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Hi, When I was younger I had 3 horses, one was a surprise foal (BOGOF)
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I now have 1 horse who is lovely but not very consistent and we are having a confidence crisis at the moment, and I have decided that I would like to have a second horse to help with this and take them both out to compete too.
The trouble is convincing the hubby!!
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He says that he doesn`t mind me selling horse I have to buy another!
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This is easier said than done, we have a strong bond and we love each other, (she can be very trying with others).
How, without being rude, do I convince him?
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He has his football, which we all know costs next to nothing, whereas horses do.
 
I would just tell him it would make you really happy, you have thought about it for a long time and it's nearly summer so not too much work or expense...

Hope it works, I'm having trouble persuading my OH to let me have one! And he cycles whch IS expensive and addictive!!!
 
I would love another horse, but I have the same problem, will NEVER be able to convince hubby to it

Good luck though and I will be green with envy if you suceed !!!

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He is maybe worried about the overall costs, wondering if yous can afford another one.

Ive got 4 but i work like crazy to be able to afford them.

I would just sit down and talk to him about it, if he makes a definite no, then it might be something you will have to accept. I dont think it would be fair on him to "surprise" him
 
Choose your moment.Maybe he could ride as well, maybe not a good idea.
We can never take ours to a show together they hate each other at home and live in seperate fields but at shows they are joined at the hip and it is a complete nightmare.
Think long and hard twice the work, worry and cost
 
I managed to persuade my hubby by letting him ride my horse, he got addicted and he really owns one of my four! He rides more than i do!
 
My hubby has had a ride, but he doesn`t enjoy it. He will hold her at shows and he has mucked out and looked after her when I have been ill, but that is as far as it goes. He doesn`t come up to the yard if he doesn`t have to.
 
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If you loaned one would he be happier - knowing that it could go back if it didn't work out.

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Not many people will loan out a good show jumper, they either compete them or sell them.
 
Your OH makes a valid point in his mind really. He sees it that you have a horse so what do you need another for. If the one you have at the moment doesn't do the job you want it to then sell it & get one that will do the discipline you want. You don't say if his decision is on a financial basis or a time basis. The financial burden will definately increase & the time looking after them will also go up considerably.

If he considers that he doesn't see you much now with your commitment to looking after the horse then he knows if you get another then he will see you less.

I'm not saying don't go for it but no one seems to have considered your OH's point of view & this must be considered if you don't want to damage your relationship. Until you both agree I wouldn't go ahead with getting another horse.
 
It's a difficult one! I am in exactly the same position as you. My OH doesnt mind me having another - as long as I get rid of the one I have now. I dont want to do this, but can see that it will be a struggle, time-wise. The work involved would be doubled. However, over the post month or so, he is slowly coming round to my way of thinking, and asking if I have seen anything I like!! Keep at him!!
 
He Clearly loves roxy and you to bits and if you have the time and funds for a second horse then its not impossible.

Beg him but if he says no withhold all sexual favours and tell him you feel too down to do it and cant concentrate becasue you are feeling low lol. There is only so much they can take and they always give in first hehehe!

Get another and i will come up for a few days and we can go out riding lesley.

Its just a blip lesley give things a bit more time x
 
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Tell him you want a baby!!!!!

After that another horse should be a doddle!!!

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Huh!! He would love another baby, but I`m past the baby years.
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