Lonesome_Dove
Well-Known Member
I have a real dilemma on my hands, concerning one of my horses and my best friend!!
She took one of my horses (appaloosa X NF) on loan last May.
I went to see him in October last year and was quite shocked to see how he looked. He used to be quite well-built, with a really nice weight, and he had become very tucked up and had become a much lighter version of himself (he wasn't overweight originally, but was a 'cobby' build). I've known her for years, and she has always looked after her ponies very well, I just couldn't understand why he was looking poor but I trusted her to put him right and gave her the benefit of the doubt, bearing in mind he had moved homes and the changing of the seasons etc. It unsettled me a bit though.
Since then, she said he was fine, but did say that whenever it got cold he would drop "a few pounds", which he has never done before, when he was with me I wouldn't rug him until December time and it would be off again in March.
Anyway, I went to see him on Saturday just gone and he is still underweight (more than before), and he looks really sad and uninterested. He didn't neigh a greeting to us when we turned up like he always used to, not even to her and she has been looking after him for a year. When he was with me he would neigh to me if I turned up with food or not, and would sometimes call to me when I left him, silly horse! She said he might be stressed as he is getting beaten up by one of hers, and I asked if she could move him into another one of her paddocks (she has several paddocks within a field) and she just said "no". He doesn't look like a rescue case, but he is definitely half the horse he used to be.
I don't think for a second she is neglecting him, but she has always had hardy New Forest ponies, who basically "look after themselves", maybe she just doesn't know how to give him what he needs. She is in no way cruel or ignorant. People have said to me in the past he is "a mummy's boy" as he has been away from home before and dramatically lost weight (he dropped a rug size!), and now I think they might be right!!!!
Now I don't think I have a choice but to bring him home now, he is clearly not happy where he is - he just looks so desperately sad.
What I need to know is how to ask her for him back without offending her, as she is my oldest and best friend! I don't want to go in and say "you're not looking after him as you should be and I'm taking him home!" I don't want to lose my friend, but my horse's general well-being is very important to me! Any ideas?!
She took one of my horses (appaloosa X NF) on loan last May.
I went to see him in October last year and was quite shocked to see how he looked. He used to be quite well-built, with a really nice weight, and he had become very tucked up and had become a much lighter version of himself (he wasn't overweight originally, but was a 'cobby' build). I've known her for years, and she has always looked after her ponies very well, I just couldn't understand why he was looking poor but I trusted her to put him right and gave her the benefit of the doubt, bearing in mind he had moved homes and the changing of the seasons etc. It unsettled me a bit though.
Since then, she said he was fine, but did say that whenever it got cold he would drop "a few pounds", which he has never done before, when he was with me I wouldn't rug him until December time and it would be off again in March.
Anyway, I went to see him on Saturday just gone and he is still underweight (more than before), and he looks really sad and uninterested. He didn't neigh a greeting to us when we turned up like he always used to, not even to her and she has been looking after him for a year. When he was with me he would neigh to me if I turned up with food or not, and would sometimes call to me when I left him, silly horse! She said he might be stressed as he is getting beaten up by one of hers, and I asked if she could move him into another one of her paddocks (she has several paddocks within a field) and she just said "no". He doesn't look like a rescue case, but he is definitely half the horse he used to be.
I don't think for a second she is neglecting him, but she has always had hardy New Forest ponies, who basically "look after themselves", maybe she just doesn't know how to give him what he needs. She is in no way cruel or ignorant. People have said to me in the past he is "a mummy's boy" as he has been away from home before and dramatically lost weight (he dropped a rug size!), and now I think they might be right!!!!
Now I don't think I have a choice but to bring him home now, he is clearly not happy where he is - he just looks so desperately sad.
What I need to know is how to ask her for him back without offending her, as she is my oldest and best friend! I don't want to go in and say "you're not looking after him as you should be and I'm taking him home!" I don't want to lose my friend, but my horse's general well-being is very important to me! Any ideas?!