. I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you
brighteyes
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So desperately sorry for you and commend your bravery and selflessness in making the post and alerting us all to the potential dangers of travelling a horse as you did. This tragedy was not your fault and I hope you go on to own and travel horses happily for many years to come.
casey2312
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Oh my what a tragic, tragic loss. I am so sorry for you. Poor little Sophie.
alfirules
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that is so upsetting, made me cry.
as everyone has said, there was nothing you could do, you did all the right things.
accidents do happen, it was just a very tragic accident that affected you, your lovely horse and your other half.
she must have had a lovely life with a pair of adoring owners who were with her to the very end.
as everyone has said, there was nothing you could do, you did all the right things.
accidents do happen, it was just a very tragic accident that affected you, your lovely horse and your other half.
she must have had a lovely life with a pair of adoring owners who were with her to the very end.