I don't know what to do, advice please :(

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I really am not sure what to do with tont atm :confused:

Sue, the woman I keep him with, has tipped me over the edge this time. She contantly ..annoys me with the way she says things such as 'oh, you don't need to worry about tont's weight' and 'aw, poor tont doesn't have his neck cover on tonight'. I mean, he was overweight and I was trying to prevent laminitis, and he doesn't need a heavyweight full neck when its above freezing! :mad:

Well, she's got one of her horses up for loan or sale, and my best friend was really keen to have him. Charlie had come and seen justin a few days ago, and had fallen in love with him. She was coming on saturday to ride him, and if she got on well with him, as sue said 'if she can ride him she can have him'.

So I get up the field today and find sue stood at the field gate with a woman and her son. They stood talking for ages, and I had no idea what was going on until the woman started saying 'so we'll come and ride justin on saturday, and then loan him and hopefully buy him'. :confused: By this point im freaking out slightly.

So I wait until the people go before I ask sue 'what about charlie'. Sue then starts saying about how charlie only wanted to loan him and these people want to buy so im going to go with these. So basically she's just completely dismissed my best friend, doesn't matter that charlie wanted him first, and when sue was desperate for someone to have him,she's not even going to give her a try :mad:

I just can't believe she could be so rude, and after this I can't keep tont with someone who's going to treat my best friend like s**t :mad: I just can't trust her anymore and want to get tont as far away as possible.

The problem is, tont has always been in this field with these horses and tont being tont, I don't know if he'd like being away from there. And, only a few months ago we spent £250 on a field shelter where he is now.

So, am I over reacting or would you want to move your horse too? :confused:

Sorry its so long, nicole :)
 
If you don't like the woman and you can find somewhere to go, I'd move

But I'm sorry, but I don't feel she's out of order.... The pony was for sale or loan. Just forgetting the fact it was your friend, she had one person offering to loan him and one who offered her money. They'll be no having the horse returned from loan at an inconvenient time or broken and maybe she really needs the money? I don't blame her at all.

I am sorry for your friend though. It must be disappointing.
 
galaxy23 said:
If you don't like the woman and you can find somewhere to go, I'd move

But I'm sorry, but I don't feel she's out of order.... The pony was for sale or loan. Just forgetting the fact it was your friend, she had one person offering to loan him and one who offered her money. They'll be no having the horse returned from loan at an inconvenient time or broken and maybe she really needs the money? I don't blame her at all.

I am sorry for your friend though. It must be disappointing.
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Exactly this
 
To be honest, I wouldn't move a horse on the basis that the YO hadn't let a friend have first dibs on a horse which was for sale/loan! The situation about her making comments about the horse's weight/rugs etc., might be more trying if it was happening all the time, but at the end of the day is it fair to move your horse because of it? What other places are available to you - are they as good as this place from your horse's point of view?
 
Yes, you are over reacting. Such is life, and most likely you could end up with much worse than a few passing comments and a woman who wants to sell her horse to someone else if you move away. If it's good for your horse where you are then i would stay, and the next time she asks about his neck cover etc just politely explain. If that doesn't work, tell her it's non of her business.
 
if you bought the field shelter then its yours and you can move it!!
i agree.. get away as those niggiling little comments just get worse and worse until something will happen!!
as for your friend.. just ask her and see what her response is! .. tont will get used to another place! :D
maybe just stick it for a bit longer
 
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Thank you for the replies :)

I think I just got into a bit of a tizz over everything because I was so dissapointed for my friend. I think i'll still try and move to this other field, as it would be a lot easier, and if tont gets on well a lot better for him. Where he is now hasn't been working for a while, as sue controls when I ride, what I do with tont etc, and I own him!

Thanks for the help though, nicole :)
 
Thank you for the replies :)

I think I just got into a bit of a tizz over everything because I was so dissapointed for my friend. I think i'll still try and move to this other field, as it would be a lot easier, and if tont gets on well a lot better for him. Where he is now hasn't been working for a while, as sue controls when I ride, what I do with tont etc, and I own him!

Thanks for the help though, nicole :)
 
Yes there was, she was willing to buy him if he was the right horse. That's why it's so annoying, sue strung charlie along until a better, financially, offer came along. Out of manners, she should have given charlie a chance first and then the other people first refusal, I would have thought.

Nicole :)
 
Yes you are over reacting, but I am sorry for your friend :( If you are trying to sell a horse, and 2 good homes are available...one who wants to loan...and one who wants to buy...most people will go for the people who want to buy so long as it is the right home. Perhaps she needs the money/doesn't want something bad to happen whilst out on loan and then end up with a broken horse back in her care etc.

"Out of manners, she should have given charlie a chance first and then the other people first refusal, I would have thought" Maybe, but then I assume Charlie is your friend, and nothing to do with Sue, unless she stated a kind of first come first serve basis...then she can change her mind. As said maybe she really does need to sell and loaning is not what she wants to do ideally.

Sounds like these people want to try him out, loan then buy. If your friend really wants him then could she offer the same? Is she still trying him out anyway...as the horse might not work out for the mother and son?

Good to see you are looking at other yards, hope you have some luck. I have read your previous posts about tonts weight but not being able to hack him out unless the other woman can hack out with you.
 
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Eek I hope this Sue doesn't read the forum otherwise the decision to move or stay may be made for you :eek:



FWIW you're over reacting IMO.
 
Flipping heck, don't move onto a busy livery yard you'll probably have a nervous breakdown with the sort of comments you may get from other people.

Have a hot choccy now you have let off steam, things could be a lot worse, obviously it would of been nice for your friend to have the horse on loan but no doubt the owner has made her choice for the right reasons.

Things may seem better tomorrow. :)
 
BBH - She doesn't have a computer, so its ok if I have a little outburst :)

Kenzo - I am a teeny bit sensitive to comments lol :) Yep, i've calmed down a bit now and things don't seem half as bad :)

Umbongo - Thank you for taking the time to write all of that :) Charlie is my friend, but sue is also friends with her mum, but I was just frustrated that sue had built charlie's hopes up only to just dismiss her, even though she has never even seen the other person ride. And the fact she made charlie cry herself to sleep over it made me a little angry. And yes, if I hopefully move I might actually get to ride! :)

Thanks, nicole :)
 
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