Hug and tea and sympathy please

I don't think she is grateful , I think in her head she believes she was wronged and is still telling everyone that she was sacked for no reason... I'm now untouchable in the local area and no groom will work for me, makes me want to print up a banner or something:o

I spoke to someone the other day and had to say she no longer worked for me (I didn't say why) he said without prompting "oh you caught her then" . Turns out she worked for him and things went missing but he never had sufficient proof , but once he let her go things stopped disappearing.
 
She sounds a bonny piece of work :eek: It might be worth dropping VERY big hints to other people, tack shop, farrier, vet etc. about why you had to let her go, word will get round eventually. Then other grooms will want to work for you. :) Good luck with it all.
 
Thanks I might have to do a sols letter if this continues as my dog walker had heard when I asked her to walk when we are away for day:(

Yes she is blond and hair scrapped back but that describes me too:)
 
Just a girl with a reputation round here (south) OH employed her and when asked for a reference after sacking laughed. It was laziness but also double worming some and not doing others as didn't mark down which done, not feeding ones with gut problems and texting owners to say she'd ridden horses when not and got caught out by liveries talking.
She opened her mouth to a lot of people about how she'd been turfed out unfairly with no warning. Had plenty and given far too many chances. She bounced through three jobs in as many months straight after and no idea what she's doing now.
 
PandorasJar said:
Just a girl with a reputation round here (south) OH employed her and when asked for a reference after sacking laughed. It was laziness but also double worming some and not doing others as didn't mark down which done, not feeding ones with gut problems and texting owners to say she'd ridden horses when not and got caught out by liveries talking.
She opened her mouth to a lot of people about how she'd been turfed out unfairly with no warning. Had plenty and given far too many chances. She bounced through three jobs in as many months straight after and no idea what she's doing now.
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I think she must have a Northern twin :eek: sounds really similar but this one is North Notts / South Yorks borders.
 
I am SO furious on your behalf simply because it has happened to us over and over again and I know that feeling of hurt and disbelief. You even wonder if it is something you have done wrong. It seems the more you try to help them (they always have problems) the more this type of person thinks you are a soft touch. By the way it is standard practise for these sort of girls or women to blame you and never admit they are at fault.

Try not to be too hurt though you are not at all unusual in being treated this way - many of my friends have been badly let down at events and cheated out of money even though some of them were offering fantastic chances for grooms to be around top competitions. It seems to be the way of the modern world now. The worst sort of grooms though are the gossips who like to stir up trouble, especially if they have left your employ.

Although we had good grooms years ago, when they seemed easier to find, I must admit we now only keep ponies as we can do them easily ourselves. Oh the sheer bliss of not having moody lazy and often irresponsible girls around our stables!
 
Latest update is that she has been getting her friends to respond to my advert on preloved for a new freelance groom. I've sussed 99% of them but had 2 that booked appts and 1 no showed and the other I sussed when she was on my yard :(.

I've also had strange calls and texts saying that they know I have a livery vacancy (she took away her horse when I sacked her as it was living free gratis) which I've just ignored.

I'm getting really annoyed , I'm no snitch but I'm seriously considering calling the police re: the harassment and childish behaviour ... she is 31 by the way:eek:
 
TL. Get all your evidence together and then either (1)go to the police and make a formal complaint for fraud and add harassment for good measure if you can provide proof that it is her.
Or (2) sent her a letter informing her of your intent to take all evidence to police unless she immediately stops bothering you.

Good luck. :)
 
TrasaM said:
TL. Get all your evidence together and then either (1)go to the police and make a formal complaint for fraud and add harassment for good measure if you can provide proof that it is her.
Or (2) sent her a letter informing her of your intent to take all evidence to police unless she immediately stops bothering you.

Good luck. :)
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Thanks I feel better now:D Hubby says it's all coincidence but he wouldn't believe she was on the make until he saw the CCTV and there are too many coincidences:rolleyes:
 
I'm not sure the police will want to know. They were very helpful when I had the southern twin! But they said that they could only advise her to stay away (after she tried to set fire to a barn!) They strongly recommended we took out a restraining order though. Thankfully their visit worked and didn't need to follow through.

Shut with yours I'd get a restraining order sorted asap, or a solicitors letter to warn her of harrassment/slander
 
The trouble with people like this, is that they convince themselves that they have been wronged! If the police will have a word, then that may stop the way she is behaving, but if she isn't answering the advert herself, there is nothing to be done about that. Hopefully she will move on to someone else before too long.
 
PandorasJar said:
I'm not sure the police will want to know. They were very helpful when I had the southern twin! But they said that they could only advise her to stay away (after she tried to set fire to a barn!) They strongly recommended we took out a restraining order though. Thankfully their visit worked and didn't need to follow through.

Shut with yours I'd get a restraining order sorted asap, or a solicitors letter to warn her of harrassment/slander
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Thanks all I'm going to call insurers on Monday.
 
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