how to tell YO I am leaving?

[Carefreegirl]

cela dépend s'il est foncé grand et beau la demande de lui dormir avec vous serait bonne, lol mais ce qui s'il est chauve et laid courts ? l

Shut your eyes and think of England / France

 

[niagaraduval]

I wasn't planning on slinking off in the night, I was planning on telling him tonight when I go to pick my things up, ie; telling him I will be removing the horse on Friday.

LOL - Definitely not a good idea to say some of the things in French that have been written lol !

 

[smiles24]

I know of one lady who up'd and left a yard in the night with no notice and no payment of notice. Yard owner was an arse but well know to everyone locally.

She found that other yards would take her without a lump sum of cash up front incase she did it to them. The hay guy wouldn't supply her as he was a distant relative of YO and didn't want to upset him, the next closest hay guy charges 50% more

she then found the farrier avoiding her as this YO had threatened to ban him if he did hers and he would of lost lots of business.

Then about 6months later her mare got hurt badly and the vet wouldn't operate until she paid 50% up front as apparently she was now know as a persistent non payer.

So lots of heart ache later and well out of pocket the lady did really regret not leaving the £50 she owed and giving notice properly. The horse world is too small to risk it in my opinion, as others have said you don't know what the future hold.....

 

[Kittykins]

On the other hand...

At my last place the livery was paid at the beginning of the month, in advance. As my mare was on part livery and they'd been doing a really awful job of looking after her I did come along with a trailer, packed up the horse and my belongings and left with no notice because I was worried that they'd neglect the horse entirely were I to give notice. This was about half way through the month, so I figured that they got two weeks livery money for nothing, and I got peace of mind that the horse was being properly cared for.

I bumped into the woman who had the next door stable a few weeks later, and she asked what had happened. I explained that I'd been concerned about the horse so thought it better to go elsewhere, and she admitted that lots of people on the yard were thinking of doing the same. I since found out that the owner of the yard had quite a bad reputation amongst the local horse community for essentially only being in it for the money, so it didn't do me any harm at all. I'd have worried about my mare the whole fortnight if I had given proper notice as the YO was a bit nuts, frankly.

 

[mulledwhine]

Thankyou and bye !!!!

 

[mulledwhine]

I was on a field only agreement, and paid weekly, I gave a weeks notice, but the message was not passed to to the lady who took the money, so it was embarrassing when she saw us going out of her yard.

I was polite , and as I said before just said thank you and bye.

I suppose it depends really on what has been agreed

 

[Enfys]

Thankyou and bye !!!!

That as well.

 

[Nollaig Shona]

Could you say you're taking the horse home for the Christmas period. Leave, then go back one afternoon with a bottle of wine/box of chocs and say you've decided to keep the horse at home now, thanks for everything and hand over the wine/chocs?

 

[MiJodsR2BlinkinTite]

Could you say you're taking the horse home for the Christmas period. Leave, then go back one afternoon with a bottle of wine/box of chocs and say you've decided to keep the horse at home now, thanks for everything and hand over the wine/chocs?

I ditto this. A far better idea to leave with good air between you and YO, even if you did disagree.

I'm a YO and a year ago someone slunk away from the yard without saying they were taking their horse; it was just when the bad weather had come in and I had visions of their little (aged) pony up in the top field all on his lonesome, and was worred sick coz it was an appalling evening, getting dark, and the snow had started, and still no pony had been brought in for the night.

So I texted the owner to ask if everything was OK - her reply was that she'd left my yard as "it was too far to come". But we'd seen each other to talk only the night before, and there was no inkling of her intentions.

I think it is rude, discourteous, and inconsiderate to just leave a yard without taking the time and trouble to say thanks and cheerio kind of thing. Whilst appreciating there was a dispute which was none of OP's fault, I don't think anyone does themselves any favours by just upping sticks and hoofing it from a yard without so much as a by-your-leave.

I was devastated, completely gobsmacked, and shocked, when it happened to me.

 

[misterjinglejay]

As other people have said, the horse world is very small and tight - everyone knows everyone. Bad gossip is always spread far and wide.

Be the adult, and tell him ASAP; just keep it calm and as friendly as you can.

Good luck at your new yard