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Its been nearly a year since Ellie went lame and with her still being lame (although field sound) I feel like I've really let her down.

I've lost complete faith in my vet and am starting to wonder if she contributed to my poor girls problems. I have a new horse to focus on but I feel so down in the dumps about everything (ellie, people at the yard, money etc) that I kind of feel like I will never be good enough to give him the schooling he needs - haven't even attempted to school him yet as too scared of the sneers I will receive by some people at the yard!

Sorry to be such a wet blanket first thing in the morning, just needed to put my thoughts in order and get things off my chest!
 
Sounds like you need to move to a yard where they are less judgmental and you and your horses will feel happier!! As for your lame horse - its poo but she doesn't judge you for her still being lame - she just knows you love her.

Chin up and find yourself a new yard!!
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You are a good bod. and going through what all good bods go through, it's called Life. Occasionally a big dollop of it drops on your head and everything gets b'fuddled.

Remember that you are doing the best by your Ellie. If you are uncertain re. the vet, get a second opinion. Sometimes the horse world needs shooting. Get on your new horse and do your thing: you'll only know how things go if you give them a try
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. If it turns out cack, then it's cack and you'll figure out a way to get it right; and if it's not cack...
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Hugs.
 
Hey, my mare went lame 2 years ago and my heart was broken, so I kinda know how you feel. I bought a youngster too but it really wasn't the same. however now 2 years on I love the youngster and while it's not the same, we are now having fun. My mare has had a beautiful foal and really loves being a mom.
I'm sure things will pick up for you too.
Forget the others at the yard, they are not worth worrying about if they are not supportive. have confidence in yourself and get focusing on the new horse.
 
Thanks both, not sure my OH would appreciate you talking to my chest though Mrs M!!

Right now it just feels like things have been rubbish for ages! My vet is the second opinion vet...she's the one that my insurers (and a vet from the RVC) have the big issue with, and am still waiting to hear if they are going to pay out - ombudsman are looking at my case right now. For all she's had done to hear, everything she's been put through and she's still no better - I made the decision to give her a year (or two or three...) In the field.

I know I shouldn't be such a wuss with new horse (B), I've been hacking him out and can cope with him fine (he's the ex racer), I'm just scared to start schooling him, because of them and also because if it does go cack (as Mrs M so nicely put!) Then I'll feel even worse!!

I'm sat here all teary - how stupid!
 
Poor you, chin up!

I think you need to put your lame horse to the back of your mind - whatever happens there - happens, you can only do your best by her, what about putting her in foal? a friend of mine has done that with her mare, she is now in foal so has the next couple of years off work.

Your new horse - take your time, don't worry about it, if all you do is hack him for the 1st year - so what! it doesn't matter take your time to get to know him, I would say the first time you school him have a lesson, even ask your instructor to ride him first so you can see what he can be like?

I have had the same problem with a new horse, except I have my own yard so nobody watching me - that is my problem I want somebody with me - just in case! (I have been teary over my horse's too)

If you need help PM me I don't think I am that far from you?

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start schooling whilst you hack, there is no reason you can't start to ask him to soften whilst out and about, a bit of leg yielding etc
 
Thanks all you have made feel better and I know I should pull my finger out and stop being such a wuss!

I think I am comparing the two of them, as I have had ellie since a foal we were (well still are) a real team and the two of them won't be the same, I just need to remember that. Would love to breed from her but given her problems not sure its wise really.

Hermangerman where abouts are you based?
 
Ah thanks that's really nice!! Well you are welcome to come over and see the pair of them if you ever have the time, they do like meeting new people! xx
 
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Sounds like you need to move to a yard where they are less judgmental and you and your horses will feel happier!! As for your lame horse - its poo but she doesn't judge you for her still being lame - she just knows you love her.

Chin up and find yourself a new yard!!
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Perfectly put by slinky as always, totally agree
 
I am in exactly the same position as you, the one thing you MUST do is find a new yard.

I have and it's bliss
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My lad is still lame & going to Newmarket for a bone scan on Monday for the hindlimb lameness. Already been diagnosed with navicular at Bell Equine. The best we can hope for is he can be a hack for me.

I cannot stress to you how things have improved by moving yards though. I know exactly what you mean about others being opinionated & I wasn't being paranoid as I told one a slightly different story to the other & they caught themselves out at a later stage which confirmed they had been gossiping at my expense again.

It's so different at the new yard.

You need time to come to terms with whats happened & be able to work the new horse without feeling as though you are constantly being monitored!!!!

Good luck xx
 
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