I am so horrible and ashamed

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You again
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Would you like me to change my name to "TROLL"
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"STALKER"
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I wouldn't give yourself a hard time about this.
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Looking back, I would be surprised if any of us that have ridden for a long time haven't ever done something similar. I know I have.

I think also that the action you choose to take in a situation where your horse is misbehaving will probably change depending on the exact circumstances and what you feel is best at the time.

My horse is anxious to please, but the anxiety often causes him to rush and get strong. With him, the more you tell him off and the more pressure you put him under the worse he gets. I have to use quite a lot of tact and keep him busy with lots of different movements. I agree that there are cases where a horse needs to be reprimanded, but I don't agree with the way some people start kicking and whipping because their horse wont go past something. I think that generally that would probably create more fear (not that this applies in your case, obviously).
 
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or maybe bouncing a ball at her head would be rewarding for both of you.

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OK, I really don't know a lot about PNH and the such but I'm at a loss to see how this would do anything to improve your bonding. I have to say I giggled when I first read it but maybe that is just me being ignorant. Or maybe you were joking and I'm just being a bit dim
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Personally, I don't think you did anything wrong. I think a short sharp reminder is much better as then there are clear rules and they know where that line is that they shouldn't cross.

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Hello, Kate from the Netherlands!
Pleased to meet you. I am the forum's force for evil...and I like to try to screw up as many threads as possible (time permitting, obviously). I also have a long standing hatred of Madam_Max and her badly kept roof, but that's a long story.
I like you already, though, Kate.
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I also have a long standing hatred of Madam_Max and her badly kept roof, but that's a long story.

I am deeply upset
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Good, that's another of today's 'To Do List' ticked.
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tbh I would make sure it doesnt happen again and not feel too guilty (although a little guilty is not too bad
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It's the sort of thing I used to do as a kid and now I might growl at the horse but there would be no slapping etc. The horse will probably not remember, but next time, just get off and cool down?
 
I agree with TripleSandH, and to be an evil person and to quote natural horsemanship, horse live "in the moment" and we don't - we think about what happened 10 minutes ago, last week, what we're going to do tomorrow etc etc, and the horse's thinks about the situation they are in in the here and now - part of the joys of being a prey animal is always being aware of whats going on right now.

Your horse might well have been upset whenyou did it - but then after that she will have been fine because she survived and no great harm done, and she will have had 1,000's of "moments" to think about since then. You, however, beat yourself up and got preoccupied by the "horrible thing you did", brough emotions into it that the horse wouldn't think to do and generally fixate on something thats in the past. Which is fine, its what we as humans do - but you don't need to worry, as she is fine and probably thinks that was sooo last year dahling
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Runs off to bounce a few balls off horses' heads.
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... well actually to try to take her own advice
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B has been v naughty lately - her back, teeth etc are fine but at the weekend she was a nightmare and starting rearing and in the end she got a hard smack
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I think smacking is just cruel. Your horse may kick, bite, strike, trample you - but that is because she is a dumb animal, and knows no better. You as a human, however should know there are alternatives to violence.
You could stop riding her, for example, and spend quality time either joining up, waving carrot sticks, and or twirling extra long lead ropes at her til she is so pissed off she steps backwards, or maybe bouncing a ball at her head would be rewarding for both of you.
And if you can't have a joyful time together...you could always sell through to Project Horse, in the first instance, or possibly to dealers (I believe there were/are a few around the Amersham area who may be interested - how fat is she?)
Hope this helps
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RAOTFLMFAO!!!! That's the funniest thing I have read in ages!!
 
I have been driven so mad by mare that I used to sing songs about all the ways I was going to slice her up, cook her and eat her with the scraps going to the cats. If the song didn't work to calm me, then a smack on her bum seemed to do the trick. She then seemed to know that I had lost all patience with her.

Chancer was being a little bugger on Saturday - started for no reason I could see going like a banana along one side of the school - after two attempts of putting my leg on with little effect, a sharp tap on the shoulder had an immediate effect - dead straight and suddenly made my legs worked with a tiny squeeze again.

As my instructor said - he has got that cheeky git look in his eye and with him like that, a tap with a whip is about the only thing that makes him instantly behave.

I could spend hours gently pushing him into a straight line why he laughed at me, or a tap up the rear and instant manners - Mr Whipity every time for me when asking once is ignored.
 
THERE'S TWO THINGS YOU CAN DO and it depends on your horse. Both mine are very different and take discipline in very different ways . One will knuckly down and behave if you give him a smack, the other will panic and lose all concentration. On one horse I have to ride out the bad behaviour and on the other I have to get off, have a fag then get back on again. Niether way is incorrect, but if I got off the cheeky one instead of smacking him he would now be unrideable, also if I hit the sensitive one he hits the roof and also would be unrideable.
 
I am sorry to disagree, but don't get off a naughty horse unless you are about to get injured. You are rewarding him for his naughty behaviour if you do that, and reinforcing it.
I'm not saying beat a sensitive horse (although obviously all horse-beating is fun
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I think Shilasdair is a lot of things, but not one of them
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Should I tell my OH, do you think? He may be a little shocked
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I think it's wishful thinking on Zoobie's part (or non-judicious use of quick reply?)
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About what? Being straight?
Well, generally I'm fairly sure...but if you have evidence to the contrary, I'm willing to review it.
There are long periods of my life that I have no memory of...although I had put that down to illegal drugs rather than lesbian urges. But anything is possible
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