How much to charge a sharer *update*

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For those who were interested I did as suggested and went back to the girls parents and offered 3 days riding per week and 5 days playing around including school holidays with no jobs (they can't commit to coming up) for £30 per week and she says no thinks it's too much.
Glad I did it now because it's been costing me £100 per week in the bad weather because I can't get up there and I haven't even been paid the £10 we agreed on when she has ridden 6 days.
Going to advertise I think when the weather improves for either full loan to stay at the current yard or 5 days share hopefully with jobs to help me out a bit.
One of the grooms was interested so I might speak to her and see if she wants to take over.
 
They don't know a bargain!

Good luck in finding a more suitable arrangement.

I'm between sharers right now and I've learnt that finding the right person for my horse, for me and for the sharer really is the most important thing.
 
Your so right and my very nice email took 6 days to be replied too. I think from the tone they were calling my bluff.

I am really happy to have my horse back I can go all weekend at my convenience and play with brush and annoy him on my own how sad do I sound? It's been such a stress you don't realise how emotionally invested you are in them.

Il make a very comprehensive list of what I want and wait it out £10 is neither here nor there I will make sure I get the right one now.
 
I'm glad to hear that you've managed to do something about it, and I hope that you now feel that you have more time to enjoy him. How did the 13 year old take it?
 
Well done for getting it sorted - bet it is a weight of your shoulders - good luck with finding another sharer, if thats what you decide :)
 
I have found that so many people expect to ride for nothing these days, I advertised fo someone to hack with 2 or 3 times a week as I have two horses one is not confident so thought it would be nice for them to both get out together, no mucking out or chores just riding asking for £50 a month and had people asking if I would take less as they are a bit short of cash at the moment, was messed about quite a bit by one person still looking for someone dont hold out much hope!
 
I'm glad you took our advice, they were taking the right royal pee. Ten pounds is such a small amount I bet you don't even notice being out of pocket..... especially as they didn't pay it anyway! Good luck finding someone much more suitable. Do have some form of contract so that you can refer back to it if needed.
 
Pinkvboots said:
I have found that so many people expect to ride for nothing these days, I advertised fo someone to hack with 2 or 3 times a week as I have two horses one is not confident so thought it would be nice for them to both get out together, no mucking out or chores just riding asking for £50 a month and had people asking if I would take less as they are a bit short of cash at the moment, was messed about quite a bit by one person still looking for someone dont hold out much hope!
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Gosh I'm a long term sharer and would love that arrangement. There are some really good sharers I consider myself one. Hope you both find someone soon who restores your faith in people like me.
 
Having just read your thread, if your 13 year old is in the North west give her my details! I'd love someone who adored my horse, cleaned my tack, noticed that she was getting sweaty or long feet and who everyone else on the yard said how lovely she was and good with the horse! I don't charge my sharers either. I feel a bit sorry for her, it wasn't her fault all the adults involved didn't get organised and sort things out in the first place.

I hope you find someone that suits you. But think very carefully about what you want and if you are actually happy about sharing him at all deep down (and I say this because I have picked holes in sharers who have come about my mare and occasionally I think I'm just being a bit overly possessive. With my husband's horse I can step back easier!)
 
I think it is worthwhile waiting for the right person, not really a good idea if they have no money, I know there are people who have no money, but they need to find another hobby.
I think OP was correct to end it as they were not flexible, it is a bit of a lottery, and I feel a bit sorry for the girl, but overall she did OK.
 
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Tess Love said:
Gosh I'm a long term sharer and would love that arrangement. There are some really good sharers I consider myself one. Hope you both find someone soon who restores your faith in people like me.
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Thank you so much my main concern is finding the right person, they are Arab's so not everyones ideal ride but they are well behaved and are schooled really well and they are great fun if you like something with a bit of spirit, I will keep trying and hopefully someone will come along.
 
The girl was fine I did offer less fixed days for a lesser amount and that she could ride him till I found someone else but the parent was extremely rude. He doesn't have 'time to waste' bringing her up and wouldn't commit to fixed days. Then he said she wouldn't be coming with immediate effect they also didn't pay the £10 last week and rode 6 days..

She was a nice kid but they wanted total flexibility for £10 afraid that isn't how it works. I don't think anyone will agree to that.
 
People just expect something for nothing these days.

When I was looking for a sharer for my mare(safe as houses, does a bit of everything) I was asking for £20 a week for unlimited riding and some poo picking. I had loads of people say it was too expensive! I got annoyed with it and replied to them with a full breakdown of horse ownership costs and oddly, didnt get any replies back. The sharer I did find is amazing, pays on time and does more than her fair share around the yard.

Amazing sharers are out there, so don't give up.
 
I ask for a small contribution of £30 pm, unlimited riding, including additional ponies for friends / siblings, (this usually translates to hacking once a week, which is enough for most people); no chores, but then no facilities to speak of either, as a standing order. I figure if someone will commit to a SO, they're the type of reliable person who's genuinely committed, and it means we never have to talk about money again, which suits me.

I've had a number of lovely sharers, and the relationships have lasted years.
 
Bens_Mum said:
She was a nice kid but they wanted total flexibility for £10 afraid that isn't how it works. I don't think anyone will agree to that.
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Unless your me :lol: My rider rides as and when and pays nothing. I try and work my pony from the ground in between so hes fit enough. I wanted him to go to 3 low key dressage clinics, all paid for by me, but my rider helps out at a yard on the day the clinics are on so wouldnt do it. I eventually twisted his arm but as he isnt available to ride at all before hand as hes doing work experience and wont have time for that and riding. That combined with the fact its going to cost me £100 a time for transport and clinic fees I'm just not going to bother as its not fair on my pony to do that. I cant/dont ride at the minute, so I wanted to get him out and about and play owner.

I'm looking for someone else to share the pony with him. Same deal, no jobs, no payment, just riding and lessons/support from me and all expense paid trips out, and I am really struggling to find someone! Hes a lovely pony as well, very green, but very sweet and bombproof safe. As a kid with 2 ponies of my own I rode anything and everything and loved every minute. I think I'm offering a lovely opportunity but no one is interested, well apart from the 15stone but looks heavier kid who learnt to ride at a terrible riding school, oh and the very average looking late teens girl rider, who will ride but wants me to pay her £25 an hour and have the pony caught in and tacked up for her!!
 
Well wonders never cease mr rude now says he will do the reduced days for the reduced amount still in an unpleasant tone. She will do all jobs on one day unless giving me 24 hours notice otherwise. I really feel for the child who my friend now tells me is devastated so I have agreed.
Leaves me with most of the week to myself and a small contribution lets hope now it's all written down it helps to keep all parties happy.
If not I tried! Wish me luck!
 
I think you need to reiterate to Mr Rude that a "casual" arrangement won't work. He's already admitted he doesn't have "time to waste" but you need to politely remind him that horses are living, breathing creatures who need attending to. You can't just forget about them for a day because you are "too busy", that's not how it works. Of course the child is devastated, but don't let guilt cloud your judgment.....
 
Pinkvboots said:
I have found that so many people expect to ride for nothing these days, I advertised fo someone to hack with 2 or 3 times a week as I have two horses one is not confident so thought it would be nice for them to both get out together, no mucking out or chores just riding asking for £50 a month and had people asking if I would take less as they are a bit short of cash at the moment, was messed about quite a bit by one person still looking for someone dont hold out much hope!
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I think the best share arrangements are where both sides benefit, and both sides feel they are getting a good deal.

How you structure that depends on you what you have to offer and what you expect in return. There is no right or wrong.

If you can work out what you want and work out what you can give, then you can hopefully find a match.

Good sharers are great.
 
Bens_Mum said:
Well wonders never cease mr rude now says he will do the reduced days for the reduced amount still in an unpleasant tone. She will do all jobs on one day unless giving me 24 hours notice otherwise. I really feel for the child who my friend now tells me is devastated so I have agreed.
Leaves me with most of the week to myself and a small contribution lets hope now it's all written down it helps to keep all parties happy.
If not I tried! Wish me luck!
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Hopefully it'll work out on a regular basis and its not just because the weekend is here.
Has he handed over last weeks £10?
 
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Honey08 said:
Having just read your thread, if your 13 year old is in the North west give her my details! I'd love someone who adored my horse, cleaned my tack, noticed that she was getting sweaty or long feet and who everyone else on the yard said how lovely she was and good with the horse! I don't charge my sharers either.
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Where in the North West are you based if you don't mind me asking? I would love an opportunity like this (I'm a little older than 13 though)
 
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