How would you have handled this? (Sharer situation)

[Lois Lame]

Probably a version of E but I would speak to Mary first and sympathise about having been put in a difficult situation. Find out if she would rather avoid riding with Jane or doesn't mind as long as there is no galloping. Then see if she needs any help in handling the situation i.e. you talking to Jane.

However I wouldn't be convinced that Jane would behave any differently, after all she was asked to go slower and didn't the first time.

Yes, I agree. I think Jane will do whatever Jane wants to do.

 

[Winters100]

For me it would be the sharer who is responsible 100%. The other lady may have encouraged her to ride faster than she intended to, but it is not her who is responsible, or indeed answerable to you.

If I was generally happy with the sharer I would ask her to be a little more adult with my horse in future, because 'my friends made me do it' is not an excuse to me, even coming from teenagers, which I assume she is not. I would also tell her that I appreciated being told, but that I did not appreciate a sweaty horse being left in his box. For me it would not be a hanging offence so long as I was generally happy, but enough for me to have friendly but firm words, and to leave her in no doubt that it must not happen again.

 

[Sir barnaby]

I have horse that really walks fast so not really suitable to go with the slower ponies, I have explained this to the other liveries and if they want to hack out with me I will only walk but they will have to trot up to keep up with me. They are all fine with that so they Decide what they want to do. I usually hack out on my own, then I can decide the pace I want to go at.

 

[J&S]

Well, it would seem to me that, once Mary got wind of how Jane intended to ride her horse on this ride, she still would have had an option to peel off and go on her own gentler way. So maybe a quiet word with Mary to help her deal with "situations"would be the order of the day. Mary sounds like a nice person who just got Runover by a pushy person. However, she has to be aware to put the needs of her horse first.

 

[honetpot]

Perhaps I am just hard nosed, but my then fourteen year old daughters would have known better, they would know what I would say, and they would have certainly have got a tongue lashing, if not more. We never had a horse that was lame from work, they were all exercised relative to their level of fitness, and working something on a hot day, the ground is pretty hard, just for a jolly is just not on, however much you want to keep up with your friend. Then you bung it in a stable and leave it? Again, my daughters would have known better.

 

[Kaylum]

She sounds like a gem of a sharer. I would explain to Mary about leaving him sweating in the stable is not really a good thing. Hose off and turnout is a much better idea so he can have a roll and cool down maybe clip him?

I would not be upsetting her. You wont get many like her.

 

[Sealine]

To be fair to your sharer, when I got to the stables at 5.30pm yesterday my horse was sweating because he'd been standing in his stable on a hot day. I had to sponge him off before I rode him and I've made sure he will be out and not in his stable when it's hot in future.

 

[skint1]

Sounds like Mary has genuine care and affection for Bob but got caught out on this occasion and feels bad about it, she hasn't attempted to conceal it from you (I've had that happen when I used to let friends borrow my horses) so I feel like it would be a bit hard handed to stop her riding him. I bet she won't be in a hurry to ride with Jane again but if she does, I think one of you, probably you, just make it clear to Jane that Bob isn't to be galloping about particularly in the heat on the hard ground (such as we have round here)

 

[criso]

To be fair to your sharer, when I got to the stables at 5.30pm yesterday my horse was sweating because he'd been standing in his stable on a hot day. I had to sponge him off before I rode him and I've made sure he will be out and not in his stable when it's hot in future.

That's what I wondered, my tb who actually loves hot weather is sweating in the heat just standing in his stable. She may not have left him hot and he may have broken out after she left.

I might still have a conversation about walking horses off to cool off etc but not in an accusatory way, more in a best practice in hot weather way.

 

[windand rain]

I wouldn't bother too much if it was a one off my guess is the sharer won't do it again unless of course she loved it. I am more concerned that he hadn't cooled down in the stable and may have been much more comfortable if turned out. That of course is a management call. My old girl loves a good gallop hates being in a school and at 25 if she drops dead doing so what a wonderful way to go as long as her rider isn't hurt of course. They live out with shade so a quick hose off and her Koolcoat on is fine for hot days