How not to make friends and influence people

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I thought popularity contests were left at school but apparrantly not..........

It amazes me how some people pick holes in some peoples horses whilst other posters horses are praised even when they're, shall we say, not perfect. I posted the other day asking for help with an advert and received a couple of comments that both upset and offended me.

1. I dont recall asking for people to pick holes or comment on her conformation or whether or not they would buy her, as far as I know advertising isn't allowed on this board. I was asking for help marketing her and an idea of price.

and 2. I once heard a saying that if you haven't something nice to say - dont say it. Everyones horses are their pride and joy, from the ugliest nag to the stunning show ponies and no-one wants to hear negative comments, unless they ask for it for appraisal purposes.

I for one do not believe that the perfect horse exists. I have yet to find one with 100% perfect conformation. The genetic lottery ensures that there WILL be some faults, even if they are minor. It is slightly my fault for putting them up, she isn't standing properly and she is actually straight, I will wait until her foal coat comes out and we'll see what you guys make of her then and perhaps some apologies will be in order.

That said there are some absolutely STUNNING horses on here too
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People were just commenting on the photos as you asked which one to use as an advert piccie, and they were replying with their choice and opinion from a buyers point of view. At the end of the day, it's only a forum, if someone says something to you that you don't like, you shouldn't get upset over it
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I know what you mean, but I'm sure people weren't trying to be horrible, just honest.
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Will you post the link?? xx
 
I was one of those posters who commented on the foals legs, sorry ! I meant that if you used that photo I would be put off cos it was not flattering to the foal

apology if I offended you
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I seem to remember HorseGroupie saying it was probably down to hyperflexion? Well, I wouldn't have known that if HG hadn't pointed it out, and I expect other people might look a piccy and possibly be worried. I don't think anyone mean't to offend.
 
yes was about the foal.

Wasn't asking which pic to use as much as marketing advice such as should I advertise her as a show/dressage potential or allrounder perhaps eventer and an idea on price as some people think arabs are worthless (particularly pb's) and others love them and will pay a reasonable price and I have no idea as some horses that have *huge* price tags sell and others that are equal but cheaper dont and I've no idea why looking at the horses and reading the ads. Think some of it is advertising at what ppl think is the right price for that animal - perhaps they assume something is wrong with it if they think 2 cheap or think it's amazing if it has a huge price tag. its all very
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I read NGs post and she asked for advice on how to market her foal and she put the pics up to help us help her with advice, i think people just read it too quick and didn't realise what she was asking (i hope).
 
i missed that post,just gone and had a look and i think she is scrummy and you can post her to me if you like,bless her.
i know it didnt help you with advert but had to say she was a cutey.
dont get upset though,perhaps peeps read it the wrong way
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I was one of those posters who commented on the foals legs, sorry ! I meant that if you used that photo I would be put off cos it was not flattering to the foal

apology if I offended you
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Apology not necessary Zigzag but thanks. Think perhaps I didn't explain what I was asking well enough
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as I wasn't thinking of using any of those pics, except perhaps the one where shes almost eating the camera cause it's cute!
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If I had been asking which pic I would have totally agreed with you that it doesn't show her well and isn't actually an accurate portrayal of her conformation. As I said earlier I shouldn't really have posted them and given people the wrong imression of her. Lesson learned!
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Feel a bit silly now.
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lol I apologise for getting wrong end of stick and ranting!

Pic wise: I'm actually hoping to get one side on of her 'floating' trot, and a nice one stood side on still.
 
your horse is a beauty tbh f*ck what people say, personally i find it that they are insecure about there horses looks . i think all horses are beauty full and if people think, milton use to be the milk cart horse and he turned out to be one of the bestest in the world
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I wouldn't worry too much - I didn't see your post the first time so went back to have a look and couldn't see the photos anyway.

I don't think that comments are necessarily popularity based, most people are genuinely trying to help, even when they maybe misunderstand your original post.
 
I must say I went to look at the post in question expecting to see some horrible and nasty comments, but instead saw people being helpful and trying to give constructive comments about how to present your foal to best advantage.

I'm sure if you had just put up the photos and just said "Look at my gorgeous foalie" then you will have just got lots of appreciative comments. However, because you asked for advice on selling, people were just trying to help you find pics that showed her in the best light, although I now understand that wasn't your intention.

I think we can all be very protective of our horses, especially if it is one bred ourselves, and can be a bit over-sensitive at times. She is a lovely foal and I hope you can find her a great home. I can't give any advice on how to market her though!
 
Hey, it happens all the time simply because everyone is different, everyone had a different opinion. I have learned to bite my lip a lot more than I would like to when it comes being on the forum. I didn't see your thread because I'm not around much, but I bet you have stunning horses, they look great from your avatar.
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