How do you know when it's time to move

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Have to make a decision fast. I thought my YO was moving so I looked at new yards. Now I looked at 3 but found one really nice one. Now it turns out they are not moving.

There are alot of eventers there so I could probably learn alot and it would be really good to have new instructors cause I don't feel I have got anywhere with my instructor in the past 3 years.

Now I think I'm going to move to the new yard anyway. What if is a mistake and the people are awful there. I am comfortable at my current yard and have friends there.

Got to make that call today. If only I could ask my horse what he would like to do.
 
I am in the same sort of position, i really wanna move yards closer to home but i am scared of changed as like you said i am comfortable there.

Found a really nice yard a while ago that had loads more pluses than the yard i am at. Put a deposit down and everything and then i backed out coz i got cold feet.

Wish i bite the bullet and moved now as there are no more spaced available
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Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet. Dont burn your bridges when you leave your current yard - in other words keep your options open.

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Yeah thats what I'm afraid of too. I've been at the current yard for over 3 years and am friends with my instructor. I don't know how to tell her.
 
In that case, soften the blow. Take some flowers or something with you when you had in your notice. Explain that you have loved your time there but you feel you need to broaden your experiences a bit. Finish off by saying that you hope that if things dont work out that you would love to be able to return. If shes a friend she will understand.
 
When I left my old yard I took the yard owner some chocs and flowers... she didnt take offence at all and said if I ever wanted to bring my horse back I was most welcome and also said I could come and ride her horses anytime I like if I wanted to hack out with my friend who were staying there... she is a lovely YO...
 
I think you just know when it's the right time, I would perhaps spend a bit of time at the new yard if you can and get a feel for how warm or frosty people on there are towards you. That will tell you more than looking at nice facilities.

As the others have said though, just be upfront and genuine with your current yard owner and don't burn your bridges x
 
In the horsey world people are always moving on for a variety of reasons. OPart on good terms & tell her that you need to move nearer home. The YO should understand, if she doesn't then she isn't the friend you thought. Leave your options pen so if things don't work out you can return.
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I found it hard to tell my YO that I was leaving because despite everything, they are nice people. However, I only had to remind myself of how unhappy I have become there over the last few months to spur me on to do it.

Even though they are nice, the YOs see me as purely a business transaction so I don't actually feel guilty anymore and I know that I am doing what's best for me and horse. Moving to a yard nearer to home is as good a reason as any (me, I didn't have the guts to list all the things I object to at mine!)
 
I was at a very friendly yard where I was friends with everyone, we all used to go out for meals and meet up etc. I moved yards cos I was struggling with the distance everyday, twice a day. I was really worried at first, but it was the best thing I ever did! I still go up to my old yard regularly to see everyone and I moved almost a year ago
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