How to tell YO im not happy?

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The showing season has, for me, just started and Jed is looking fab. No blemishes on his legs or body so looks picture perfect for the show ring.
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A few months ago a new horse came to the yard and the YO put it in with Jed. They did not get along at all and both came in everyday with new cuts. They would stand for ages bum to bum and double barreling each other, it was horrific.
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I will admit Jed is a bully and wont tollerate other horses trying to take over his field. They were split up and all is fine now.

Someone came to look at the yard last night and has decided to bring her 17.1hh sport horse gelding to be stabled here. I asked where it would be going and YO said she is going to try it in Jeds field.
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How the hell can i tell her im not happy? I dont want Jed coming in with more cuts or worse! I know he wont accept a new horse and she should know better too!!! I would result to keeping him in and grazing him inhand but why should i be pushed out of my field?

Any ideas on how to tell her im not happy with it?
 
Just come straight out with it, explain the worry about the forthcoming show season and the fact he doesn't accept new horses well ..

He/She will either accommodate you or tell you to sod off
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You should just say ' I'm not happy'. I do think it unreasonable to expect your horse to be having a field of his own though. unless the livery has so much land it doesn't matter it will be difficult to offer isolated t/o. She does also seem to have said it will be a trial to see if it works and if it doesn't she may move him.

I personally would see how it goes before kicking off.
 
Or you could take turns, one having the field during the day and one at night. Personally I wouldn't be happy and would say so.
 
Just tell her straight. I had to make my case painfully clear to my YO, my boy does not like ponies and will hurt them if they are in his field.
Also tell new livery what Jed is like, if I were her and another owner said her horse is a bully I wouldn't want Dragon in with it.
are other liveries grazed with others, if not then why should you?

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Be honest with her, Tell her you hope to show the horse, and that you know full well that the horses will fight. Express the desire to show the horse this year, and that you dont think it is fair that your showing this season should be comprimised.

be honest with her.

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All geldings at our yard get put in together, we can have a paddock to ourselves but it costs more, can you offer to pay a bit extra for sole use of your paddock?
 
I'm not sure you have much choice. If that is the field with the room in it - then it's sensible that that is where the horse goes.

Sorry, but we vary rarely have choice on livery yards. However, what you can do it introduce yourself to the new person once she arrives and organise a plan of action with her on how to introduce your horses.

She won't be any keener on having her horse bashed than you are yours........
 
just another thought, when you arrived at current livery what were the arrangements with regards to turn out? My friend who moved at the same time as me said her mare couldn't go in with anything and that was accepted and accommodated. I said Dragon could go in with Horse Geldings, but never any ponies and warned he was dominant and insisted i am always there when he goes in with new things- i can read him like a book and can tell if he's going to attack!!!!
 
Can the yard owner afford to accomodate your horse?....Does your horse respond like this with all new horses that go into his field?

No responsible YO would want any horse to get injured or liveries to be upset. If your boy is aggressive to new horses, what about asking for a private piece of grazing just fenced off for him?..or failing that, look around to see if you can buy somewhere so you aren't at anybody else's beck and call over this.
 
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I do think it unreasonable to expect your horse to be having a field of his own though.
I personally would see how it goes before kicking off.

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Who said he was in a field on his own? He has two other horses with him. One who is his best mate and partner in crime and another who keeps his distance from Jed.

Thanks for your opinions guys.

It may well work out and he may like the horse but id rather not risk any injurys, to Jed or other horse, in finding out. I dont think im being unresonable - just worrying about my horse. Its not solely about the show season, id just like to keep my boys legs in tact.
 
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Also tell new livery what Jed is like, if I were her and another owner said her horse is a bully I wouldn't want Dragon in with it.


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Id like to warn her but im worried ill get told off for butting in!?
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Speak to her, her memory can't be that short, she will remember what happened last time, can you not split the field in two with electric fencing?
 
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Speak to her, her memory can't be that short, she will remember what happened last time, can you not split the field in two with electric fencing?

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I said to her last night, "oh god i hope Jed doesnt kick the s**t out of this one" and she didnt batter an eye lid really!
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The field is already in two, the other horse is in the strip they sectioned off and with having 3 horses already in our field i dont think its big enough to section any more off!

I think ill just tell her tonight that im not happy with it. Liek someone else said, she will either listen or tell me to sod off!!!
 
to be honest the only thing you can do is say- he doesnt seem to get on with other horses and i dont want another horse adding to the group if possible.
does he normally react like that to other horses?if not, its not that likely to happen again....
can they not introduce them with the new horse sectioned off to lessen the risk?
or can they not put the new horse in with the one in the section and just make it bigger?!
she can either be accomodating or not. theres nothing to lose- you dont want any of the horses at risk, im sure the new girl is the same!
 
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Having been in a similar situation, I would strongly recommend that you devise a plan of action before the new horse moves in.

We moved to our new yard at the end of last year. Ellie has been out alone for three/four years now, but the summer time policy at the new yard is for single sex herd turn out, meaning she was to be put in with four other mares. Ellie is very flighty and quite sharp, and we werent sure how she'd react to being out with other mares - or indeed, how they as an established herd would react to her. There is one clearly dominant mare in the herd, and so initially Ellie was put out on one side of electric tape, whilst the others were on the far side. After a couple of weeks, we moved the dominant mare in with Ellie to get them used to each other, and far from kicking the sh*t out of each other - Ellie has actually developed a lesbian crush on the other mare, albeit unreciprocated! If I am honest we left it too long - they were alone together for too long as Ellie now calls frantically whenever Bess, the other mare, is taken away,but we have now introduced both of them into the field with the other three mares with (touch wood!) no problems so far.
The whole process has taken three months, so dont expect miracles! But I would say, in your situation, that the best thing to do would be to start the new boy off in a taped off area of Jed's field. After a few days - or when you feel ready - put Jed (I am assuming he is the dominant horse in his group?) in with the new horse, and then when they seem settled just quietly go in and take the tape down. Dont leave it up as long as we did at my yard - I do think YO went to extremes, although obviously I am thankful as the integration process does seem to have worked, albeit eventually!
 
I would mention that you are unhappy to your YO, however it's reasonable for your YO to wish to turn more horses out in whatever field she/he wishes, if it's going to be a real issue for you I would move to somewhere where your horse can be turned out alone.
 
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