How to deal with snobby little bitches...

If you treat them with distain, and as ignorant jumped up little to$$ers that know nothing then why should what they do or say or think even bother you.

Head up, dont give them any notice and after a little while they will slither off elsewhere

else point, snigger at them, and when they walk past in there little group be on your phone and loudly say "yep they are doing it again... such a shame only the one brain cell between them......" they wont be able to do a thing as they cant prove its them the are doing it to----
 
junglediva said:
just drop your things on the floor walk up to them grab them by the collar stick your head up against theirs, grit your teeth and say 'wanna take this outside?'......

haha no seriously :D.... just ignore them, they sound like a bunch of immature school girls who just cant live their lives without putting a downer on others. just smile and wave is the word. :P
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I agree with your first comment haha!! I'd have to punch them out! ha!;)
 
Growing up riding I was lucky, boys didn't have to put up with the little snarky bitches at the barn. I did hate when they were mean and evil for fun. Just because they could wasn't an excuse.

I did find I could really insult them where it counted and could crush their little psyches very nicely. Still, can't stand them poisoning the atmosphere of a fun place for me.
 
Anuka said:
I'm sure you've all come across people like this, but how do you deal with them?
How on earth do you deal and put up with these people???
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I'd visualise them sat on the loo with their trousers around their ankles, unpleasant, but not so high and mighty then! ;)
 
Osonopholly!! LOL!!!

I really like that one :D have remembered for the future!!

Thing is, in groups like that there will be a clique leader, the other two have nothing better to do so join in. Fact is, she's probably jealous of you and has picked you out as a target for want of anything better to talk about.

If you're more interesting than clique leader, the other two might start liking you instead! Girls bore easily!
 
alainax said:
I love all these comments. :)

What i try to remind myself is that people can only look down thier nose at you if you allow them, if you hold your head high, are a proud and positive person,then they can only "try" to upset you. Hold your head higher than thiers, but do not stoop to thier level ( contradiciton, i know).

You are stonger than this.

Pity them, they cannot function without thier clique, poor dears.


Hold your head high, know you are above all this.

Life is too short. :):)
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An ipod is a useful accessory too:cool:
 
As above really OR you could always be SICKENINGLY sweet to them and make them have a conversation with you
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I'm with this - being really nice to, complementing, appearing as if you assume they are your best mate, COMPLETELY allowing any bitchiness to go over your head and generally appearing to suck up to the yard bitch - nothing infuriates them more, in my experience :D they just don't know how to take it and find themselves with nowhere to go :rolleyes: It really is quite ingeniously cruel... whats that saying... you have to be kind to be really, really cruel :p:D
 
narkymare said:
ignore them and laugh - enjoy winding them up
i needed a lesson on lunge yesterday -( so i could get to grips with my diagonals) and one younger livery loved it (im 40 plus)
My yard bitch nearly broke her neck rubber necking - let her!!!!!
Let them laugh, i know im going at my and my horses pace - i refuse to put my horse in danger, i want to learn to ride him so he is comfortable and i am - remember the hare and the tortoise story - let them bitch and giggle, hold your head high and do what you think is right xxxx
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Ive of twatted her then kicked her as while she was down.
 
OR.....blow your savings by paying someone like William Fox-Pitt...or Oliver Townend or someone to come to your yard...and on entering...grab you in a bear hug and say...

'I've missed my bestest good friend! All the gang miss you!'...then spend the day name-dropping whilst they give you expert lessons all day, right under the noses of the b*tches, and if they try to talk to you new 'bestest good friend'....instruct your expert to stare, whisper to you...and giggle!

Now, might prove very costly to pay for their time, and they might not like giggling, but on paper, it's a sure-fire winner! :D
 
Do the smirking :D Just walk past and smirk and smile like you have something to laugh at them about...get other liveries to do it too. Eventually they'll wonder what the hell is going on and hopefully be that little bit less over confident in themselves
 
well i keep my pony at home but we do have girls like this at school :( just ignore them there just being stupid and immature or make your own clique and they will soon see that you have better tings to do than be botherd by them laughing at you and then the will leave you alone :)
 
I had a girl try to tell me how i should ride my pony (he wasnt easy) so i made out i didnt get what she meant and asked her to get on and show me witch she did as i stood and watched i started to count 5 4 3 2 1 the second i said 1 he put his head down and bolted off that put her in her place she never tired to tell me anything about him agian!

or if they make any comments as you walk by just stop, smile and say sorry but what would you like me to do with that information? the response is useally a lot of stubbleing arond looking for the words to explain.
 
Tbh they prob dont even realise that they're doing it.....they're just being teenagers!
Why don't you chat to them, you maybe supprised

Gotta say I have been at 3 differerent yards in my lifetime all compleatly different and I've never not enjoyed my time there due to someone else, I have never had an argument and dont think that anyone has disliked me (i hope)! and no ones annoyed me.
People take everything so damn seriously and theres alot of snobbery on this forum where people are allowed to be proud for winning the 2'3 local jumping on a pony that cost £200, but not allowed to be if you've won in BS newcomers because your horse cost £10k. People are allowed to do what they want and can be proud no matter what. I was more proud walking my horse down the road yesterday than I was coming 2nd in the DR 2 weeks ago. Sorry that little rant was pretty irrelivant to this thread lol
 
As someone else said, I'm lucky enough to be on a yard where YO or YM (Glitterfuzz) knocks anything like that straight on the head.

However, I'm 47, I don't have deal with snobby little bitches, I big enough and ugly enough to wither them with a single stare.

I learned the hard way not to let these nasty little window lickers ruin my time with my horse.

By the hard way I mean HARD way. I let one person, who was supposed to be my best friend and whom I bailed out financially over the years to the tune of £1000s rule my life. In the end she was totally tonto and drove me to vodka + pills = ER and Crisis team.

Now I just smirk when I see her - and use the withering stare as often as possible.

Paddy
 
Naturally said:
I'm with this - being really nice to, complementing, appearing as if you assume they are your best mate, COMPLETELY allowing any bitchiness to go over your head and generally appearing to suck up to the yard bitch - nothing infuriates them more, in my experience :D they just don't know how to take it and find themselves with nowhere to go :rolleyes: It really is quite ingeniously cruel... whats that saying... you have to be kind to be really, really cruel :p:D
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Being the passive aggressive bitch that I am, I am a complete master of this and have tried to encourage my daughter to be the same with yard bitches. It's subtle, and you are on the face of it being utterly polite, you don't have to take it too far for it to be really effective.

At first it is hard, especially if you're easily intimidated and want everyone to like or at least be indifferent to you, (which I am-daughter not so much) but then it becomes quite fun.

Yeah, you know as soon as you walk away the knives will be out, but they'll be out anyway til they find a new and more interesting victim, and who knows, one day it may even be them!
 
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HOT boyfriend, even if he's a mate.

I went to an all girls school for 7 yrs, nothing makes b*tchy girls more jealous than a HOT boyf. :D
 
yh ditto others act like you like them. When they dog you up give a huge grin and say hello there my lover!! aha they dont know what to do. :)
 
well, i am the type of person to walk up to them and say, would you like to say that to my face. which then brings on a lot of stumbling and apologising, an akward silence which i break by saying yeah thought not. then walking away watching them akwardly rush to brush their pony or clean tack silently. :D
 
urgh know the feeling well did, this is what puts me off moving back to a yard with too many people.

My parents were renting their place out to someone who had this little ginger weeble of a friend who kept talking about me when I walked past or did my horses, made comments about my mane pulling.

I can see her face now and smile as I imagine myself punching her right on the nose *sigh*
 
dead rat - feed bin...........

ok rather mean, ive never done it but im sure it would upset her/them :D

orr dead rat - in horse rugs on tack box etc.....

see the theme? :D lol.
 
Be the better person and ignore it and occasionaly smile and say Hi to them! It will drive them crazy worse then if you retaliated as that is what they want :)
 
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