How can you say yes to this??????

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A few you of may have read my post about a lady buying a 1 balled andalusian stallion!!!
Anyway spoke to my friend last night just chit chatting and she asked what was going on with my old loan horse,(I had a mare on loan for a yr or so up until last summer when my mum died and I had to give her back due to personnal reasons,she was offered back to me as owner cant afford to keep 3 horses), I told her that I was going to have to let her go elsewhere as I cant find a yard convenent enough and Cant afford to keep her at my work as they want £75 a week DIY!!!!!
Anyway she turns round and says to me that she will give me the money to buy the horse and pay the livery costs to keep her at my work!!!!!!! I told her no as how can you say yes to something like that????? I also said to her that I would'nt be able to pay her back and if I did say yes who would be the legal owner of the horse and that it would just be to complicated with other issues. She turned round and said she would give me a cheque or cash if i prefered for the price of the horse and the yrs stabling bill, she would even get a contract signed saying the money was a gift and she does'nt want a penny back!!
I still told her no and all she said was think about it and phone her back next week with an answer.
Im in two minds now to either say yes or no as I really do want to get this mare back but I dont want to seem as if I am taking advantage of this womans generousity (sp). What would any of you lot do please help!!!!!!
 
I would be weary tbh, if for some reason you were to fall out, there may be trouble.

If she wanted to buy the horse herself and let you ride it, it might not be complicated.

Personally i would say no
 
Can she afford it? If she can then think about it. It my be a hell of a lot of money to you & me but perhaps it's not to this lady. Perhaps she appreciates having you around & wants to do something nice for you. It may sound corney but it IS better to give than to receive, I know I really enjoy buying things for my friends when I can. On the other hand gifts are only gifts if they come without strings. If this lady is the type who is going to expect you to phone daily to thank her profusely again then it's not a gift.
 
I agree with Cobland. In this life things that seem to be too good to be true....usually are!

I would say no too.
 
Is she trying to buy your friendship, she seems a bit odd to let people rip her off over a very expensive horse then want to shell out more money to buy you a horse. My advise is be wary as she may not be all she seems and it could all backfire on you . Have you known her long
 
Have known her for about yr, she seems very genuine and I do agree with zebedee that it does seem like a hell of a lot of money to me but I dont think it would make a dent in her bank balance, she is very generous she gave me a £150 voucher for the local tack shop for my birthday.
She says she wants to repay all my support I have given her latley.
I have told her that she doesnt have to repay me and that I have done it out of friendship as thats what friends do!
 
Have you asked your friend why she would want to be so generous?

She may well be a very good friend (she would have to be to be that generous) but would you always feel you 'owed' her something, and would you always be repaying that favour in some way? Could you live with that commitment?

It may be she is just a good friend in deed and the money is not an issue to her. Only you know your friend, but your first reaction was to say NO, why was that? Listen to your instinct...
 
A year is not long to really know if she may have issues that involve her splahing out money to be liked as it seems that she is willing to spend lots of it for other peoples benefit ie buying horses she cant cope with from a seemingly unscrupulous yard owner. In my experience people wiyh loads of money are the least likely to bbe over generous. Just be careful you dont end up being obligated to be her friend forever coz she has bought you a horse.
 
If I had the money and I wanyed to repay someone for their kindness then I would do what that lady is doing.
It seems that the support you have given her lately is worth it to her.
I think although it is wise to be wary, it sounds as though it is a genuine gift from her.
in terms of relativity, it would probably be like you or I buying a bunch of flowers.
It means a lot more to you than it does to her. What she is giving is nothing compared to what you are recieving.
Hope that helped
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There are some people out there that are that generous! Someone I know lost their youngster awhile ago (not one of mine!) and I gave them one free to replace it, it wasn't a world class youngster or anything, it was a nice filly with a very small blemish and they are over the moon with her! Now before anyone PMs me asking for a free baby - i'm afraid the answer is NO I can't afford to give them away, this was extreme circumstances!!

If someone offered to buy me a horse and pay for its livery I would say NO because personally I wouldn't want to feel indepted to anyone in that way!

People have offered to give me horses before and I have taken some of them up on it. I got a nice little mare, she is perfectly rideable and has bred me a lovely foal, she is a little quirky but nothing awful, they genuinely wanted a good home for her! Others I have been given are rehome jobs as broodmare because they can no longer do what previous owner wanted them to do, one had had a RTA and had injured knee (not hereditary), has breeding papers so living it up as a broodmare and another was a getting old Welsh (similarly bred to Machno Carwyn), she has giving me 2 beautiful babies! But these came to me under very differnt circumstances to being bought a horse and having it livery paid for me!
 
I think the lady is very kind, and can obviously afford to do this for you. Over the years when we have had spare cash we have helped friends out with various things and that gave us pleasure. I would not try to look too deeply into it, talk it over with her, tell her exactly how you feel, clear the air and get on with it.
 
I have a friend who was given a horse. She had been riding him for the owner, who then decided he wasn't going to be big enough for her so she just gave him to my friend. She signed him into my friend's name too so even if she changed her mind there wasn't anything she could do about it because legally the horse now belonged to my friend. He then made the height she expected and has done/is doing really well in competitions etc. He was rising 4 when my friend was given him, that was 6 years ago.

I would discuss it with her in depth before coming to a decision.
 
What a lovely friend to offer, but I agree with those who have said be wary - it could ruin a friendship, plus its all very well having the horse paid for and a year's livery, but if you can't afford to pay her livery now, what is going to change that you will be able to afford it in a year's time when the gift money runs out.
 
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