How do you cope with someone who constantly boasts?

I have to say I had an incident at work last week where I think I was bragging (with hindsight). I've been having a rubbish time at work but something went really well and made me feel good about myself, so I found myself telling everyone all about it. Was telling oh in a similar fashion and he said 'alright there's no need to brag!!'

It did make me feel better, but thinking about it there were some definite tumbleweed moments at work when I was in the staff room.

I think I'm trying to say that the bragging probably makes her feel a bit better about herself for some reason. Maybe have a quiet chat, or mention it in some way, subtlety. Or ignore it but boost her up when she's not bragging!!!
 
I work with someone like that. Problem is they aren't actually half as good as they think. Took me a while but I now actually just go along with it. Makes them feel better and who am I to ruin their ego. If it gets too much I remove myself from the situation if I can. The only thing I can recommend is a lot of tongue biting
 
I would milk it, when this person goes into a brag, explore, ie "oh yes tell me more" and get them to back up their statement, ( REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY) could be fun, you will feel in control of it then and maybe learn something :D braggers usually need validation so....
 
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I know lots of these and if you try and contradict them your 'jealous'
I just act bored know and like I'm not listening (tbh I'm usually not) every yard has them 'I was the only person that dare ride that horse' 'she's ruined that horse it weren't like that when I rode it'......yawn
 
The best way is to be completely passive. By that I mean, walk away as soon as she starts her boasting....go off to fill a water bucket or something. Don't be rude, just walking away saying, "sorry, I am listening, carry on" but just go about your business. Having to shout a boast makes it very very different and she'll be able to hear how silly she sounds.

The other thing I do, which I actually have only done with people I don't really like anyway is to just yawn, look at my watch and just say yes regardless of whether the word or timing of its use are appropriate.

Good luck :)
 
Lots of good suggestions so far!! If she repeats herself which one on my yard does I tend to smile and just say 'yes you have said before' and then look disinterested and carry on with jobs. It seems to work quite well!
 
googol said:
I work with someone like that. Problem is they aren't actually half as good as they think. Took me a while but I now actually just go along with it. Makes them feel better and who am I to ruin their ego. If it gets too much I remove myself from the situation if I can. The only thing I can recommend is a lot of tongue biting
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What a considerate attitude to have, although it must be hard work sometimes. You sound lovely :)
 
Have you tried 'complaining' to her about someone (make someone up if you need to) who brags and boasts and saying how nice that person is but they become annoying after a while? You might need to do it on a few different occasions. It seems kinder than coming straight out with it or doing something hurtful.
 
Just learn to zone out.

Someone I went to school with was like that when I was learning to ride. She could never just be happy for you, everything she said had to be one better than you. For example I'd come in to school all proud and say "I jumped 5th hole straight!" (we measured things in 'holes' at that age, not cm or feet!) and she'd go "yeah...well I jumped Mali 8th hole the other month". Was so irritating at first but I just learnt to zone her brags out and just smile!
 
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