bonny
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Maybe remember that not everything in life is a competition, having horses is supposed to be fun especially when you are young. It sounds like you are all judging each other instead of trying to enjoy what you have ?
One or two things to think about. A horse is a lot harder than a pony, you have to think a lot harder and prep for a movement earlier. Ponies for what ever reason are wired to respond quicker, successful pony riders often do not do well on horses. Ponies by the time they get to 10 have had several riders and learn to adapt, family horses may only have one or two riders, they soon become set to one way of being ridden. So you and your mums horse are still learning to speak the same language.
This aways cheers me up. A novice horse makes you look a novice rider. This also applies to a horse that’s a difficult ride. Its more difficult to look proficient on a horse when you are constantly trying to rebalance yourself or prevent it doing something it shouldn't. My daughter once won best rider on our old pony, but he did all the work, he could not go on the wrong leg. The girl that was last in the class was actually the better rider, she made the best of a very naughty ride.
In riding you learn all your life, because it not just learning to sit on a horse, understanding how to get the best out of it. I would imagine that those girls who are trying to bully would struggle. I say trying to bully you because no matter what they say the only person you have to prove anything to is yourself. While having a go at you they are showing their weakness. They are jealous. Don’t try and compete with them, you have your own path. If they say something nasty, smile sweetly. Not reacting or appearing to upset is the most annoying thing. I use this on rude people in shops, the ruder they are the more smiley I become, until they crack and give up.
As I am old fogey you would say that’s easy to say, but
I taught my two daughters to ride on ponies and horses that were perhaps not the best lookers and sometimes they were made fun of at PC, even if they did as well as expensive mounts.
Just keep at it, if you can not afford lessons get a good book about riding and use the exercises in it. Not wanting to improve is the only failure you have to worry about.
Maybe remember that not everything in life is a competition, having horses is supposed to be fun especially when you are young. It sounds like you are all judging each other instead of trying to enjoy what you have ?
Thank you. I have many book at home about dressage, jumping and schooling and with definitely look through them all. Both of us have never completed that's why I see it as impossible. Hopefully by December I would have gone full on hunting with him and would've gone over some of the hunt jumps which will give him and me confidence in each other x
Sounds like there's some jealousy in there.Bless you, that is really sad that other girls are being rude to you when the yard should be your happy place where you can enjoy your pony. That is actually nasty bullying behaviour and you should not have to put up with it. Have they always been like this? Are there others there who are friendly to you?
Yes I know it's meant to be fun and for me it and always will be with Blu. but the comment i have been told about me do sometimes stick in my head and I'm trying to change my mindset and not care what they think x
Shils, I've got to disagree with you here. Not just teens being vile either.I'm sorry, but I just don't believe that the other liveries are saying the things you claim they are saying.
I've been around horses, and their teenage owners for a long time, and I have yet to hear anyone saying 'Kezza, there is no point riding him because you are only going to fail' or 'I feel sorry for your horse because he deserves so much better than you'.
It's just not what real people say.