I feel bad thinking about getting another horse

chocolate86

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It's been a while since I've been on here! Work and doing horses in the dark takes up so much of my time!
I've had horses for about 6 years I graduated uni in May and knew that having 2 horses and full time work would be a bit much. I had a lovely ex racehorse who I was schooling and a hanovarian on full loan. As my hanoverian was my dream horse I decided to keep her and sold my ex racehorse. I almost gave him away to the best possible home. Unfortunately what I didnt know was that my hanoverian had suspensory ligament problems in her back legs. I went on holiday in August and my sharer called me in a panic, she was having a lesson and felt her front leg go pop and horse was lame!
Long story short I asked her owner to take her back which she refused to do as she had bought another horse and couldnt afford to, she wanted to have her put down. My vet said it would be unwise to do this as in a year or 2 things might come right but I felt her owner had been dishonest by not telling me and I wouldnt have taken her on knowing this. I did finally get her owner to sign her over to a wonderful home having spent thousands on bills, transport (difficult loader), and livery I just couldnt let a lovely horse be put down!
I feel like there is a big gapeing hole in my life (I am sharing a friends horse but its not the same!) and now feel incredibly guilty for
a) selling my ex racer and
b) thinking about buying myself a new horse and putting on grass livery (was part livery before and the expense was huge!)

To top things off through the whole thing I have been recovering from heart problems and my boyfriend has been amazingly supportive (im lucky in that respect).

Well done if you got this far and Im not sure if it makes sense!
 
Unfortunately life throws us some pretty mean curve balls sometimes :( But from the sounds of it you want another horse so why not start looking? You've got absolutely nothing to feel guilty about :)
 
Should explain that back legs originally had suspensory desmitis and she had recovered before I got her but I didnt know her. The front leg was a new injury that my vet reckons she was highly likely to get due to conformation and shape of her feet combined with having rear leg problems.
 
Really sorry to hear about your problems. Don't feel bad about selling. You did what you thought was right with the knowledge you had at the time. If you have been unwell maybe don't rush into getting another horse, as you seem to be getting some opportunity to ride.
 
You've nothing to feel guilty about, you've acted honestly and in the best interests of your horses. I'd start looking for another horse but take your time and be sure your own health is as good as poss before you buy.
 
Thanks guys I dont feel so bad.
Defo wont be rushing into buying anything at the moment just looking around and getting an idea, defo going to get vettings done to make sure horse is healthy I know vettings might not bring everything but need to have peace of mind!
Just thinkings about grass livery even with this weather some horses still seem to fine outside!
 
You have nothing to feel guilty about. You made the best decisions based on circumstances at the time. You have done right by your horses!

You need something to fill the void - start looking I say :)
 
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