I am in a quandry - what should i do?

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My 12 year old daughter without sounding big headed is a realy good rider, i mean realy and does get noticed.
She has outgrown her pony and normally has to ride our rescues to school them. She goes to shows and enjoys herself but realy is being held back. She has private lessons and rides alsorts, doing realy realy well.
The thing is last Sunday she rode a horse at a show that belongs to a dealer i know. What a match! Just about the whole showground turned and watched and we got some fantastic comments fron complete strangers.
This horse is perfect and could see them competeing to a much higher level - what my daughter wants.
Trouble is its £3000. Don't get me wrong it is worth every penny but it is a massive amount of money for us. We struggle with our work and everything goes on it to the detriment of my daughter.
i realy would like to buy the horse and get my daughter out and about more. I realy do need to take her into consideration. Would it be selfish to buy it? I can pay for it monthly - i have known the dealer many many years. They were perfect partners. My daughter is absolutely dedicated and does everything herself often up at 4am on show days.
More than half of me wants to buy it another bit says no as we take in rescues but we need a seperate life. Is this wrong?
The dealer bred the horse. It came second in the novice jumping at its first show and 3rd on Sunday - it was wet and took steady in the jump off. I know what i am hopeing you will all say.
 
I don't know if I'm going to say what you hope I'm going to say...but if its AT ALL possible, I think your daughter deserves this chance. She's dedicated, she's talented, from what you're saying this could be *the* pony for her. I know I'd want to get this pony for my daughter if I were in your shoes.

Doing rescue is a wonderful thing, but you need a life as well.
 
If you can pay for it in installments and can afford to do it that way, I'd say buy it.
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I don't think it would be selfish, and it sounds like your daughter thoroughly deserves it.
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Sometimes you have to do things that are good for you personally, not what's good for others. Go for it I say!
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I say buy it! She sounds a cracking little rider and deserves to have fun with a nice horse. I understand its going to be a stretch to buy it, but if you can do it I think you should!
 
My parents didn't have much money but I would have loved for them to take an interest in my riding and buy me a good pony. If you can afford the upkeep in addition to the horse and the inevitable cost of competing then go for it. If not, why doesn't she ride for the dealer and try to earn some of it herself to contribute. You sound like a wonderful parent and I agree, one chance at this life only, we all end up in a box and can't take any dosh with us
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buy it without a shadow of a doubt

Have you considered a partnership between the dealer and your daughter? A decent dealer that shows needs good riders and she will be a better rider for working for a decent dealer. It might also save you 3k!!!

It's something I would consider
 
Def buy it
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You never forget that pony of a lifetime... I got mine when I was 14 - it was double what my parents wanted to pay (which was probably only £750
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) and she was a superstar that changed my riding completely - I began to win - and do teams and really loved her.

Even my parents agree she was worth it
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(We are talking 18 years later now...)
 
Thankyou all. I have the feeling i am going to have an extremely excited daughter. Your right, you do only live once. I once looked death in the face and changed my views, those views seemed to have got lost. She does have masses of talent. At every show we have people asking her to ride their horses because its being 'naughty'. We do need a life as well and i do need to think of her. I feel excited myself. I will also consider her rideing for him. I know this one would be sold, thats his living. I feel excited myself now.
 
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Buy it and if it goes wrong sounds like u could make some money!

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It's hard to make money on top of 3k for a pony unless it does HOYS type well!
 
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Go for it!!

Doesn't make any differrence if you take on recues, no one will think bad of you for thinking of your daughter.

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that is what i was partly worried about. Some people think you are not allowed a life
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Being a miserable old daemon, I'd say buy it....but make your daughter 'pay' for half, or at least part of it by 'schooling' the rescue horses for you for a notional fee per hour.
That way, she will know that you have to work to gain rewards, you'll still have given her the chance to have her own horse.
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I have just sold my mare I had for 4 years to pay for my daughters next event horse as she is showing alot of talent she is 12 to and competes with PC on event team etc and has moved up to intro level v quickly and she has always been held back by the ability of her horses so I bit the bullet and sold my much loved mare.

She is aware what i have done for her and I enjoy the pleasure in watching her compete and enjoy herself as much as I enjoy competing my self

I didnt think about it much and would do it again if i had to
 
Go for it, as others have said you only live once. It sounds like the horse would be a good investment also, if your daughter does as well as expected the value of the horse will only go up!
 
Life is for living - I think you should buy it, your daughter would get SO much pleasure competing it, and you would get so much pleasure watching her doing so well and having so much fun, it would be a very positive thing to do for all of you.

Hope you can find a way.
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If you're daughter was a complete brat that didn't respect or appreciate anything then I'd say no way. But from the sounds of it she's a hard working and mature girl for her age - give her the chance at something amazing. Charity begins at home and you both deserve some "me" time as well as all the good work you do for others. Go on you know you want to.
 
wow what an opportunity.....as you said you need a seperate life outside.......

go for it...your daughter will love you more and nmore
 
I say buy it. Your daughter sounds seriously talented and more than deserves the chance of her own horse. From things you have said of your daughter I think she will more than appreciate whatever you have to do to get this horse for her.
Life is for living and taking opportunities that come your way.


GO FOR IT!!
 
SF; my position is similar to yours. I buy youngsters, bring them on and then sell them; so we have many horses here, generally they only stay with me for 2 years and then I find them perfect homes, make a nice profit, and off they go.

I have an 11 year old daughter and she really is invaluable to me at raising the market value of every English horse I sell, as she competes them for me. Most of my horses are western horses, but I do keep a couple of English ones, for her and also because she can produce them to a decent showing standard. BUT she also has her OWN horses, which are nothing to do with my business. One is her childhood pony that she has had since my daughter was 1 year old, she also owns this mare's yearling and she also bought a foal last year which she intends to keep and back herself in a couple of years time. Her plan for this yearling is for her to compete him as an older child/adult as he will likely make around 16hh.

When I sell any of the horses my daughter has worked with or competed, she earns a percentage of the sale (not that she does this for the money) so although she is always sad to see them go, she knows from the word GO, that these horses will not be staying here, and at least she gets some financial reward for putting in the time.

What I am saying here is that, yes it is great that children like ours have so many horses available to them, but I think it is VERY important that they have at least one of their very own. One that they can make decisions upon, ones that have nothing to do with anyone else except them, ones that will never be sold unless the child decides to sell.

I would not hesitate to buy this horse if I were you - go for it!! She deserves something of her own.
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Tia - thats made me well up
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how beautifully that was put, your daughter is a very lucky girl
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OP - def buy it for her if you can afford to, she sounds like an up and coming star and who knows how far she can go
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Buy the horse. Speaking as a rescue centre owner with kids, I know how hard the kids work to help the animals. My lovely daughter has worked her butt off for the animals that we help. In return when she asked me if we coudl keep one of the foals, I let her. She has never looked back. This horse sounds like it will give your girl a wonderful time. Consider it a reward for all the help she gives you.
 
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your daughter is a very lucky girl

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Thank you Tricksy, however it works both ways and I know I am also very lucky to have my daughter.
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