I hate showjumping! Got shouted at today..

[Aliwalig]

Is a small part of you not tempted to phone her tomorrow, say you had a horse you wanted her to compete.... let her talk for a bit and then say you've just had an email in from someone who was at the show removing their reccomendation about her because of her apalling manners and xenophobic attitude?!

 

[beh]

Thats a real shame, could be worse though, you know you weren't in the wrong and most likely other people warming up do aswell. I once cut up (totally accidently btw) one of Anna R-Davies horses with her groom on, I felt terrible for ages

Just forget about it and keep kicking their asses!

 

[CrazyMare]

What a horrid nasty person. Don't let her get to you.

As far as I'm concerned, when I compete, I have every right to be there because I've paid the same fees. The only thing I don't tolerate is cruelty or people being downright dangerous.

At a local dressage venue, I used to get ridden over by some pros, I now give as good as I get, depending who I'm riding!

 

[kickandshout]

definitely report this mouthy abusive cow I imagine you arent the first person shes bellowed at.

and yes the same as you I've been cut up on the way to a practice fence and also said 'don't worry' even though I'm seething.
some people really do think they own the blooming warm up.

well done for rubbing her nose in it
and crikey don't let it put you off !!! you would miss the opportunity to beat her again.
you go girl!!!!

 

[PaddyMonty]

Sadly you do get these types at comps. Fortunately being a) male b) over 40 and c) on a large horse, most tend to be nice to me

For me then main issue here is that normal areana rules just dont work for showjump warmup.

Hmm, think I'll start a new post about that.

 

[Baggybreeches]

Firstly can I just say I think your horse is gorgeous!
Well done for getting placed and winning some money. I did a lot of BSJA as a junior and honed my 'collecting ring instinct' which means I can usually get around with out being distracted by others or getting in their way, I would say that walking on the opposite rein is fraught with problems and you might be aswell to work your horse in counter flexion on the same rein as the others.
It might be too late to actually report this incident, but I don't think it would do any harm to give the BSJA a call and just make them aware of this person's behaviour, Pro or not she had no right to bully you like that. (get your mum to ring if you are nervous).

 

[Christmas Crumpet]

What a stupid, horrible, horrible witch to have behaved like that and been so evil to you. That was totally uncalled for and I don't blame you for crying at all.

I have to say that behaviour like that is one of the reasons why I don't do any competing bar hunter trials and the odd team chase. I wouldn't dare do dressage, showing or SJ'ing with my horse at present because he gets quite revved up in public (only places with loudspeakers) and I can imagine him doing something a bit naughty and me getting screamed at and being made to feel like I couldn't ride for toffee. I do always think when I see people like that I think to myself I bet they couldn't cope with a day's hunting and would like to see how they'd cope. But sods law - things like that never happen!!

 

[MagicMelon]

What a bitch. You should have called her a moron for not taking the obvious route you had made for her and asked her WTF she expected you to do?! Next time dont apologise either! I know its so hard though as at the time you're so shocked that its only after you get mad and think up cool come backs

Im sure everyone would have looked at her as the idiot, I would have done if someone yelled like that. Very very well done for doing well in the classes though, quite clearly you proved her "you shouldnt be here" comment wrong. Did you beat her?

I had the odd out of control thing coming very close to me and cutting me up yesterday but they usually apologise and I say no problem as horses can be silly sometimes. Id never yell at them for it!

 

[Kenzo]

Something similar happened to my friend when she took her horse jumping (her first time in a competition) last year and because she was nervous and had to go over the her course at the side of the ring (baring in mind it was a beginners class!) some rude cow (a mother of one of the competitors) shouted at her in front of everyone else and told her to hurry up we have not got all day, huffing and puffing which made her even more nervous then told her she should know the course and my friend bust into to tears, while everyone else was saying its ok, take your time etc etc which really put her off going to another show again.

Its a good job I was in a show class with Mr M otherwise I'd of been fuming!

There is no reason for anybody to be rude and nasty to anyone at shows, there are always going to be hassle and bustle in warm up rings, the odd collision now and again, some people think they have more rights than others in warm up/collecting rings and barge there way though and to hell with the destruction they leave behind them.

Take no notice of the silly old mare, she should be ashamed making a spectacle of herself like that and reducing you to tears, perhaps she should remember if she's ever made a mistake in a collection ring before....unless she's so dam perfect!

 

[Jul]

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I'm sure everyone would have looked at her as the idiot, I would have done if someone yelled like that.

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I absolutely agree with this - you can reassure yourself with the fact that I bet everyone else in there (including 'her' people) were thinking 'what a rude cow' and 'poor you'. Shame someone didn't actually say something to her, I think I might have done. Whatever you did or didn't do it was an accident and it happens, there's just no need to speak to people like that!

Really well done on your results though, I bet that made you feel better

 

[mbequest]

BQ,

I was at Solihull, warming up at the time of the problem. Do you not think that you are over-exagerrating slightly on your desription of events and what was said to you, your positioning in front of the fence, and the fact that you had rode in front of this woman, cutting her up previously.

I agree that she shouted at you and that is was a little out of order but you also need to recognise that the pro's also are the ones producing talented, yet very precocious and quirky horses. It is not good for young horses, especially stallions to have their back teeth pulled out when someone cuts you up in the warm up.

BTW, the lady in question for all you wondering is a VERY well known and HIGHLY respected rider and someone who would not normally act as she did if not for the fact that she had been cut up several times during her warm up. And no before you all accuse me, I am not a friend, simply an aquaintence who doesn't like to see a witch hunt, nor a name and shame game, especially when the truth has been elaborated.

 

[Kenzo]

I understand what you saying and its good of you to see it from another point of view

but...just because other people had cut this lady up be it a professional rider or not, does that mean she should loose her wrag with one individual person in front of other people? what is wrong with riding up to someone and having a quiet word in there ear, explaining what they had done wrong and kindly reminding them of a few rules to stick to when all riding in a busy warm up area? surely our older and more professional riders out there who perhaps take it more seriously are ones to look up to, to learn from, those are the riders who show by example, shouting at someone doesn't tick any of those boxes...sorry just my view

 

[mbequest]

Kenzo,

I completely agree, although I have to admit that I have got stroppy in the warm up with people in the past who have repeatedly cut me up. Some people just do not realise how dangerous it can be. I have seen a horse have to be PTS following an accident in the collecting ring. Just as it took off, someone circled behind the fence and they collided whilst it was mid air. End result, broken shoulder for horse, broken spine for the rider.

I am not saying that BQ was at fault and the reaction was a little over the top but the desciption of the incident here on HHO is simply not accuracte. Also BQ has been a culprit of this before. I wouldn't normally notice, but seeing BQ has such a noticeable cute horse you kinda remember it!!

 

[Joules]

I shouldnt worry aout it these things happen, sounds as though you did the right thing in saying sorry. In future if something happens and it upsets you , I would recommend going to either the person on the gate or even the BSJA Judges.... they dont bite !!!!

 

[BroadfordQueen]

I'm Sorry,
I honestly can't remember doing it to anyone before, maybe I shouldn't have gone to Solihull I wasn't in the right frame of mind anyway being totally hungover so I wasn't concentrating and I did admit that I was at fault. I genuinely was trying to get into a position where she could go round me though and next time I will go the same way as everyone else.
Sorry

I appriciate the woman was a very good rider and had very quality horses and I know she would of got annoyed at me but I honestly didn't mean to do it

 

[Cash]

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next time I will go the same way as everyone else.


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Don't say that!! Even if you were slightly at fault, don't stop warming up how you normally do... it's obviously working

And it's worth remembering that you were probably both (especially her apparantly!) tense before your class, and may have acted in a way you wouldn't when not in the competition atmosphere.
It is so horrible when that happens though- regardless of whos fault it is! when i was grooming for an eventer friend thsi summer, i was warming up one of hers (on a loose rein people... no BE rules broken

) in the sj warmup, and was shouted at (by a VERY famous lady eventer.. who was my hero

) as she said her stallion (i was on a mare...:s) was being distracted by me being so close... i wasn't! was walking round the very edge of warm up area, not even near the jumps!

so upset, was the youngest person there (only warming up though lol) and was notin the wrong... i hope!
All i can say is, you're lucky it wasnt on mine- isnt great at being bumped into.. last time that happened he bolted in the warmup arena!

so know how you feel...