Husband left for afghan on Friday... Good vibes please

Big hugs and loads of positive vibes coming your way. I feel a great sense of pride and admiration for all our fighting forces - and to the wives like you too who just have to keep going XX
 
Wishing your husband and all the others a safe and uneventful tour. The clocks are moving soon so you can at least keep yourself busy with some lovely evening riding when work permits. Maybe set yourself some specific horsey goals to focus on and that will help the time pass? I find there is nothing like workng towarfs a specific dressage test or similar to make time go quicker. <<hugs>> xx
 
I hope he has a good tour and stays safe.

My Dad is in the RAF (I have just turned 21) and he has done tours on afghan and iraq. Horrible, horrible times which cause great strains on my home life. Not to mention that he has only ever been around for 2/3 of my birthdays in my life. He is now living in Florida for a year, as the choice was that or another afgham tour so we have been very lucky, but he didn't even make it home for my 21st and I haven't seen him now since August.

My Mum is THE most amazing person in the world for how she deals with him being away, and I have nothing but admiration for her, you and other wives and family members.
 
Best wishes for the next seven months! Done it twice (Iraq and Afghan), thankfully won't have to do it again as Hubby broke himself in Cornwall 9of all places!) on his Mountain Leaders course so that part of our life is long gone.

I always find the worst bit was in the few weeks before they go as you worry so much etc tec, at least when they are actually gone you have something to worry about;) and the fact that each day they are away means they are one day closer to the end of their tour, IYSWIM??

For the last tour Hubby went when our daughter was 9months old, it was very upsetting when he came home and she didn't know who he was!
 
I will be in the same position in a month, hubby is also off to Afghan, but I am expecting R'n'R. I partly feel that R'n'R is disruptive and we would be better without it, but it also really helps the boys have something closer to count down to when they are out there.

At least with work and a horse, you will be kept busy, weekends I find tough, so planned big dog walks and pub lunches with other wives, organised to see friends/family or go out competing. I try to write a short e-bluey every day or two, a friend did a photo diary which I thought was lovely.

Obviously keeping busy is best, surround yourself with lovely people, and have a project.

I think we are lucky that they are away for the summer, when they do winter tours it is much harder.

Best wishes to you and your hubby :)
 
Awww Sweetheart (I'm allowed to say that - I'm probably old enough to be your mother) . . . I know how hard the next 7 months will be for you (I'm from a forces family myself). Try and keep a good support network around you - put fixtures in the calendar to give you things to look forward to and get as involved as you can in community/camp activities. Are you living in married quarters? If so, do make use of the on-camp facilities and services - it's what they're there for.

Sending "safe passage" vibes to you and hubby along with a maternal hug :).

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I know how you're feeling, although my hubbys been out for a couple of years now, I regulery remind myself of thoses times. If it hadnt been for my horses I think I may have lost my sanity.

Just think you have all summer to enjoy your horse undisturbed without feeline guilty you should be spending your time with someone else. And just as we are heading back into autumn glum your hubby will be home :-) xx
 
My ex bf (who is also one of my best friends) is out this week in his 5th tour but first in bomb disposal role. My only consolation is that he loves it out there, more than he does here. I think when we were together that he was more worried about me than I was about him. I was backing my young horse who kept wanting to faceplant me into the dirt, so the risk to my life were more likely than to his! There is nothing I can do but keep busy. He feels that r and r is a disruption a a time when they need to be most focussed, so I didn't mind him not coming back.

My current boyfriend is also army (yes, I know, recurrent theme, was a military brat too!) so I know I have plenty of heartache to come.
 
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