How do i train my OH?

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To cut a long story short we took our two dogs to a trainer on the weekend because they bark at everything and anything (one does it all the time and it sets the other one off). He gave us what seemed to be good advice which we have put into practice but also gave us lots of tips on other things we can do to make the dogs better behaved. Basically the main thing he thought was that we were too soft on them and they didn't see us as the dominant leaders.

Now i'm all for giving these things ago but my OH gives up as soon as the dogs protest. He's happy to do the barking solution but with some of the other stuff he just gets in a strop and gives up and we end up having an argument.

What would you do?
 
Doesn't it drive you mad?!! When we got Barney I said I didn't want him on the sofa and I didn't want him fed titbits all the time. OH is completely useless, lets him up, feeds him little bits of his dinner and lets him jump up on him. As a result Barney sees him as a playmate rather than a leader.

Its the only thing we ever argue about and in the end I gave up cos it was too confusing for Barney to be allowed something one day and not the next.

Can only suggest that you try to talk about it and agree boundries for the dogs when you are both calm!! Sorry not much use but I feel your frustration!!
 
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Re-home the OH
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Yeah i've thought of a few compromises that might work for both him and the dogs which i am going to suggest tonight so will see what happens!!!

May try the electric collar actually, do you think he'll notice
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Oh right! So far I've come up with Old Husband and old horse?!

May I also ask what YO means? I think -at the moment- it means yard owner!

What about compromising on some of the things. The barking thing should definitely stop, you are both agreed on that. Maybe try a compromise on the others?
 
Yeah i think that's my only option. I think the problem is that both dogs are rescues so they didn't have a great start in life, my OH wanted a dog for years and also Bes broke her leg about 6 weeks ago and so i think he just can't stand to hear a dog whine, he just wants to shower them with love. Unfortunately they've started to take the piss.

I think compromise is the way forward. We were more strict when we just had Bes but Bes is much more of a conformist and came with more training, she'll just give you a dirty look and then get on with it if you tell her off. Since we got Dom he's tried and been allowed to get away with too much and he's the type to whinge, bark and sulk and OH can't ignore it.
 
OK... two choices really .. .....
One, as has been said talk when you are both calm and try to reach a compromise , try to get him to understand how much happier dogs are with fixed boundaries and leaders .......

Two , actually much easier than one ... ......sell or give away ... your OH !
You will be amazed how much simpler your life will become!!
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I thought OH might of been Otter Hound till I read the thread!!!!
 
I think women and dogs are more similar than men and women as men just don't seem to 'get' dogs in the same way women do....sorry for dissing all you male doggy owners but I'll bet a pound to a penny that most of the contributors on here are girlies! Good luck training the OH...I'd rather try and train a lurcher to moonwalk personally!
 
Well i hesitantly say that i think we have kind of come to some sort of compromise. I had a word with OH last night and we decided that the dogs could come in the lounge (the trainer wanted them to have their own area outside of the lounge). I didn't push the subject but i think we have agreed that they won't go on the sofa (i suggested we get them there own chair and not be allowed on ours and he said no lets just give them beds so i think that's a no to getting on our sofa?).

Another bit of progress was made by the dogs themselves. We left them to go shopping last night so took their beds from the bedroom into the hallway (where the trainer had suggested could be their quiet area) and shut them out of the bedroom so they couldn't go on the bed. When we got back we and them had dinner and then Bessie went and settled herself on the bed in the hallway. Dom then joined her. They flitted about between there and the lounge throughout the evening but it was better than nothing. Then when we went to bed Dom was quite comfy in the hallway so we left him out there and Bes took herself into the crate in the bedroom for the night. Basically the trainer had wanted them shut out of the bedroom completely which my OH had thrown a wobbly about and he also wanted them shut in their quiet area and only allowed in the lounge when invited so it's kind of half way there. He thought we should do this because we spend 24/7 with the dogs and he thought they should have some time on their own, in their own space. When we tried this the first time Dom whinged so much my OH wouldn't have it.
 
Also forgot to say Dom only barked twice yesterday, before it would be about once every 10 minutes so it's a minor miracle!!

Also both dogs are walking beautifully on the lead, they never pulled before but we allowed them to wander about in the front of us, they are now walking to heal.
 
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