How different would your life be if....

MrsMozart said:
Can daughters get part-time jobs? They could put the money towards competing. What about their Dad, can he help out?
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Oldest daughter has just gone to Uni, but insists that she wishes to carry on riding the horse she shares with her sister in all the long hols she will have. She understands the finances involved and is very sensible and will help out if she can.

Youngest daughter has thought about getting a job, but weekend work is difficult as she goes to her Dads every other weekend. She is also in her GCSE year and has has to stay late in school 4 nights out of 5 this week with all the extra work she has to do, I am loathed to put any more pressure on her with a job on top of that. She also needs to ride and have her lessons as she is taking riding as part of her PE GCSE:eek:

Their Dad does pay a certain amount towards the upkeep of their horse, but the cost of keeping a 13.2 Welsh, live on fresh air pony in 2004, is alot differnt to a 16.3 TB in 2010 (no increase in help with costs since agreement made) and 6 ft daughter would look very silly on a 13.2 now, so obviously had to upgrade horse as they grew;) Will say no more or risk being banned;):rolleyes::eek:;)
 
hmmmm if i didn't have horses... i'd of had a lovely lie in this morning, i'd have decent clothes instead of a cupboard full of coats, scarfs, gloves, thermals. i'd be able to afford a house, i'd be able to eat nice food and not cheap stuff, i could go on holiday, i could stay out late or sleep round a friends without thinking "but i have to be up early tomorrow" and life would be a hell of a lot less stressful.............

........nahhhh wouldn't swap them for the world :-D

why not ask your daughter what she wants? its a sad story but most children grow out of horses anyway- i know my mum hoped that it was just a phase for me hehe
 
My mother keeps going on and on and on about the time and money i spend on our horses, it drives me nuts saying how we could have a nicer house, holidays, a better car (but i love my Jeep!!!) and anything else she can can think of to get us to get rid of them. JJust because she never had something she was passionate about she seems to think i shouldnt. You wouldthink after 30 odd years of me having horses she would have given up moaning. Life without our horses would be so empty, and i too would probably sit in front of the tv drinking myself into an early grave.
 
alwaysbroke said:
Oldest daughter has just gone to Uni, but insists that she wishes to carry on riding the horse she shares with her sister in all the long hols she will have. She understands the finances involved and is very sensible and will help out if she can.

Youngest daughter has thought about getting a job, but weekend work is difficult as she goes to her Dads every other weekend. She is also in her GCSE year and has has to stay late in school 4 nights out of 5 this week with all the extra work she has to do, I am loathed to put any more pressure on her with a job on top of that. She also needs to ride and have her lessons as she is taking riding as part of her PE GCSE:eek:

Their Dad does pay a certain amount towards the upkeep of their horse, but the cost of keeping a 13.2 Welsh, live on fresh air pony in 2004, is alot differnt to a 16.3 TB in 2010 (no increase in help with costs since agreement made) and 6 ft daughter would look very silly on a 13.2 now, so obviously had to upgrade horse as they grew;) Will say no more or risk being banned;):rolleyes::eek:;)
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Ah. Is their Dad not horsey then? Doesn't he understand about the costs, etc.? I know I, um, don't always mention to D exactly how much the horses cost :cool::eek::rolleyes:
 
I can't imagine my current life without the horses, just because they are literally outside my back door my life seems to revolve around them!

I did have a bit of a break from having a riding horse for a few years, (although we did have my old pony on part livery but my mum and sister mainly looked after him whilst I didn't have a horse myself). It was nice at first after having had horses since I was 5 to be able to stay in bed until any time, go out nice Sunday lunches without having to think about getting back to get the horses in etc and it was lovely to have lots of spare money but after a bit I go so bored so persuaded my non-horsey hubby to buy a derelict farm involving us living in a static caravan for 16 months with 3 jack russells so that I could have a place with some land!

Honestly I love our life now and love the horses but I know where you are coming from re money, I took voluntary redundancy 18 months ago thinking I would have a few months off work and then find something else but it wasn't that easy and a year later my money had run out so I had to ask my hubby for money for feed, shoes etc which I really hated doing and it seemed unfair on him too, although he was a star about it! Luckily things have worked out OK now but if they hadn't I would have had to sell my riding horse (probably would have tried to keep the old pony, broodmare and foal as they don't cost much to keep and didn't have much value).
 
Awwww..AB....you know my thoughts and feelings on this subject very well (both on my own personal side and yours/daughters).....

Being able to ensure your family are happy is part of what being a parent is all about...YOU are doing the best you can given the cirumstances....your lovely family know this and understand, you can't take on all this yourself or you will go potty...

As far as I'm concerned, you know my situation and yes I do get upset when I am struggling so much and other people have the 4x4's, trailers, horseboxes etc....in reality I perhaps should give up my horse, but I just can't...she is my life and I would feel like I was giving away a part of me :(
 
alwaysbroke said:
Ummmmmm, just wiping tea off the keyboard........Dad is horsey, he is a regular poster in Comp Riders, can usually be seen wearing a fetching shade of baby blue;):);)
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Okay... I'm obviously being thick (nothing new there then lol), so does he not, for some reason I haven't quite figured out, not know what is needed? Of course, maybe he can't afford it.

*wanders off to find a baby blue rider in CR*
 
I would be bored senseless, stressed out and would probably have become just my job as I have no other hobbies really. I would also be about £900 pcm better off so living in a larger flat/house and maybe going on holiday each year/buying clothes from shops other than Primark.
 
Hm. Have found a pale blue rider in CR, but can't be that one as that person has a swish lorry and lots of booze lol. I am on the hunt though, as am intrigued now, having gone through the 'how much money!' exercise, but it's me and D that have cut down on things rather than D1 and D2 having to cut back: we've reached what we think is a happy balance, working on the basis that now the D's know about the value of money - some tough conversations have taken place recently - we only have them for a short time and their futures will be built on what happens now.

Yikes, that was a bit deep for a Monday lunchtime! :eek::cool:
 
MrsMozart said:
Hm. Have found a pale blue rider in CR, but can't be that one as that person has a swish lorry and lots of booze lol. I am on the hunt though, as am intrigued now, having gone through the 'how much money!' exercise, but it's me and D that have cut down on things rather than D1 and D2 having to cut back: we've reached what we think is a happy balance, working on the basis that now the D's know about the value of money - some tough conversations have taken place recently - we only have them for a short time and their futures will be built on what happens now.

Yikes, that was a bit deep for a Monday lunchtime! :eek::cool:
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Ummmm Mrs M you are spot on;) both with the pale blue rider and with what you say about cutting back.

It is deep for a Monday lunchtime, but I certainly agree that we only have them for a short time and what happens now can have long term and long last effects. My youngest daughter is having a struggle atm, I do my best but its very tough on her and sometimes I find it difficult to give her the advice she desperately needs, she is very torn and very upset at times:(
 
Well.

The house would be finished.
My car would be a car again and not a glorified tractor.
I could wear nice clothes.
There wouldn't be hay on the bathroom floor.
I would like to say I wouldnt have a credit card bill- but I damn sure I would just spend the money on other stuff:o

But yeah.....I quite often wonder what 'normal' people do after work and on a weekend:confused:
 
Frankly life wouldnt be worth living if it wasnt for my horses. They give me the reason to get up in the morning, the drive to get through the day and the comfort that when I go to bed at night, they will be there for me again in the morning.

Yes if I didnt have them I would techinically be better off, have more time etc, but as I discovered in between horses (3 years) I was as miserable as sin, I sat at home moping, I DIDNT have any more money as I used to blow it on anything and everything just to fill the void where a horse used to be and because I wasnt as active I pilled on a whopping 3.5 stone.

So give me debt, keeping my vets in Bentlys & Aston Martins, smelling of poo/wee, wearing clothes from the supermarket, walking around in holy wellies, driving a battered pick up (I do love my pick up) and generally looking like a hobo, going out once in a blue moon, very rarely seeing my fiends and going to bed at a rediculously early hour so you can be up before light in the morning. The tears, tantrums, joy, happiness, failure and triumphs of owning a horse any day. Beats everything else! :D
 
alwaysbroke said:
Ummmm Mrs M you are spot on;) both with the pale blue rider and with what you say about cutting back.

It is deep for a Monday lunchtime, but I certainly agree that we only have them for a short time and what happens now can have long term and long last effects. My youngest daughter is having a struggle atm, I do my best but its very tough on her and sometimes I find it difficult to give her the advice she desperately needs, she is very torn and very upset at times:(
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Yikes! So, new lorry, ODE, etc. etc. etc., but short of cash for kids?! Hm. Obviously I don't know details, but on the face of it that stinks :(:mad:. I quite liked that poster as well :(. Maybe a few home truths need airing :cool::confused::(
 
I would smell nicer!
Seriously though, my horses keep me sane and content. I cannot imagine what i would do with my time (even the time i squeeze in). Perhaps i have a flaw in my personality because i would rather be with them than socialising. I think that if i didnt have them i would have been an eccentric hermit!
I am thankful for them every day - yep even in the wet, cold winter!
 
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