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littlen

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We have a horrible family on our yard consisting of father,mother and 3 horrible daughters.

All 4 are nightmares. They cause mayhem on the yard. Dont follow any rules. Feed other peoples horses. Offer peoples horses to their friends to ride without permission. Leave mess everywhere and have something to say about everything. They have also taken to feeding my overweight lamimitic horse a bucket of carrots a day, as he is 'starved' (muzzled , restricted diet and haylage and on restricted grazing)

Today at the yard hell broke loose as 3 different liveries ended up creating WW3 arguing about something or other as the yard is very cliquey and arguments happen alot (most I find entertaining in all honesty) Horrible father came around the corner and being nosy decided to add fuel to the fire, walking over and telling one of the girls (who is in her early teens) that he would not have her scrawny horse given to him and that it was disgusting. The horse in question is a 3 year old traditional cob who is going through the gangly foal stage but the girl has put so much time and effort into him and she was very hurt by his comments. The argument esculated and now about 10 people arn't talking to eachother.
Said man has also made it no secret he does not like my horse either (proberbly as he has 3 bay tbs, and my horse is neither bay or tb ;) )

Now this got me thinking and I dont know how upset I would get if someone said they didnt like my horse to my face...
I know every horse is not everyones cup of tea but I have spent endless hours with my boy and I would hate for someone to insult him, but on the other hand I would love him regardless so in a way I wouldnt care?
I am always so proud when he gets compliments so in a way I must care how he looks, since I spend hours making him spotless before venturing out etc.

So, out of interest, if someone came upto you and said your horse was ugly. Or that they didnt like it for whatever reason how would you react?
 
According to her last owners, a prospective buyer said that our new girl was ugly - we just laughed and said he must have been either stupid or trying to knock the price down.

If anyone was to say she was ugly now or anything else negative, I would know they were stupid - she is the most perfect pony there ever was :)

So, I probably just laugh at them or say 'oh bless'. :)
 
If I was in a good mood I would probably laugh and ask them if they had looked in a mirror lately. If I was in a bad mood they would probably regain consciousness in the local A&E :-)
 
I would not be impressed if someone came up to me and said my horse was ugly, how dare they. Im afarid they would get the sharp end of my tongue.
 
I'd laugh and ignore them as to me, it isn't what other people think, it's what I think that counts and I hope I already know my horses and their faults, whatever they may be. I certainly wouldn't allow myself to be hurt; sticks and stones and all that but I probably would jokingly point out all their other faults too so that they would know whatever they say can't hurt me; I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of that!
 
I would not take offence at all really. In this case it does not sound like these people are people whose opinion you would care about? People also like different breeds and types. Many horses have some or other conformation fault that are plain for all to see, and so what?

I didn't pick my horse for being "pretty" - but for personality, talent and breeding. So I would take more offence if people criticized those aspects of her ;-)
 
Ditto Foo, on a bad day it would be a KO.

the stuck up lass that rides past my feild on her "perfect Arab" laughed that my 2 welshies were manky hairballs, do i care not hugely my little ones spent this winter loving the snow & were still out 24/7 & are healthy as anything, whereas her Precious was shut in for 13 weeks & has developed a nasty cough from the straw she was feeding (she told Y/O not to feed hay as she couldnt afford it)
 
Well i would n't want to be at a yard with those people. Feeding my horse, ridingother peoples horses without permission:eek: and their other unacceptable behaviour would rile me far more than a pathetic comment. I am usually the type of person that takes things people say to heart, and am bothered if i feel someone is narky with me. this is because i generally go out of my way to be kind to people and do not like bad feeling (who does) I was brought up to have good morals, am polite & always use good manners and hate to see anyone upset. I am also gutted if i feel i have ever upset anyone. But i have had to realise that not everyone id like this. TBH nasty comments upset me but not for long and i would just not give them the time of day. I would also move yards, too much stress for me :D
 
I used to call my old pony ugly before anyone else could get in with it- he had massive feet, knees and head and looked like he'd been put together in the dark with a bog brush mane and tail. However, he was friendly and lovely (if very stoppy!) and I adored him. I didn't mind tbh- I knew he wasn't the best looking, but I liked him anyway.

My sister used to have a supremely ugly little cremello, with massive ears and pale blue eyes set quite far apart. However, he was a rosette machine and got so many extra 'cute' points it was a real joke that he was no oil painting, and anyone who did say anything just got laughed at, because we already knew!

Genuinely wouldn't bother me at all. To me, my horse is lovely and if someone else disagrees then it doesn't really matter because they don't own him, know him or ride him so really haven't got a clue. :D
 
Well, it is kind of an unnecassarily rude thing to do but I wouldn't let it bother me too much. Everyone has different tastes after all. That said, when my daughter was a similar age she loved her pony (a bay with a bald face) so much that if anyone said anything negative about his bald face she used to get quite offended.
 
What they thought about my horse would be the least of my concern if I were in your shoes. Why have these people not been chucked off the yard and/or kneecapped?
 
I was told by someone who knows nothing about horses that my ponies were donkeys. This was because all the other horses on the yard were well bred arabs... (mine are welsh x's) His OH was more upset about his comments then i was and told him how rude he was and to appologies. Which he did, and to be honest i really appreciated both the appology and the fact that his OH had words to keep piece on the yard. :)
 
I'd be peed off if anyone said any of my girls were ugly. But I have to say that I took a horse on part ex a few years back and it was ugly, even though I never admitted it to anyone. But having said that he was absolutely fantasic at anything & everything and I could have sold him four times over.
 
I was told the other day by a girl at my yard that she "does not like the gypsy ponies" abandoned in the field, that I have been caring for. I have taken it as her being very ignorant and just am not having anything more to do with her apart from hi and bye !!

A horse lover (imho) will adore all equines whatever make or colour. Grrrrrrrr..
 
littlen said:
So, out of interest, if someone came upto you and said your horse was ugly. Or that they didnt like it for whatever reason how would you react?
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Well I think my mare is beautiful so if someone said otherwise I would perhaps be surprised but not care none the less as she is beautiful to me and I lover her to pieces. Thus it would not matter but I am almost 29 and age brings more wisdom to not take such matters to heart. For a young girl to be told this by an 'adult' is disgusting, if I were the YO I would want them off the yard as they are creating a welfare issue, feeding a bucket of carrots to a laminitic, idiots!
I know my mare is not every ones cup of tea, but she is mine, so I do not care if other people think she is not that great because she means the world to me :)
 
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I can call my horse ugly along with any other adjactive which springs to mind but A&E had better be ready for the person who says nasty things about her
 
As I tend to see Andy's looks through rose tinted glasses (!) if anyone dared criticise him, I would just think them jealous!!
In all seriousness, people are entitled to their opinions of him, the only time I have rolled my eyes and counted to ten was when a stupid little know it all girl made repeated comments about his forelock!! Yes I know its pathetic (and I do call it his "pathetic little forelock"), but really there is no need to go on about it for 10 mins!!
Regardless of what people say or think, I know he isnt perfect but he is near enough perfect for me and I wouldn't change him for the world!!
 
OOoooh don't get me started! :mad:

I got the pony from a friend who had paid rather a lot, shall we say, for him. I mentioned this to a girl on the yard, and she said, "for that price, you could get half of my horse!" (The implication being that half her horse was better than a whole my horse.) Which two legs of your horse should I buy? The two he stand up on all the time, while he's waving the other two in the air? :mad:

Then there's the unsolicited conformation/weight critics...yes, I know he has a belly, and we've been fighting it all year. And yes, I'm aware his back is still a little hollow, although if you compare it to older pics, you'll see the improvement. And yes, his bum is a bit high, but actually, it's mosly his back and his belly that make it look that way. :mad:

I seem to be touchy... :p
 
I'd assume the person calling my horse 'ugly' was suffering from temporary blindness brought about by too much self-pleasuring, as we all know that's what happens.

That or immense jealousy 'cos my horse is so brilliant. :)
 
Holy sh.t! You sound like you are at the livery from hell!

Who the hell does Mr Big Nuts think he is?

I would never say anything remotely deregotary about someone elses pride and joy unless they asked for an honest opinion and even then it would be said sensitively.

If a twerp like that made any comment regarding my horses without me asking and replied like that, he would get such a rollicking. I would insult every single member of his family including his cat whether he had one or not. You would be able to hear my sweet voice for miles. Hell hath no fury like a 5ft 2in aries.
 
littlen said:
So, out of interest, if someone came upto you and said your horse was ugly. Or that they didnt like it for whatever reason how would you react?
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I'd say: "You're right - he IS a bit ugly! But he's actually a rather nicer person than you are - and you're no oil painting either!" Well, I'd say that if I was in a friendly mood! Otherwise I'd just tell them to FO and DIE! There's no NEED for that sort of rudeness. We all like different things in a horse - we keep a horse because WE like it for one reason or three!

There is almost ALWAYS something nice you can say about someone's much loved horse - and if you can't FIND something nice to say, then keeping quiet is always an option!
 
Unfortunately I do take offense. I know I shouldn't be so sensitive, as I know my horse is amazing and she has done so much for me that other people that don't know us will never understand, but sometimes people rub me up the wrong way. I once hired a school near me and after I had paid, the owner started asking questions about my horse, and I said something about her not always being easy and she replied something along the lines off "well with a back that long she won't ever be able to go on the bit properly", I had been considering having lessons with her but after that comment I went straight off that idea. Her back isn't particularly long, maybe a bit, but now I don't have many problems getting her on the bit, and if I do it's because she is being stubborn.
I also worry sometimes that she could be doing so much more if she was with someone else so comments about how she is going really do get to me - but then I try to get on with it because she is loved, well fed and looked after and at the end of the day that is all that matters. I wouldn't change her for the world, and to me she is one in a million, whatever other people think.
 
I have had alot of nasty things said about my lot - I take no friggin notice!! Yes the welsh is plain but he's 100 times better than the insultee's horse at least mine is an enjoyable ride - and I have nasty things said to me by my pony's breeder - she isn't pig fat and laminitic - to them she's too thin!! take no notice and enjoy your horse!!
 
I am well aware that people look down their noses at my horse (the one I ride), but she is the safest, most genuine horse that will try her best at whatever you ask her to do! She is a coloured cob, and not everyones cup of tea, but anyone that takes the time to get to know her *loves* her!!!

Generally, I am not a 'people person' so I couldnt give a monkeys what anyone else thinks!!
 
Ignore 'em it's nothing to do with them and why should their opinion count anyway, they sound like the family from hell. I have had various comments about all of my horses and ponies, the oldest pony was described by an instructor as "only it's mother could love it". Two years later the pony and my daughter were winning at all the local shows and he came second at Lincoln Show. The instructor actually judged one of the local shows and put him first, I couldn't resist reminding her of what she'd said lol
 
I'm thickskinned and also more than capable of giving as good as I get so thinks like that don't bother me. But god your liver yard sounds a nightmare - surely the YO has some control?!

But I can't be doing with overly sensitive people who huff at the slightest possible insult, intentional or not, and flounce off in floods of metaphorical tears.
 
Pretty is as pretty does in my opinion. Would much rather have an average looking horse that was well behaved and kind natured than something stunning looking that was bad tempered and dangerous to ride.
When I first started back riding 6 years ago after a long break, I worried about what other people thought of me and my horse. I quickly realised that their opinions really didn't matter, because these people weren't important to me.
I do everything with my horse. We gallop over the mountains and on the beach. We've done Cross Country and jumping and done a little bit of Le Trec. Nothing phases him and he does everything I ask of him. He wants to please all the time. Everyone who knows him says he's wonderful and many people have said that they are envious of the relationship we have with each other. That to me is what is important. I love my horse and he loves me back.
So no, I don't care what anyone else says. To me, he is gorgeous ( he really is! lol)
 
I've had people making comments about my girl before (however they never ever dared say it to my face). I've heard everything from "she's a devil horse", "she'll amount to nothing", "it's a plod", "evil horse"..... it annoyed me at the time but made me more determined to prove them wrong! I slowly realised that people that say stuff like that aren't worth your energy bothering about.

Hmmm where are the people that said stuff like that about my horse now? Horseless that's where - as they were absoultely clueless about horses, and gave up trying after their fifth one in 18 months. Where's my girl? Looking stunning and coming on leaps and bounds...so much for "the plod" that was an "evil horse" who would "amount to nothing" and all thanks to my YO who actually believed in her :-)
 
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