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:( feeling a little hurt tonight and I'm just wanted to know weather I'm being over sensitive what do people think .
I've had my new horse for around 2 months now and couldn't be happier he is my horse of a lifetime I know he isn't gonna be everyone's cup of tea but he's the biggest softest bit of horse flesh you ever want to meet he's not difficult or nasty and everyone says he's stunning
However I've been told by another livery/friend tonight that she was talking to yard mangers mother In law and she told the livery that yard manager didn't like my horse
This has made me worry about the welfare of my horse I'm on assisted diy and need him turning out I've seen her being mean to other horses she doesn't like
How would other people feel and what would you do thanks for reading xxx
 
What do you mean "mean to other horses she doesn't like"?

I'm not sure I could be on a yard where I had seen the yard manager behave in such a fashion - regardless of whether they liked my horse or not!
 
I wouldn't rely on hearsay and I wouldn't worry until I understood all the facts. I would ask the yard manager asap if everything is going OK with your horse and ask her directly if she has encountered any problems and if so can you talk them through. It doesn't need to be confrontational, just friendly but assertive and make sure you are happy and satisfied with her answers before finishing the conversation.

Gossip on horse yards can be very hurtful and damaging so check the facts are correct then decide what to do from there.
 
Aalyce212 said:
What do you mean "mean to other horses she doesn't like"?

I'm not sure I could be on a yard where I had seen the yard manager behave in such a fashion - regardless of whether they liked my horse or not!
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^ this.

Is it acceptable to be horrible to another horse because it's not yours?
 
I'd tell them to b*ll*x off. I don't care if you don't like my horse, I bloody do & am paying you to do a job. If you're not up to the job, then as I said, ****** off.
 
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Can you speak to the YM politely and casually and just ask something like 'I know I've not had him long - I'm really pleased with how he's settled. Is he being good for you?' It'll give them the chance to mention any concerns, if she has them, which will give you an indication if everything is ok or if there's an issue which might give cause to this other person's comments. I often just casually say 'I hope he's being a good boy!' to my YO - which gives her the chance to mention something, if need be.

If your YM confirms, I'd be inclined to believe the YM over another livery that everything is tickety-boo.
 
My first thoughts were I wouldn't care whether they like him or not. I pay them to do a job and would expect them to care for my horse well regardless of whether they like him.

The bit that concerned me is the last part you wrote. What did you see your Yo doing to another horse she didn't like? It is unprofessional in my opinion for her to act differently around horses that she doesn't like as much
 
I would speak to YM yourself like other's have suggested and see how she feels he's getting on. Chinese whispers at yards can get out of hand. That being said, I would be extremely uncomfortable being on a yard where I knew the person entrusted with my horse's care was known for being mean to those she didn't like! No matter how annoying the horse, it still deserves basic care and respect.
 
I don't "like" some of the horses/dogs i have cared for, in fact i would go as far as to say i hated the sight of some dogs, but they still got the best care. I get paid to care for the animal, thats what i will do.
 
I would wonder what the other livery's motivation was in telling you this...? If you horse is as lovely as you say, could their be a touch of the green eyed monster around? Or someone just doing a bit of stirring for their own amusement?

I'm not overly keen on my daughter's pony but she is still treated exactly the same as my other two who I adore.
 
what exactly does the yo do that you dont like? being mean to one person could be using a control halter and putting a bargey horse in its place and to another that would be the right thing to do
 
As a YM they are paid to do a job and I am sure it is in their best interest to just get on with that job regardless of whether they like the animal or not. If that means they they don't cuddle, pat or talk soft to your horse but just do what needs to be done, does that matter? I work with children, I have never disliked any of them but I have preferences but don't show it just do my job for all of them. I have five horses of my own and I do have a favourite, sorry but I do it doesn't mean that the needs of all five are not catered for and they are all well looked after.
 
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