How important is the support/interest of your OH to you?

my OH doesn't have any interest in the horses at all.

it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

he is obsessed with the gym and i have no interest in that.

in the evenings i ask 'how was the gym?'

he says 'ok, how were the horses?'

i say 'ok' and thats about it!

he doesn't like it if i fall off and get injured or if the horses are causing me stress but i am concerned if he tweaks his back at the gym etc.
 
my OH is not interested in horses at all. when i loaned he'd come to the yard sometimes and to watch the odd sj class.
He offered to muck out for me so we'd be done quicker once and he was brilliant at it! he liked doing it too(!!???) so that was his imput every time he came with me.
The way our daughter is going, i think he'll have more than just me to contend with in the horse mad stakes!! Bless him!!!
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Support and interest are important to me, but although i get some its not much and sometimes it feels akward having the horses at all even though im selling one. People who have supportive and interested OH's Hang on to them you are very lucky, the one thing I would love more than anything would be for my OH to spend maybe half an hour at the yard with me.
 
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"toe boots" (over reach boots) and "shin boots" (brushing boots)!

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Tee hee! My OH often talks about Monty's "leggings" (bandages) and Zoom's "crackle" (grackle)
 
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"toe boots" (over reach boots) and "shin boots" (brushing boots)!

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Tee hee! My OH often talks about Monty's "leggings" (bandages) and Zoom's "crackle" (grackle)

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Hubby feeds Fizz grass(Alpha), black slop(SugarBeet) and cheerios(Barley Rings)
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He's great with them but doesnt get under my feet which is even better.
He pays for them, I just let him know whats needed and when and he sorts it out. He runs us to the yard and unless it's peeing it down with rain is usually there in the field rounding up whichever one needs catching. He'll help exercise, and will do runs to the tackshop / feed store etc.
He bought a towing car, but, it wasnt all that great and in the meantime spotted a sports carhe wanted. he was prepared to put it off to buy a better towing car but I thought a year of no shows wouldnt do us any harm... so I dragged him to see the car which he bought and is doing up to sell to buy an even better towing car. He does DIY round the field, is fab with fencing and most of all is a total star with the new lad. He calls him 'my boy' and has almost adopted him as his own, taking him for little walks and hand feeding him.
I wont ever get him in tweeds doing showing but he's happy to come along on a sunny day and hold various children's ponies and buy ice creams. Best of all he takes very tired children home so I can get the pony loaded and sorted out back at the yard and get home to a hot meal.
 
Mine has gone from no horse knowledge 5 years ago to horse God now! I value his support and assistance particularly at times like when my old horse was ill and also his help at shows as he does all the driving nowadays. He also lunges the horse at shows which is a great help whilst I get ready. He is also fairly critical which is where the horse God comes in but that will quite often be the kick in the pants I need to get brain in gear. That said, I am careful about too many early starts and the horse is at full livery so he does not get "horse" every day!
 
Aw, a lot of you are so lucky to have OH's who try so hard!

Min will sometimes ask how they are, but he doesn't really want me talk about them, just say 'yeah they're fine, i had fun.'

He has been to the yard 3 times in as many years, and rode once, but only to prove it was easy. He was better last time, and fed Oscar a piece of bread from arms reach away (poor ned could hardly reach it!) but at least he tried. He's not scared of them, he 'hates them' apparently. They're smelly and bite and kick.
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It's a real sore spot for me, i would love him to be more supportive of it really. He says when we move in together we're having no animals, especially horses. If i didn't know fine well that i will get my way then that would be the end of us. It still might, who knows
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Although he's the sort of person who would try to buy me a horse as a surprise in a few years and end up paying 10K for a 3 legged mule lol
 
Would my dad count?

Before I got my trailer test he took me out to couple of shows even though he hates towing, and now lets me use his nice new shiny 4x4 to tow nag about with.

Comes to a couple of shows to watch, and gave me some money to help me buy my horse!

Pretends he knows nothing about them, but I know perfectly well he can ride (my aunt taught him many many years ago). Just a shame hes not into riding instead of shooting!
 
He's supportive, but by no means wants to be 'horsey' - just as I'm supportive of his sports, but you aren't ever going to see me on a rugby pitch playing a match! I'll go down and watch him play regularly - just as he'll come down and watch me ride, take photo's and feed them him lots of treats!

It is important to me - neccessarily because its horses, I'd want him to show an interest if my chosen passion was golf or art - but because it is something that is important to me. When I rang him in tears when he was in the pub with his friends because my horse had suddenly gone very acutely lame in the field and we couldn't get him to weightbear, much less walk to his stable, he came immediately - not because he is any good with horses, but because I was upset and needed his support whilst waiting for the vet.

He'll do any odd, mannual jobs that we can't manage - he was great when we had a plumbing problem and the Y/O was away!

ETA: He'll come keep me company at big horse events (if I'm not going with horsey friends) like Hickstead, Olympia, HOYS, Burghley etc - which he quite likes to watch for a day out, just as I've gone to see things like a steam railway exhibition which under normal circumstances, I'd have no interest in - but he wanted to go, so I went with him!
 
I am lucky - my OH loves my pony in much the same way that he loves my dogs. He enjoys giving him a cuddle and says he is the nicest pony he knows etc etc but doesn't have much interest in riding or any of the in depth stuff. He does like taking pictures of me riding though which is brilliant.

He has had a few lessons and would like to go hunting but he prefers the more practical stuff like moving bales of haylage around with at tractor or towing. He doesn't mind mucking out but I generally won't let him because everyone but me Does It Wrong LOL - he takes this in good part
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He is very supportive though and especially since I've been pregnant has done loads to help out. ATM he even drives me up to see my pony everyday and does his water because he doesn't want me lifting or driving into the middle of nowhere on my own (I am now technically overdue with the baby so he isn't being entirely over-protective!).

He seems to understand how important my hobby is to me which is really nice as my last boyfriend was really jealous and vile about the horse - once when my then horse was on box-rest he started a massive row with me about going to feed him/muck him out etc saying "well if you aren't even going to ride him, you are being totally selfish taking up the day spending time with him". I pointed out that if I DIDNT go up to him, he would be stuck in a filthy bed with no hay or water but he basically said "so what"
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I chucked that boyfriend pretty sharpish after that.
 
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As title says really. My husband is tolerant of my horsey interests, but not overly enthusiastic. I know he can't understand why I would want to spend so much time/money on my horse, and he's not really interested in discussing anything horse related in any great detail! This doesn't bother me particularly, I have plenty of horsey friends to bounce ideas off, and my mum is still really interested and enjoys coming to see me at shows etc.

Just interested to hear other people's opinions! (Hope I'm not going to open a can of worms here!!)
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Its very similar for me as it is for yourself. My OH does not really understand it and has no interest, but I have plenty of great friends who will listen or talk horse, and then ofcourse there is here to get my fix
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I would like it and prefer it if he showed an interest but things are what they are
 
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"toe boots" (over reach boots) and "shin boots" (brushing boots)!

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Tee hee! My OH often talks about Monty's "leggings" (bandages) and Zoom's "crackle" (grackle)

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Ha ha, oh yes, Fin's brushing boots are his 'shin pads' and his sweat rug is his 'string vest'. OH also asks me random questions like 'was Fin surprised to see you tonight?' if I've gone up on an evening I don't normally ride!
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Well I'm going to make you all very sick with envy.

My OH is the best!

He encouraged me to but a field, then proceeded to fence all 11.5 acres by hand, post and rail with stock fencing, then built me 7 stables a feed room, hay barn and tack room in block then render it all, then built me a 25m by 50m school. how spoilt am I.

He isn't horsey at all, had no building experience but is very quick to learn. He does come down the yard and help, he stacks all the hay etc we get in for my horses and the liveries.

He often fixes things for the liveries, ie horseboxes, cars, new nameplates on doors etc.

he does all this in his spare time after working full time all week and he doesnt moan when I come in stinking from the yard.

He doesnt come to shows as he'd be bored, if I go away with work he looks after them, all 3.

he doesn't mind socializing with our horsey friends and I know for certain that if I kicked him out there would be a line of women desparate to get their hands on him, so I consider myself very lucky!

He knows every detail about my nags and never asks about how much they cost (i pay everything). the main problem I have is fitting in competing with seeing him at weekends. my compromise is less jumping and more dressage as I can compete during the week when he's working.

don't you all just hate me now
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Ha ha, Mr FigJam does that too! I call it "Horsey Tourettes" as he'll just randomly shout out a horsey word or term that he's heard/read in one of my magazines and then look really smug!
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He also usually has little/no clue what he's actually saying, although every now and then does have a useful insight. He also has funny names for stuff such as "toe boots" (over reach boots) and "shin boots" (brushing boots)!

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Actually E I think it was your OH who gave a piece of advice that I always chant in my head when jumping - ride each fence as if you've just had a refusal (ie determined!).


My own BF has zero interest in horses and pretends to yawn when I start talking about them lol
but then again he just spent a few hours on Sunday helping me lift and clean my rubber matting which has to be the most disgusting thing ever
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He's quite nervous of horses and thinks they cost a ridiculous amount but he was actually quite helpful when Tara was on box rest and he always asks how I get on at shows - he is quite impressed when I come home with actual winnings.


The funniest part is that all of our friends, his family and his work colleagues take a great interest in Tara and always want to visit so he's getting sucked in on all sides - I've even taken them out trekking at my last yard.
 
I am very lucky, and his support is VERY important to me. After a few failed relationships because they weren't interested or bothered. However - I have horsey friends who are quite happy their OHs aren't interested.

Laurence will do haynets, water, muck out, groom, rugs etc etc - he used to ride when he was younger and would love to again - I've just never had anything suitable. He was there when River was put down, and always asks how they are and shows a genuine interest. He also always sorts things out for the other girls on the yard - he spends his Saturday mornings filling up everyones haynets and water for them so we can have a cuppa and a natter...

To me his level of support is wonderful - he never moans, always listens and actually normally has some pretty good ideas! Luca loves him as well which is helpful and will frequently behave better for him than me!

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Very - it is so much easier to justify the expense of buying a horse when "we" are saving the cost of two lots of lessons, and when he's around to do the horse while I am at work etc.

It is brilliant to be able to share a hobby especially as it is such a time consuming hobby.

Our first "date" he spent the day helping me at riding club combined training, later dates included spectating at HOYS, Blenheim & Chatsworth Horse Trials, Badminton and Your Horse Live.

He's a fab rider and we support each other and have lessons together. We have both groomed for the other at shows, called dressage tests, reassured the other when it is all going wrong and so on.

The only thing is he tells me off and gets really cross when I fall off. You'd think he'd realise I don't do it on purpose but he reckons it is due to unnecessary risk taking........ whatever! I reckon he is a jinx (I fell of twice in close sucession while he was watching me jump, once literally just as he walked into the indoor).

We went riding together on honeymoon and his work now allows us to go to horse trials and stuff on expenses. The only downside there is that we have to take turns to watch.

So yes it is important, I would hate it if my OH was completely disinterested.
 
Overwhelmingly important - and just as overwhelmingly absent
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No discouragement, simply no interest.

I'd love an OH to share horses with. I guess I am horsier in terms of horse-power than when we met and our son is totally immersed in them ATM, so not just my indulgence. Makes no odds though. He has five classic cars, a share in a small plane and a tractor and I think he is a bit OTT with all that, but am always happy to hear what he intends to do with them. It just doesn't happen the other way about.
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I want bosworth's OH
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Oh helps with horses as seeing we own our own stables acres as such he does help fencing and such and he does ride out now and then and enjoys it. Many years ago 40 odd He played golf and I bought my first pony, after half hour with pony he was irriated about the amount of time I spent with her, his game use to take 3-4 hours. He would like me to go to golf do's, but didn't like my horsey do's. So one evening we came to an agreement no golf for me and no horsey do's for him and I have kept to that agreement to this day much to his disgust. but golf do's he goes on his own.
 
Mine is an odd one. He can be supportive, he will moan and groan about costs one minute then next help out. It was a big bone of contention at one point but he seems to have mellowed. More recently when one horse was ill and it meant more time spent with them he moaned , he moaned that they were no use as I dont ride them. Hes never there so how does he know, he doesnt thats the thing. He said hed love to ride at one point but doesnt want to do any of the associated jobs that come with a horse . yours confused of midlands
 
He's not interested in riding, but loves hanging around them. It's critical for me, these days. During the bad snow there were 7 days when I couldn't get to them. He did them for 5 of those days, came with me on another and lent me his 4wd for the remaining day. He's also offered to poo-pick to help me catch up. What a saint!!!!
 
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