I am So Cross!!!

Go and get horse tonight---if you have any bother play the phone message.
If you have room to keep at home offer the ride perhaps through Pony Club or RC or local Young Dressage Riders group to a rider with some talent but lacking horse power.
Good luck your horse will be happier not retiring completely but keep under your control so you can see if he is not coping
I had a fab rider for our old ponys last couple of years in work, some days she rode for over an hour other days she would be back in 10 mins saying he doesnt want to go out today and she then just groomed and fussed him but kept him feeling wanted
 
I would go get your boy ASAP Don't have to tell her anything remember he's your horse. Then sit back and wait for a phone call, she's bound to call again if she's horseless then you can give her a right ear bashing!
 
He certainly isn't ready to retire, but because of an injury I don't feel happy with him doing the Grand Prix stuff any more. I thought he would help this person move up through the grades, but she gave up because although he knows the moves, he isn't simply 'push button'.

I have room at mine, it is the time I am lacking (hence putting my other riding horse out on loan). I might try and find a sharer to ride him whilst he is still at our yard.
 
that is a good idea then you are in control of the situation but get him back, there are many people who woulg give anything to have a horse like him on loan!!! good luck keep us updated
 
Poor you!

I have kept the message, luckily. I do need to calm down before I call her I think, and I really don't know what to say. Do I just go straight into "I have decided that I want him back and we will be coming to get him"


I don't think you should give her the option you should phone her and let her know calmly that she has landed herself in hot water with you and that you will be collecting the horse from her, and ifshe argues that a contract is in place you should point out that you have kept the message she left as evidence and also mention you know about the boots and that this was a breech of contract and that you believe that any contract is now disolved should she wish to dispute this in court you will be happy to let a judge listen to her message.

Pick him up as soon as possible stating that you believe this safety and security to be at risk.
 
Gosh Zoe no wonder you are furious!

I'm inclined to agree with the others that you should not give the month's notice. I would go over there, with your lorry, and tell her why you have come to collect your horse.

Be very calm and polite - say something along the lines of "I'm very sorry that you feel this horse has been 'dumped' on you. That wasn't the impression I got the last time I offered to take him back - you seemed desperate to keep him! But clearly you feel differently now. I was very hurt by your comment, but I don't want to have a row about this - I'll just take him back and we'll say no more about it."

She should be so embarrassed - mortified, even - that she'll comply without a fuss. Even if she argues, stay calm and polite.

Keep in mind what you want to achieve, which is to get your horse back unharmed and without fuss - not to 'teach her a lesson' or end up in a slanging match...
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Well the cheek of the woman! yes I think you've got a right to be fuming but its better to simmer down before you speak to the lady, at the end of the day you have to do whets right by your horse, ok so this lady might be a bit of a talker (romancer) and twist things around to appear to sound better to other people on the phone...hey every yard has got one of those lol! and yes they really do leave you speechless when you hear some of the utter rubbish they come out with but if you feel your horse is a good home for the moment and being cared for (ok maybe not competing) there is no point making rash decisions and shooting round there to pick him up if you have not got the time/facilities etc at the time being for an extra one if your already placing another on loan.

However I would go round and have a dignified chat with her face to face, inform her that you know it was her that rang you and say that you are quite hurt at the fact that you said that the horse was pushed onto you when you know full well that is so not the case etc and say look I want you to be entirely honest, do you want my horse on loan or not, if he's not what you want then you need to say so I can put in in a new home where the owner will actually appreciate him and ride him and he will meet the loaners requirements.

The only way she will learn not to do this again to someone is to let her know she's been caught out, but your not going to get anything out of it shouting and saying harsh words ....apart letting of a bit of steam that is, remember that's what Eastenders or Corra's is for, what people argue...who wants to do it in real life?

No point lowering yourself to that level, people learn from a good example, I like to think so anyway, and hopefully she will learn from her very stupid mistake and not talk a load of tosh nosh next time she's going round 'tyre kicking' as they say in the car world.

Good luck hun.
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Gosh Zoe no wonder you are furious!

I'm inclined to agree with the others that you should not give the month's notice. I would go over there, with your lorry, and tell her why you have come to collect your horse.

Be very calm and polite - say something along the lines of "I'm very sorry that you feel this horse has been 'dumped' on you. That wasn't the impression I got the last time I offered to take him back - you seemed desperate to keep him! But clearly you feel differently now. I was very hurt by your comment, but I don't want to have a row about this - I'll just take him back and we'll say no more about it."

She should be so embarrassed - mortified, even - that she'll comply without a fuss. Even if she argues, stay calm and polite.

Keep in mind what you want to achieve, which is to get your horse back unharmed and without fuss - not to 'teach her a lesson' or end up in a slanging match...
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Well put!!
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Think this is the best way to go about ending this situation.
 
Priceless! My goodness, I'd be keeping that message safe! I think I'm with simply collecting him and telling her afterwards. It would be best to talk about it face to face but that can be incredibly hard if you know that it's going to cause her excruciating embarrassment (I know I would shy away from causing someone that kind of hurt even if they'd brought it on themselves - I'm a bit of a softie I guess). Anyway, I hope it all works out best for the horse, and for you.
 
I called and had a chat - she says she is doing lots with him, and is competing him this weekend. I didn't mention other horse etc, but I have said I am going to go and see him compete at the weekend - at least that way I will see if she really is doing something with him. I will see her face to face at the weekend and ask for my boy back then I think.

I know she wouldn't do anything to harm him, and I am not worried for his welfare - she is very knowledgeable and really is a kind person when it comes to her horses. However, I just think she wants a string of decent horses without having to spend any money.
 
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