How to tell YO I'm leaving?

and i thought our reasons for leaveing yards were bad :/ ...crap feed/little haylage/crap school etc etc
if i had ever found anyone, no matter WHO there were (carl hester or not!) they would be slowly slaughted on the spot right there and then!

as everyone else has said, secure moveing to new place first!
i would give notice in writting, and keep a copy yourself!
one months livery costs! and stay as long as you can bear! you have paid for their services! so use them
give clear instructions about YOUR horse to your YO!!!! im sure she should oversee what you want to happen, as you pay!
if they get ******......personaly we got a little ****** back, as it seem to help get what we want for your horses, rather than being viewed as push overs....... but do what you feel is right!
 
TandD - I could go on for hours about other less important reasons but wouldn't want to bore you!

Thanks again for the advice!
 
This has made me livid, and it isn't even my horse!!!! Surely it's no different to taking someone's car and driving it without permission??? Though a car can be replaced, a horse can't.
If the new yard isn't a success, would you want to return to your existing yard? After this disgusting behaviour, I suspect not. Pay your deposit on the new yard and move in a.s.a.p. Get the horse safely there, then ask your dad and possibly friends to help you gather up all your things, and move them as quickly as you can, as it is quite possible that things will go 'missing' once you give notice. If you don't have a contract, did you pay a week or months deposit when you went to this yard? If so, that is the appropriate amount of notice to give. Put it in writing just saying you are giving ...notice, and that you will have left by ... date. Pay any outstanding monies by cheque only, as if required later, you can prove you paid. Until you can walk out of the yard for the last time, I would remain calm and polite. Once you have moved, you could always tell the YO how upset you were to discover someone else had been riding your horse etc, but until such time that your horse and gear are safely removed, I would carry on as normal.
I wish you good luck and by moving yards, a great start to 2013. You have found yourself in a horrible situation, but thank goodness you have the ability to change things.
 
I do wonder about the legalities of insurance in cases like this. I know MY insurance only covers people I have ALLOWED to ride my horses, but if someone just "borrowed" one, they would not be covered.
 
In your position, I'd be tempted to ask your father to hand the YO a letter giving notice, and to tell her that it what it is. I think she is probably less likely to be awkward about it, if she knows that he is actively involved in the decision. I would remove all tack/rugs etc that the horse isn't actually wearing at thae time of handing in the notice and as others have said pay by cheque. If the space at the new yard is available, I'd move asap after giving notice. then, having moved, I'd write, with a copy of the photo you mentioned, explaining exactly why you have moved. I can't imagine that you will ever want to go back and it is quite likely that you will learn to drive before long. I would ask your father to countersign the letter as well.
Good luck and enjoy your new yard.
 
timiton said:
Thanks for the really good advice. I'm quite tempted to write to them after I've left explaining the real reason.. or the main one at that. Don't really want her getting away with it...

Unfortunately and very stupidly don't have a written contract :(
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well if there's no contract in place you can pay up what you owe for the time your horse is there and then go - you don't need to give notice. You can go tomorrow provided your livery up until tomorrow is paid.

Personally I would remove all my tack (for 'cleaning') in the next day or so so that they can't ride your horse and then go as soon as there is a space available and you can sort transport. Move your horse and then your things - the horse is the important one to get out
 
I'd just write a letter saying you are moving on x date, payments made to said date and thanks .
No reasons or any reason for yo to get upset.
And Definately confirm the new place first!!!
 
Just read they allowed your horse to be ridden without permission....
I'd get off asap and pay to the day you leave.
I'd be livid if someone even got my horse out the field without permission.....unless it was for a valid reason of course....
 
Pearlsacarolsinger said:
In your position, I'd be tempted to ask your father to hand the YO a letter giving notice, and to tell her that it what it is. I think she is probably less likely to be awkward about it, if she knows that he is actively involved in the decision.
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Good idea - they all put on a lovely, happy, smiley act when my Dad is around but when he's not around all respect for me is gone! They'll take it much more seriously coming from him I think, thanks!


joeanne said:
I do wonder about the legalities of insurance in cases like this. I know MY insurance only covers people I have ALLOWED to ride my horses, but if someone just "borrowed" one, they would not be covered.
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My insurance clearly says he's covered when permission for him to be ridden is there. The first time she rode him (or atleast the first time I know about.. for all I know she's ridden him a lot) I said to the YO that my insurance wouldn't cover her. But as the girl works at the yard apparently they have insurance that covers her for every horse at the yard.


Again, thanks for all advice. I hope to secure a stable at this new yard on saturday, give my notice to old yard on sunday with December's bill then leave in 3 weeks but paying the full month (just more convenient to move that weekend). While I load my horse etc, my Dad can have a quick word to explain how upset I am and that it's a contributing factor to why i'm leaving.. as well as the other long list of reasons.
 
Timitom.... leave out anything else - its not worth the agro.... just say that it is dissapointing that you feel you cannot trust the yard with your horse - and you are appalled that he has been allowed to be ridden without your permission and as the ym - it should have been down to her to make sure you were happy with her staff riding your horse.

The rest if you complain, she will just chuck back at you and it will allow her to say your were "one of those" ie someone that nothing was good enough for.

So hold your breath to cool your porridge so to speak, it will have more impact if she realises its her actions that have lost you as a customer :)
 
As others have said...secure your place at the new yard and tell them a date you'll be moving in. You could just let them know it might be sooner if possible.
Buy a bunch of flowers and tell your current YO that your leaving on X date, pay any monies you might owe and then leave.
I wouldn't bother explaining why your leaving and I wouldn't say anything to anyone else on the yard (unless you really want to) as its between you and your YO and no one else's business.
If for whatever reason you feel you need to leave sooner you just need to let your new YO know, load up and leave.
Don't burn your bridges as you never know when your paths might cross in the future.
 
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