How much does your OH get involved/help out with the horses?

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The reason I ask is because there was a girl at my old yard who's OH used to come down with her EVERY night. He's not horsey atall, just used to watch her do everything and follow her around like a puppy, they were joined at the hip.

My OH will come to shows with me for support or come down the yard with me to help me if I specifically ask but TBH i'm pretty anal and don't like him getting involved too much & like to keep it as MY hobby! He loves the horses & is interested in what I do but I couldn't imagine him coming down the yard with me everytime, he would just get in the way, try to help out really badly & annoy the hell out of me!
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Mine is pretty good actually, he'll help with turning out, is great at filling haynets and water buckets, will skip out when asked but is crap at properly mucking out. Can rug up if required though he's not really comfortable doing it! Also good for moving bales etc. [God that sounds like I take much advantage of his good nature
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He doesn't ride though but will come to shows and help if I need it though I tend to not bother if its the older horses that are going - only the babies.
 
Im exactly the same as you - its MY hobby. But OH has ridden my horse once and knows how to change a rug and fill haynets etc.

I could not have him with me every night at the farm, Id get really annoyed!
 
Mine had his own horse but recently sold it due to work commitments and the fact that I was the one mucking it out for several months! - he will look after the other lot when I am away competing over a weekend which is great, or use the yard for vehicle repairs, however, as far as attending shows, thats my time with my friends or daughter so he steers well clear....unless of course a beer tent is present!!

He will help if necessary but as he works for feed merchant type thing he has usually seen enough yards not to want to visit ours!
 
Mine will come down occasionally at weekends in winter when its my turn to get the horses in. He still can't reliably tell the difference between my 16h tbx and my friend's 14.3 section D in the dark. He will also come to shows if I've no-one else to help, but spends most of his time checking out what cars people are using for towing.

I wouldn't like him being round the yard all the time. Our arrangement suits us fine - we each have our own hobbies, but lots of things we like to do together as well.

Each to their own though.
 
Mine builds menages, yards ect for a living. He is not horsey as in he wouldnt come to the yard or shows, but i suppose he sees enough horses in work hours to last him a lifetime!
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I would love him to come a watch at shows every now and again tho.
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Mine will come when forced! or if I need a had with some thing in particular, he will come out with the trailer only if I have asked every one else first though!

I have known a few girls in the past but I currently know a woman 30ish who has her OH not a horse person, follow her round like a puppy - I think its a bit sad & would it would irritate me if mine was a puppy, At first I thought it was the bloke, but its actually the woman, she seems to be one of them people who cant be or do any thing on her own. Just don't understand.
 
mine doesnt do anything to help at all!!! damn men .. im wanting him to build me a new stable as my yearling wont be in this one much longer if she carries on growing!

ps how the heck do you get piccys on ive tried allsorts!
 
We keep ours at home but my OH turns mine out in the winter. Poo picks the fields with me every evening, mucks out the stables (which he built) for me some mornings and does hay etc. He also empties my barrow and leads in 1000 bales of hay which we cut.
When I ride in the manege (which he built) he sits with a cuppa or will have a ride sometimes. He comes to every show as well. If it wasnt for him help I would struggle to keep them.

Yes, I am a lucky spoilt brat and no he is not available to loan!
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Ha ha. My OH is great, not too OTT but shows enough love to my beast and helps out with anything. If he drops me off he will come out to the field and say hi and give Drum and any other horse that approaches lots of fuss and mints. He drives the lorry for us to and will wait while me and my friend go off hunting and come back pretty wasted then clean the lorry out after to he he. I have dragged him in the ring to groom for me, which he loved as he got to give the good looking ride judge leg ups.

But funily enough when I need help with carrying things and dragging water buckets he is usualy too busy playing football with the kids or off walking dogs. So he sounds like your worst nightmare but perfect for me as he knows when to leave me to it and doesn't moan about me getting in late from the yard and stuff.

Saying all that he did make the silly mistake last week of asking who would I chose if I had to between him and the horse
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YOu should all make your OH read this, makes them all sound so lovely! (well most anyway)

I don't have an OH but my head coachwoman does and when he's around (he's an engineer in the army so he can be away alot) he will do anything you ask, even if he doesn't know how to do it and hes strong which helps with the big babies. Plus once he walked through the stables (you have to to get to the coachmans flat) with the weekly tesco's shop and we saw he had lots of bacon, anyway we joked that could be have some bacon sarnies, 20mins later, best bacon sandwiches I've ever had! If she ever ditches him, I'm in there! lol
 
I suppose I am one of the 'annoying' people who has their OH stuck to their side!!

I don't care, I like it! My OH can do everything... He mucks out, feeds grooms, tacks up etc etc. He is trying to learn to ride but as I have the most unpredictable horse in the world, we are doing things slowly... he will get there though!
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My OH will have nothing to do with the horse; in the three years we've been together I think he's seen her perhaps two or three times and never for more than a quick pat or to give her a carrot. I couldn't ask him to fetch her in or to change rugs or anything as he wouldn't know how. I think he sees her as somewhat of a liability, something that I pour money into when it could be spent on things that to him are essential (new car, bigger tv, whatever).

I remind him frequently that she's been around a lot longer than he has, and he is then happy to let her be.
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My OH is really good he always comes to the farm with me, although sometimes it's nice to go on my own and not feel pressured to rush!!!

In the depths of winter when I was pregnant he would turn out/get in & muck out on the way to/from work. The downside was I didn't see Neddy for most of the week.

Not bad for someone who was petrified of them 4 years ago!!!
 
Mine is great. He helps when I need it and also lets me have my own time up the yard without feeling rushed. He has even stated learning to ride and the other evening I left hime in the school riding on his own and I came down to see how he was getting on and he was doing work without stirrups - I was very impressed!

Especially as when I met him 8 years OK he siad he didn't like animals!
 
My Oh is great, brings in, changes rugs when necessary, does hay, fab at mucking out.. (better than me!) he even poo picks without being asked. He even likes to give her a groom and he knows where her scratchy spot is.

Sometimes she can be a handfull coming in from the field, but he is great with her, he knows how to handle her really well.. and in return he gets to have a play on her every now and again and she is a complete angel for him. (well most of the time ) considering before he met me he new nothing about horses.. I'd say he is pretty great around her and only too willing to help.
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Can't comment about OHs but my parents don't really show any interest now I can drive, they'll ask how he is but they haven't actually seen him for about 6 months, haven't been to see me compete for even longer! (I live at home btw) My bro is much better he comes down with me when he isn't busy and 'helps' me (plays about with Ross while I muck out etc!) he is great company though!
 
The answer is loads.
Mine when I met him barely knew the difference between a horse & a donkey, a few years into our relationship he came to a show with me, he was filming it & as I fell off it recorded him saying, "better see how the horse is!".....Not "Hope she's ok"
He's great, he mucks out/catches in fact anything. I agree that he doesn't do the bed as well, but then I'd say the same about washing up!
He learnt to ride after a few years & now that our youngster has grown too big for me, he'll take over riding her once she's fully broken & I've got myself another which is smaller.
 
Well it took a whole year to get my OH anywhere near the yard!!
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But since then he comes with me maybe once every other weekend or both days at the weekend every other week.

I like it when he comes with me, he helps with carrying things, leading Blue about and holding him for me, just simple stuff where he isn't likely to get hurt or scared! He also usually brings the dog with him too so dog plays with the other dogs
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Also i don't see him very often (read as Fri night -Sun lunch each week) so if he doesn't come to yard with me one day at the weekend thats a lot less time i spend with him that weekend
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Well, my OH is a farmer, so need I say more? He sees any animal as pointless if it doesn't make money, and he makes out that he can't understand why I get so sentimental over them.

Although I have seen him get upset a few times over my horses - when we lost our foal (out of his favourite mare) he was pretty upset, and kept stroking the foal, apologising to her.

I rely on him for all the driving to shows etc as well, although I really want to take my lorry test, as at the moment I can't do anything in July/August because he is busy with harvest, or January/February because he is busy with lambing.

He used to just drive me there, and sit in the truck while I did everything, but now I have roped him into showing the foals whilst I show the mares, so I am slowly winning him over. Still wont muck out though...
 
He's pretty good, considering he never grew up with animals and thought that horses wagged their tails when they were happy
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. He asked to ride Brandy once, so I led him round the hayfield and it was enough for him to see why I would never let him ride her alone, but he's stupendously good for anything heavy or manual. However, though he'll readily pet/lead Brandy and would probably do more if I asked, he only bothers with her because she's my superstar. I think it helps that she's a mare, because in his head females should be loved and petted, whereas males should be rough and tumbled about and wrestled with
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. Men. The whole puppy-thing would infuriate me though - yard-time is my time with Brandy. Home-time is my time with him.
 
Mine does *everything* - can feed, do rugs, do feet, tack up, do studs... He can even lunge if I'm away auditing. He also drives the lorry to lessons & shows & grooms for me. And also does stuff around the yard like fencing & building.

He was very good at helping me nurse Cat during a serious accident & then a couple of years later a serious (terminal) illness.

Bless him!!
 
My chap isn't too bad really when i ask him to come down he will come, and he will get the shovel and do buddys bed for me without me even asking. And he does the water and carries it for me. I might start getting him to come down every night then i wont have to much out.
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My OH doesn't get involved at all, although he would love to if he could. He's extremely allergic and had to be rushed to hospital as he couldn't breathe the first time he came to the yard :-(

He would love to come to shows etc with me, and does sometimes come and watch from afar!
 
Mine is good for asking to check and feed and will also come up with me if I ask, but he's got no inclination to ride, whatsoever. Shame, really, as I think he'd enjoy a plod on a steady cob. He doesn't like the fact that they don't have gears and clutch though
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Mine will come down occasionally at weekends in winter when its my turn to get the horses in. He still can't reliably tell the difference between my 16h tbx and my friend's 14.3 section D in the dark.

Thats me laugh so much! Its true my OH used to be like that but he comes down a few times a month or something not much! Hes great with Sid and I would trust him to do Sid just wouldnt trust Sid with OH as he tends to bager him into giving him lots of treats etc as he knows oh is softer than me lol!
 
Mine doesn't do a stick! He's a bit nervous of horses so I can't expect him to do anything. He is very supportive though and will come and watch me at shows and likes to accompany me on foot on the odd hack. He even looks out for new places to go to with the trailer so we can go for different hacks/walks. He also gave me the money for my last horse so I'm not complaining!
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My OH rides much better than me... Sob. We keep our horses together which is really nice. That said, he sometimes gives me lessons which usually degenerates into a large and unseemly row because he's so rude about my riding... Still, he's great to have around and I can rely on him 100%. Plus he can fix anything about the yard!
 
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