i guess you have to step on a few people to get to the top!rant!

LeannePip

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well its all gone tits up again! i seem to attract this sort of thing, i think its because i dont stand up for myself i let people walk all over me and i just go along with it. i worked for a friend of mine, i earnt barely minimum wage and worked when ever she wanted me often with overtime for no extra pay. i worked on my own with out complaining and ran the yard pretty damn well! held the fort down whilst they all went off competing in europe for weeks at a time and never complained. my earnings were minimal but i had a roof over my head and on the most part i put on a happy front. i was incredibly lonely and physically shattered and eventually decided to leave after being offered a job in my old office on a very good wage and normal hours. giving my notice was the hardest thing ive ever had to do and i tryed to leave on good terms.

In my time there i was sort of the buffer between my boss and her liveries quite a hard job as boss liked everything done one day wether it satisfied the needs of the liveries or not. the liveries were allowed two sections of hay a day summer or winter no more but less if they could get away with it, bedding was run on a similar basis you got your quota and questioned when you asked for more. because thats how its done. i knew one of the liveries was very un happy and she left just after i did. I stayed in contact with my boss and two of the other liveries as we were good friends after leaving and they invited me on a fun ride this sunday just gone. on saturday im at the yard and i get a text from one of the liveries saying shes coming to look round my yard. sunday the other livery tells me shes leaving too and moving the horse near her partner. in both cases this is news to me but i understand their reasoning. on sunday at the fun ride the horses were looking poor (admitted by the owners) on top of their livery they were having to supplement their horses measley diet with more and more hay and hayledge, their beds were apparently ******, their horses moved stables without owners being informed and the fields often had no water. i then get a phone call tonight from the ex boss accusing me of stealing her liveries, breaching contract (still havent worked out what thats about) and basically telling me im a penny pinching b***h! btw i now have an office job and keep my horse on livery so quite how i have stolen her liveries is beyond me.

so thats it 2+2 makes 5 and they are happy with that and when you can do what you want what does it matter about the truth! a long term friend of mine who even after i left was sending business her way has shown her true colours. get to the top at what ever cost! im finding my self doing alot of evaluating lately. am thinking i might become a recluse and only talk to my horse. because thats the only way things cant get misconstrude. im more hurt that they would think i would do that - that is compleetly not my personality atall, i am a self confessed people pleaser, i dont cause trouble very easy going and go with the flow but im begining to think it follows me :/

Ho Hum life goes on!
 
Sadly, It's just one of those angering things that happens and there is nothing we can do. I left my old yard that was literally a 10 second walk from my house, on not so great terms, to one that is 10000000000 x better but is a 20 minute drive away.

A relative to the yard owner who had her horse there decided one day she didn't like me and was going to make it as difficult as possible for me being down there. I finally plucked up courage to move but kept in contact with the friends I had made down there.

There was obviously some mud slung about me once I had left - I later found it to be a bunch of horrible blatant lies. But there is nothing I can do about losing those friends - they don't believe me that its all blatantly lies. And it's heartbreaking.
 
Livery yards can be awful - anybody that knows you will know the truth and know your a decent person - anyone who believes the lies isn't worth your time :)
 
Livery yards can be awful - anybody that knows you will know the truth and know your a decent person - anyone who believes the lies isn't worth your time :)

well said - i know its so true but when you think people are your friends you hope they'd know the real you and its heart breaking when they dont.

but then if friends can be like that they arent really friends are they so theres not really any loss!
 
but then if friends can be like that they arent really friends are they so theres not really any loss!

My best friend was at the same yard at the time and never questioned me because she knew it was all made up - she moved to my new yard shortly after me and we just left them to get on with it!
 
well said - i know its so true but when you think people are your friends you hope they'd know the real you and its heart breaking when they dont.

but then if friends can be like that they arent really friends are they so theres not really any loss!

I understand what you mean. I often think I'm good at giving advice but not so good taking it - I think in the way that I just explained but at the same time I still worry and think about people talking about me (especially when it's not true)
 
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You are better off out.

Enjoy your horse, time to yourself and better pay.

People talk with their feet.
The owner will eventualy realise this.
Even if they dont people will soon start asking why the liveries and staff dont stay!
 
well said - i know its so true but when you think people are your friends you hope they'd know the real you and its heart breaking when they dont.

but then if friends can be like that they arent really friends are they so theres not really any loss!

In order for them to know the real you, they'd have to be as genuine as you are. Unfortunately, not everyone is a decent human being and therefore can't fathom that some people really are.

The only consolation is that in time, they will remember you as a nice person and conveniently forget that they didn't act with the same integrity that you did.
 
There are so many YOs like this and as one myself I just cannot understand it. We have a new livery who came from a local yard, their horse was poor when it arrived and the owner had moved as hay and grazing was rubbish and they were given second hand hay that the YOs horses had left overnight - disgusting! It turns out this YO is highly decorated and likes to give the impression that liveries are their first priority but this is clearly not the case - they've been sending the groom digging for information from my livery trying to find something to moan about and they are like children at school with the bitching and tale telling. It doesn't surprise me that this yard always has a vacancy or two!!

Try and ignore it if you can but I can understand it must be hard :(
 
I feel very sorry for you, but I bet this is quite common, particulary if all the liveries started leaving when you did. It is the same old story about the Guilty Party blaming everyone else except themselves. The fact that you worked hard for her for so long with scant reward will be conveniently forgotten and the old YO is just thrashing around looking for someone to blame.

Chin up,as they say, enjoy your new job and time with your horse.
 
It just sour grapes. Obviously people are questioning why they are staying at the horrible yard and wanting better for their money and horses. Ignore all the bitching and enjoy your horse and new job. Life is much too short to let this person spoil it for you. You did exactly what I would have done in the circumstances walked away and got a life.
 
I think there are two sides to every story, and coming onto a public forum to vent your spleen might make you feel better but in the long run won't help. There are a lot of aspects in this situation that you are leaving out. At the end of the day, you are no longer at this yard and are happy now. Move on.
 
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