How honest are you with your husband/partner with what you spend

He knows how much day to day costs such as livery,feed,shoes insurance etc cost. I don't tell him if I buy a new rug/numnah etc but he always notices! I try to tell him I've had it ages but that didn't work lol! Luckily he believed me when I said my new nu med numnah cost £20 :D.
 
My OH is not at all horsey but equally he is not at all stupid and knows that horses are costly. We have separate accounts and I pay for my horses stuff myself I never ask him for a penny, he does open my vet bills though and moan about them if I don't intercept the postman first!!!

When having probs with my yearling he encouraged me to get some help- no matter what the cost so I thought that was pretty good of him- esp as it's £50 an hour.

He knows I am always on the look out for a bargain too though and save money where I can. For example when Derby house had their rug sale recently I bought my winter rugs for a fraction of what they should of cost and I've put them away ready to use this year. I tend to do that with any new riding clothing for me too. I've also been known to go to closing down sales at tack shops and buy bulk lots of everything from hoof oil to fly sprays- every little helps you know!!!

I don't volunteer the info on what I spend but I don't go to great lengths to conceal it either ( unless it's the vet bill for my stupid yearlings colic brought on entirely by himself when he broke out of the field and got into the feed room:-) You've gotta laugh or you'd cry!!!
 
My OH never (ok rarely) moans about the cost but boy does he moan about the time spent.... Maybe we could have another thread about juggling ponies and partners and how to keep your OH happy! I wish his hobby took up as much time as mine so he wasn't always home alone waiting for me to get home!!!! To be fair to him though, I have been amazingly lucky to win a riding holiday to Portugal (at Hippokis) and he's said he'll come with me and do a week's intensive riding so that if he learns "maybe he'll enjoy it and can by his own horse and actually get to spend some time with me"!! Bless him! It must be love :-p
 
Would never lie about the cost in a million years. My OH is horsey and mine live at his yard and we share feed costs etc. He is very much of the opinion that if there is something I want to spend my money on for my horses then do it. We are also very upfront about finances in terms of if I have had an expensive month he will treat me & vice versa! It works well for us and if either of us was ever caught short then we help out the other...and if we ever happen to both be caught short well baked beans is a very romantic meal lol
 
When I was living with my ex, I avoided the question. I paid all my bills myself, I paid more than half the household bills AND ended up lending him money to get through the month but when it started going sour, the money I spent on my horses became a bone of contention. It became even greater as I do not appreciate someone else trying to spend my money for me when I am well and truly pulling my weight. Anyway, thats why he is an ex.

However, was talking to a truly lovely guy and someone bought this up (think to make me look extravagent!) and I came out with the whole amount - thats livery (part), shoeing and insurance. I actually don't include lessons as count that as more of a social budget!. He didn't blink an eye and did say, how I spent my money was up to me..
 
Totally Honest, he helps pay so I have to be. He doesn't mind as the horses are 'my time' and they keep me busy as he works away. He does moan a bit though when I buy unnecessary things, like matchy matchy things and having about 10 numners per horse lol
 
My dad always says he's got more money now I have moved out. Boyf and I share field and he has hay contacts so we share the cost really. But no point in lying as I caught him having a lurk on here.:)
 
I haven't owned a horse [except briefly at the start] since I've been with my OH, so cost has never come up.

I don't have any intention of lying to him when I buy my next horse, and I am sure he'll largely be fine with it. He often buys new clothes, plays golf, and will buy a nice car when he can afford it.

I don't spend a lot of money on luxuries generally either - I could spend the same on clothes, or nights out clubbing if I was minded to, so don't see how a horse is any different.

He's had animals before and is always the type to buy luxury food brands, insure them up to the hilt etc - so I don't think the costs of keeping a horse would particularly shock him. We'll see though!
 
debsey1 said:
My horse is on DIY and my partner(bless him) gives me £100 towards my livery thinking that is all I have to pay!! I pay the rest, usually another £40 - £60 depending on how much haylege, miscanthus, wormer etc I use. Sometimes I feel awful because I can't be truthful to him on how much it really costs me a month.

This month so far it's been £159 for livery, £25 for trim, £45 for dentist, £30 for bath because of show earlier in month plus another £20 for the classes I entered and £20 for a lesson which was done cheap for me!QUOTE]

I am not getting at you but you OH pays for your DIY livery (so your not paying for your horse your OH is). £30 for a bath?? Why can't you bath him yourself? £25 for a trim? 1) why are you trimming at this time of year (just curious) is he a hairy cob? and 2) you's be better off buying your own clippers if you have to trim through the summer. That would save you at least £55.
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Well I go to work to earn my money, so I figure that as long as I pay the house bills first I can spend what I like of what's left on my 2 boys! I would never hide it, but rather a lot does go on them...
 
If we have a row which is quite a rare event he always blames ' the horse ' which i really resent as i work bloody hard to pay for her myself , the blokes down the pub take the mick cos we have a horse as they are all non horsey and think we are loaded as horses are expensive ,
Thus making him think the same , as horses/ponies go she is very economical , £20 a week livery , £60 shoes every 6 weeks , dentist , back check etc, got all my gear now so rarely need anything , i don't go clothes shopping very often , don't smoke or have hair done, i tell him if he asks what something costs , he likes his football and has a season ticket for Norwich who have been promoted to the premiership , he does his thing and i do mine, he's happy as long as we are happy, seen as our daughter does most of the riding and is fit and healthy and just as committed to her pony as she was 2 years ago he has no reason to question the expense .
There's always a fresh pile of rosettes on the mantlepiece each weekend either from horsey and doggy pursuits which he is always chuffed with .
 
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