PennywithHenry
Well-Known Member
This is absolutely ridiculous behaviour from me-but is it normal? Background is that our landlord decided to sell our house, we kept our horses at home. At the time we had our little fat pony, a pony who was landed on me, my TB gelding who'd recently come back from his loan home and my old rescue mare who's a bit of a mess bless her. My TB went to his new loan home about 4 weeks ago and they're great with him. He's not the easiest of horses, but once you get used to his quirks you quickly realise he's not as menacing as he seems. Being an older gentleman he knows every trick in the book, but he's also very loving, very affectionate and just a pleasure to be around.
I've seen him twice since he left, and to be 100% honest I felt awful. He's clicked with his new owner, adores their mare, is behaving when ridden, has a top class home and wants for nothing, but he's very much hers now. He's always been a one person horse so it's understandable that he's attached himself to the one who cares for him on a daily basis, and obviously I wanted them all to get on well together, but I can't get my head around someone else being in charge, so to speak. I go to see him and they go and get him, he's all lovey dovey with them...I suppose it's jealousy when it comes down to it.
I can't afford him, I now only have the little old lady and my lovely YO charges me a teensy amount and I struggle to scrape it together as my OH's been made redundant, I never had time to ride him, barely had time to groom him....I know I've done the best thing for him, and didn't have any problems at all when he was out at his last loan home, so why do I feel like this? Is it because he's so local? I've been invited to go and see him over the next few days so I'm going to see him tomorrow then I'm leaving well alone for a while unless asked to see him for a specific reason/problem.
Has anyone else ever felt like this when loaning a horse out? The ponies went yesterday and I'm fine about it, yes, I was incredibly sad and sobbed all the way home, but I'm fine now. Maybe it's because in the back of my mind I always planned on finding little jockeys for the ponies, whereas due to the move I was kind of forced into rehoming my big chap? Maybe I'm just a bit down, we've gone from working and having the horses at home to being redundant, skint, living in a terraced house with just one of them on livery.
Whinge over, tell me it gets better
I've seen him twice since he left, and to be 100% honest I felt awful. He's clicked with his new owner, adores their mare, is behaving when ridden, has a top class home and wants for nothing, but he's very much hers now. He's always been a one person horse so it's understandable that he's attached himself to the one who cares for him on a daily basis, and obviously I wanted them all to get on well together, but I can't get my head around someone else being in charge, so to speak. I go to see him and they go and get him, he's all lovey dovey with them...I suppose it's jealousy when it comes down to it.
I can't afford him, I now only have the little old lady and my lovely YO charges me a teensy amount and I struggle to scrape it together as my OH's been made redundant, I never had time to ride him, barely had time to groom him....I know I've done the best thing for him, and didn't have any problems at all when he was out at his last loan home, so why do I feel like this? Is it because he's so local? I've been invited to go and see him over the next few days so I'm going to see him tomorrow then I'm leaving well alone for a while unless asked to see him for a specific reason/problem.
Has anyone else ever felt like this when loaning a horse out? The ponies went yesterday and I'm fine about it, yes, I was incredibly sad and sobbed all the way home, but I'm fine now. Maybe it's because in the back of my mind I always planned on finding little jockeys for the ponies, whereas due to the move I was kind of forced into rehoming my big chap? Maybe I'm just a bit down, we've gone from working and having the horses at home to being redundant, skint, living in a terraced house with just one of them on livery.
Whinge over, tell me it gets better
