I have 3 ugly ponies....

Sorry is this some kind of wind up?
Get a grip and Be greatful for what you have got. I know so many people who would kill for just one horse, ugly or not.

Also looking through your old posts your horses are lovely and you seem to have done well with them. A first rosette in dressage etc.
 
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I,m sure the dealer who is picking them up for free does not think they are ugly ! Maybe they will be better off in a new home where their new owners will throw their arms around them just because they belong to them. I have not won a rossette in my life and have never competed ever but my little herd of misfits are the most special people to me.
Apologies if that sounds too harsh but you really need to try and look at the bigger picture, those 3 horses were bought by you and rely on you to provide a caring home where their owners will defend them in all situations going off on one because they lost a beauty contest is just awfull :(
 
Overheard at a local show, a young boy cuddling his hairy, native pony as the flashy little show ponies whizz by and telling him: 'don't worry if you come last; the judge doesn't know you like I do.'

That sums up how I felt about my first pony - we were always placed down the line at Working Hunter because she wasn't flashy, but I knew which pony I would want under me on the hunting field - she was fabulous in my eyes. I would have attempted badminton on that wee fat pony, I trusted her completely.

If you do not feel that bond, you cannot fake it. Maybe it is time for you to move on.
 
I commented on how lovely your pony was. And he genuinely is lovely!

I think you are on a bit of a wind up here!!

And if not, then you dont deserve your lovely ponies, I would never in a million years talk about my boys the way you have yours! For all my old mans faults, i would never, ever moan about him, or change him for the world! I think you need to send them to that 'dealer' so they can find homes that love and appreciate them!!
 
OP - what is wrong with an ugly oss anyway? :D (not that little pony is by the way)

In defence to all the ugly equines out there, many of the 'ugly ones' are actually some of the finest beasts out there, don't knock an ugly oss! ;)
 
Tacked up on my notice board is a picture of a pony lots of people would call ugly. He was piebald, with a fat tummy (doh!),an apple bum (double doh!), a long back and stumpy little legs. He didn't like walking into the school, standing by the mounting block or hard work of any description - he used to stage go-slows when he wasn't in the mood. The only time we tried dressage we struck off in canter on the wrong leg and came second last.

I loved him dearly, and was gutted when he came up for sale and I couldn't afford him. I would have loved to bring him home, spend all my money on him and keep him for the rest of his days as a pampered pony and happy hacker. Fortunately, through the magic of this forum I know he went to someone who is doing just that for him, and that he is a happy horse.

If you need to sell them then do that, but I think it is very bad that you are planning on packing them off to a dealer and not finding good and loving homes for them yourself.
 
you should be grateful for what you have! i have a little gypsy cob youngster, who i brought from a dealer, cannot be ridden cause hes still too young. he has kicked me, took off with me, rears, bucks, bites etc. yet i love him to bits, and i wouldnt change him for the world! he isnt the prettiest thing in the world, but i think hes gorgeous, because hes mine! ill never end up showing him, his confirmation isnt fab, and he has plenty of scars, but that doesnt bother me...

many people would kill to have what you do..you should try and get a good riding instructor who can help you!

dont give up! these ponies need you! :) good luck. x
 
Lila said:
Sorry is this some kind of wind up?
Get a grip and Be greatful for what you have got. I know so many people who would kill for just one horse, ugly or not.

Also looking through your old posts your horses are lovely and you seem to have done well with them. A first rosette in dressage etc.
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This x1000. Poor unappreciated ponies!
 
moses06 said:
so they can stand in the feild doing sod all and everyone else is out having fun.....I would just like to have some sucess at something rathert than be such a dumbass failure all the time, so thought I would try showing - how stupid of me.
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I cant believe you!! I thin you acting like a spoilt brat,who is throwing a tantrem because things aernt going your way.Get over it.Those ponies deserve better. I hope the dealer finds them good homes.
 
I'll give you £50 for the gingery cob you came third with and now don't like!


FWIW I owned this pretty little chap:
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at the same time as I owned this "ugly" chap:
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They are actually very similar by the sound of it: both chestnut Welshies at around 13.2/13.3 but definitely NOT similar to look at:
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But when "ugly" can take nervous kid for her first SJ round and finish it like this:
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leaving her with a huge grin on her face and confident enough to jump a foot higher by the end of the day, you can see why we kept the ugly one!


If having three ponies is too much for you then get rid of one or two but other than that I think you should get over yourself and learn to enjoy what you have rather than behaving like a spoilt brat about it.
 
If you want to show, buy show ponies.

If you want to ride and own ponies because you enjoy their company and like them, then don't expect everyone to like what you like.

Personally I ride for myself, my enjoyment and the partnership or bond I can have with my nag. I don't ride so folk can say how bad or well I do it. I don't ride so folk can watch (few rarely do), and I have lots of horses I can't ride but enjoy their company and achieve different things with.

Give up if you want but don't say it is because of the horses. It is because of you!
 
Box_Of_Frogs said:
I'm sorry moses06 but if this is real and not a wind up, you really do need to get a grip. You bought the ponies (horses?) and you've enjoyed some success with them. If you don't like losing, don't compete. Why not approach some/one of the judges after the competition and respectfully ask for some feedback. Why not post on the Forum to ask what members think, and post a few pix of you + ponies in full competition gear. You could learn something and/or get some constructive tips. There's lots of members on here who judge and I'm sure would try to help. Why does your Section D look like a shire? Why is your coloured "horrid"? Why is your cob a "munster"? Don't you count it as "success" just to adore your own ponies/horses and build strong bonds with them? If you're no longer enjoying them, then by all means sell them but to announce to the world that you have 3 ugly ponies has an equally ugly resonance. I hope they find more appreciative homes.
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Totally agree with that^^^^
 
Right, If it is a wind up, I'm going to waste 5 minutes or so typing a reply and probably provide some entertainment for the winder upper;)
But, on the slimmest chance that it's NOT a wind up - Woahh guys, OP is in a bit of a downer and doesn't deserve a bashing.
I have been in this very dark place myself - nothing is any good, everything is a failure, you are absolutely not good enough to get anywhere in life, not even a minimal progress not to mention doing well at a show... Life doesn't seem worth living and you even resent your horses.
It's got nothing to do with reality, it's a state of mind and it takes an awful lot to drag yourself out of it. So, please, be a bit more supportive to the OP.
Moses06, cheer up a little bit, don't make any decisions about your ponies just yet. Turn them away for a bit, give yourself some respite; go and buy yourself something non horsey to wear, have an ice cream or full English in a cafe somewhere; don't think about them, clear your head and in a couple of weeks start again. Don't challenge yourself to start with, find little things to do with them and take it from there.
If you want to talk, PM me:)
 
you should be greatful that you have 3 ponies (even if you think they are useless), i would kill to have my old pony back even though she was usless to me but we had to loan and then sell her on as 2 years ago my father in law got sick with cancer, we could then no longer afford to keep my pony as had to pay for cabs etc to and from hospital for him for his chemo etc, so put my pony out on full loan, when he then died 18 months ago we had to sell my pony to pay for his funeral, my mother in law then also died of cancer (within a space of a year) so had to fund that funeral also. My father also died of a sudden heart attack 3 months before MIL died, so if you think you have it hard having to put up with 3 ugly ponies i suggest you take a step back and see what other people have to deal with in their lives and maybe think yourself greatful as i would love to have my inlaws, dad and pony back!!

If you really do feel depressed to the point of suicide then you need to be seeking proper help from medical professions and not coming onto chat forums as no one on here will be able to give you the help you really need medically
 
Well said Martlin.

Moses06 have a huge (((hug)))

FWIW I think your ponies are lovely - they all look happy and well cared for. What more does a horse want? They don't care about competitions and are generally (in my experience) not bothered what they look like.

I'd have any one/all of them any time!

Here's hoping you feel better and stronger soon.
 
Pegs said:
i suggest you take a step back and see what other people have to deal with in their lives and maybe think yourself greatful as i would love to have my inlaws, dad and pony back!!

If you really do feel depressed to the point of suicide then you need to be seeking proper help from medical professions and not coming onto chat forums as no one on here will be able to give you the help you really need medically
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ok but sometimes it is very very hard to take a step back... and other peoples situations are not comparable in that way to yours.

medical support unfortunately isn't always that great, I do think actually that chat forums can be of some assitance.
 
Pegs, your post reminds me of so many, the argument that others have it worse doesn't wash I'm afraid. I'm perfectly aware that there are people dying of starvation in Africa, it doesn't make me feel any better about my not quite perfect credit rating though...
It's not what others have or don't have, it's about how Moses FEELS... and there is whole huge spectrum of life between being blissfully happy and suicidal.
 
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agree with martlin completely
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Me too.
I will say though if you want to compete/show and be 'successful' as in getting awards and acolade, you will have to learn yourself what is required in the ring, you can't rely on others to guide and be honest especially where mony is involved.
Learning about and doing stuff yourself is where the pleasure lies not in being able to 'buy' approval. Take this opportunity to stop and have a good hard think about why you have horses. If it's purely to 'be the best' and this is how you measure your self then using a living creature to achieve this may not be a good idea. If you want to DO your best and learn and progress with your horses, then horses are imo one of the best ways.
 
Box_Of_Frogs said:
I'm sorry moses06 but if this is real and not a wind up, you really do need to get a grip. You bought the ponies (horses?) and you've enjoyed some success with them. If you don't like losing, don't compete. Why not approach some/one of the judges after the competition and respectfully ask for some feedback. Why not post on the Forum to ask what members think, and post a few pix of you + ponies in full competition gear. You could learn something and/or get some constructive tips. There's lots of members on here who judge and I'm sure would try to help. Why does your Section D look like a shire? Why is your coloured "horrid"? Why is your cob a "munster"? Don't you count it as "success" just to adore your own ponies/horses and build strong bonds with them? If you're no longer enjoying them, then by all means sell them but to announce to the world that you have 3 ugly ponies has an equally ugly resonance. I hope they find more appreciative homes.
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Well said im afraid. ^^^
 
blazingsaddles said:
Going to be harsh here, apologies in advance. Look, you've got three ponies who depend on you. No-one else is going to fight their corner, only you. Grow a backbone, get some pride & defend them. To continually put them down is rubbish, they deserve to be loved & adored. Don't put your own inadequacies on them, you feel down not them, for whatever reasons. If you can't fill this vacancy then the least you can do is find them caring, loving, fun homes where they are appreciated.
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Agree.
This post is a joke I feel so sorry for the ponies in question. You don't deserve them.
 
I don't think any horse is truely ugly but nonetheless have been in your shoes with the showing lark.
i took Hovis showing and was told:
He wasn't a good stamp
His "unknown" cross breeding was a problem
He lacked implusion
His markings weren't equal
Oh and his paces were being hampered by my awful riding.
This was in an inhand and a ridden show.
After restraining myself from smacking the judge in the mouth I smiled sweetly and left.

So my list of options for what I can really do with the Destroyer are limited:
Showing = not good enough horse + not good enough rider
Show jumping = rider such a wuss we compete against kids on whizzy ponies who thrash the pants off us
Dressage = rider too scared to ride in a dressage legal bit so not an option
Xc = rider a wuss (see above)

BUT you know what I love him. I don't give a monkeys if some silly stuck up witch with a tea cosy on her head and seriously bad breath thinks he's ugly. He's mine, he loves me and I love him.
I don't have him to win things - I have him because he makes my life complete, because looking at him makes me smile even on the darkest of days and because I can't imagine life without him.
I think you need to think about why you have horses.........
 
I came on here yesterday and made a tongue in cheek comment because I thought OP was messing around. I soon followed up with genuine concern as the OP seems very down. People deal with things in different ways. You all may be grateful for your ponies, and rightly so. But if you felt down and possibly depressed it may be a different story. I will say though, if you want to get rid of your ponies because they are not winning, then you need to ensure they go into good homes, IMO this is your duty, you owe them that much.

But I stick by what I said, which is in short take deep breathes and a step back, try and see the positive in what you have, look for soloutions, which there always is if you look hard enough. Lessons would be of great help.

My offer of PMing me stands and son't be shy, I have been very down in the past too and won't judge for a second.
 
I aggre wholeheartedly with Hovis and Sids Mum; Brego is an ugly percheron draft of pretty much unknown heritage. Everywhere I go to compete I get laughed at, pointed at and made fun of, and I don't care.
I love the fact that we spend the weekends eventing and jumping up to four feet, and then through the week he goes back in harness and is used as a logger. He completes me because although he isnt anyone's view of ideal, I love him and he loves me back.

I hope this post is a joke, because I though unconditional love was the whole point of horse ownership?
 
ah but sometimes that is half the problem, particularly if you are in a self over critical state... you feel you aren't doing your best by them cos you love them so much!

this is coming from someone on a guilt trip because she has had to make the decision not to go out to any 'parties' recently.. and has a pony who loves parties :rolleyes:
 
no pony is "ugly"-you need to get a grip and if you truly want rid, then do so and they may find homes where they will be appreciated and loved-just because you have had a **** seasons showing, so what!!dont behave like a pot hunter and try to enjoy your ponies-its not their fault that you have the feelings that you do.
 
If by any chance you live in NE Scotland i would like to offer you lessons, i used to teach and i feel 100% certain i could get you cantering in no time, and would give you help with your ponies.
Obviously i realise this isnt likely but you never know, i am gutted that you are feeling like this. :(
 
Hey we have a percheron X (we think) - she likes to jump to0!

OP, sorry to hear you are down, but from looking at your at posts your horses are lovely, I am very envious of the cob. She got 3rd at a large local show, surely thats good, we cant all be HOY standard.

I have acepted that my girl at 21 will probably never work in outline and has a twisted leg, she always does well at family pony and PC pony though. My daughters young cob is a stonker, a lovley girl but her front feet are a bit narrow and boxy so will never go past local RC showing. Of the other two one is a rescue (WHW)who is a companion, and quite often an absolute pest. My best pony, Honey was given to me as she is too dangerous to be a ridden childs pony, her job is to look pretty and have her mane brushed. She loves being cuddled, but only by me. So they all have a job to do.

As for riding, all my ability (not that there was ever much) seemed to dissapear after having a baby. 18 months down the line I am still struggling and at times get quite depressed about it. I was over the moon yesterday to trot over a x pole, on my own without falling off. My ambition is to eventualy make it to a RC deressage comp or rally and just do a test, to hell with winning anything. Please dont be too hasty about getting rid of your horses.
 
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