I am so horrible and ashamed

[Madam_max]

I feel so bad, I took Corroy round the block and then into the school and she was just trying my patience, everytime I tried to ride her into the corners she kept trying to whizz off or shove her head up. I feel so terrible as I really pulled her quite hard and smaked her and she was really irritating me

. Am I the only person that gets like this? Maybe it's just the riding in the school a lot and we have both got bored

. Her back is fine and so are her teeth as they are regulary checked. I just feel like a mean mummy.

 

[MagicMelon]

Best thing to do is walk away as Im sure you know. I think we all feel like we're losing our temper sometimes when horses push us and Im sure most of us have done things we've regretted later.

 

[Madam_max]

I walked her round on a long rein and got off

 

[clipclop]

Been there and done that more times than I care to admit to.

These days I try and make a point of monitoring my mood before I ride. If I am feeling a bit fed up, then it is time to go for a plod around the block. If I am feeling good? School and try something new. If I feel foul,,,,feed them, pat them and go home.

 

[carthorse]

I feel awful ,when we were loading Penfold this afternoon to go xc ,he loaded then turned and galloped out of the box towing me and I had to let go. Caught him and he tried to pull away again. put leadrope round his nose and smacked his bottom.
At the xc he got injured ,now feel really sorry I was cross with him .Thought he had a broken leg as got stuck in jump .
How could I smack him!

 

[Madam_max]

Grrr why do they do this to us? Thing is she's very clever and she actually behaved after I told her off and she didn't even argue with me when I did tell her off which is unusual, she just looked sorry for herself

 

[xcalicox]

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Grrr why do they do this to us? Thing is she's very clever and she actually behaved after I told her off and she didn't even argue with me when I did tell her off which is unusual, she just looked sorry for herself

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Maybe she new she was being naughty. You corrected her in an over the top manner (because she was) and everything worked out well in the end because "mission accomplished"

 

[Tempi]

*snigger* BAD mummy

 

[jenbleep]

M_M I know exactly how you feel!

Frankie has been going well this last fortnight (touch wood!

) but sometimes if he gets really tense and tries to bugger off with me I get angry and do what you did.

When I get off I even check I didn't hurt his mouth!

I agree with Bonzabean - because I have noticed that when I have had a bad day at work or I am stressed then it is more likely to happen, I try and calm down/rewind/de stress before I start getting mad - I know it's easier said then done!

Don't forget that your horse won't remember you being a mad mummy

When I get off Frankie after a horrible schooling session I put him back in his box and he doesn't stand in the corner looking sad - he goes straight to his haynet and waits for his dinner as well - he's happy

I particularly get mad out hacking - but I think that is more of a deep rooted problem with my confidence

 

[Pidge]

no your not alone as I do this to, I guess at the end of the day we're only human

good job the horses forgive us isn't it

 

[Madam_max]

I think it was the fact that she looked helpless rather than reacting

 

[Weezy]

Sorry but sometimes they DO need a quick, sharp reprimand

Softly, softly is OK at times, but other times they need telling, immediately, and in a no nonsense way - I know I may get shot down for that, but that is how I see it and it works for me - you were asking her to do something, in a correct manner, and she was taking the pee - there is no reason for her NOT to go into a corner at the end of the day!

 

[jenbleep]

Hehe thats a point Weezy - my instructor has told me to be more 'firm'

and he has been going so much better lately

 

[Madam_max]

Yeah, I am firm with her otherwise she would walk all over me, but I think I was prob a bit excessive

 

[SSM]

I am coming to take her away from you, you evil person

Whispers, Donkey gets a wallop sometimes for being like that too

 

[Madam_max]

You have your lorry now, so no excuse

 

[kildalton]

I'm thoroughly ashamed of you (I used to treat you like that )

 

[Shilasdair]

I think smacking is just cruel. Your horse may kick, bite, strike, trample you - but that is because she is a dumb animal, and knows no better. You as a human, however should know there are alternatives to violence.
You could stop riding her, for example, and spend quality time either joining up, waving carrot sticks, and or twirling extra long lead ropes at her til she is so pissed off she steps backwards, or maybe bouncing a ball at her head would be rewarding for both of you.
And if you can't have a joyful time together...you could always sell through to Project Horse, in the first instance, or possibly to dealers (I believe there were/are a few around the Amersham area who may be interested - how fat is she?)
Hope this helps
S

 

[Madam_max]

I'll give the ball thing a go tonight and let you know how I get on

She's quite porky at the mo

I wondered when the 'Whip-Whop' crew would arrive

 

[vanessahook]

You're definitely not the only one, before my girl went out on loan there were some serious coming togethers!!! I think most people would have thought i had lost the plot cos i would quite literally have to get off of her and just walk away and cry in the corner of the school!! If i hadn't of done i dread to think what would have happened!! Im surprised i haven't needed counselling after what my horse put me through!

 

[Shilasdair]

QR
My rising 3yo experimented with her theory that broncing in front of me at feed time would inspire me to give her her hard feed more quickly.
To her horror she found her hard feed withdrawn and a demented Shilasdair pursuing her round the field, swearing at her.
Shortly afterwards she decided that walking politely towards said grumpy Shilasdair and asking very civilly for her food might be the only way to stave off years of potential starvation and verbal abuse.
S

 

[kildalton]

I wish whip whops had been around when you were little !

 

[Madam_max]

Is you fault then, you have scarred me

 

[shadowboy]

I've done this- i think for me it was an ego thing- so i now know if 5 min of work doesnt solve the problem get off and try again tomorrow.

 

[kildalton]

Yes, blame my crap parenting

 

[HBII]

Boggers was having some fun at my expense the other night in a lesson, so my trainer got and and swiftly reminded her who was boss. She soon waved the white flag .....

You gave her a chance to behave, you asked nicely, you are an experienced rider so you dont have to feel bad.

HUGS

Hb

 

[Kate260881]

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or maybe bouncing a ball at her head would be rewarding for both of you.

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OK, I really don't know a lot about PNH and the such but I'm at a loss to see how this would do anything to improve your bonding. I have to say I giggled when I first read it but maybe that is just me being ignorant. Or maybe you were joking and I'm just being a bit dim

Personally, I don't think you did anything wrong. I think a short sharp reminder is much better as then there are clear rules and they know where that line is that they shouldn't cross.

 

[Scoopy]

 

[Madam_max]

Shilasdair is really into NH, I think she's a bit bats

 

[Madam_max]

You again