I have 3 ugly ponies....

Well I'm not sure whether this is a wind-up or if the OP is seriously ill BUT either way I'm going to make a practical suggestion.
OP, please go and volunteer with a local RDA group. YOu will gain an immense amount of horsey experience, find pleasant people to talk to about horses and the world in general, possibly make life-long friends and definitely see how horses can help people with problems. You will also see your own life from a different perspective, which can only be a good thing, whichever of the two premises is the case.
 
I read this earlier and first thing I thought was 'for gods sake, get a grip and stop whinging'. Glad I'm not the only one.

I doubt this is a wind up - it's just somone have a ungrateful tantrum and wanting attention. And I don't care if they're feeling 'down' - there's still no excuse for behaving like a 5yr old who didn't win their class.

You are having a stroppy tantrum because you didn't win a rossette (or worse, because you felt your post was ignored :rolleyes: ). Grow up. I have no pity or time for whingers.

Everyone has days were they hate their horse. We're having one at the moment - Kalli is a stroppy opinionated witch at shows and basically a waste of time and effort going. And she can be properly fugly too ;) Yes, we are genuinly considering selling her because of her attitude problem, but we're not whinging and attention seeking about it.

The vast majority of people keep their horses beacause their love caring for them and enjoy them for the horses they are. If you want a rossette machine, go and buy one. If not, go and get a My-little-Pony because with your current attitude, that's all you deserve.
 
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Kallibear said:
I doubt this is a wind up - it's just somone have a ungrateful tantrum and wanting attention. And I don't care if they're feeling 'down' - there's still no excuse for behaving like a 5yr old who didn't win their class.
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When my daughter (now 8) didn't win her classes when she was younger, she never threw tantrums like this. She always apologized to Honey, and then told me all of the ways she could have done better. I'm so proud of the fact she is already more mature and seems a better horsewoman than the OP!
 
I'm sorry to say all this because I do think that I am a sympathetic person, and showing can make you feel a bit c**p sometimes, but..

If you say that you can't canter, then I think you're time and money is better spent on lessons and just having some fun and getting to know your ponies some more. If after 2years you are still struggling at canter maybe find an instructor who can give you lots of lunge lessons and develop your seat some more. Somebody a bit mean who will take your stirrups away and put you through your paces. Maybe riding a variety of horses if you have a local riding school would help, as it sounds like you are starting to resent yours a lot at the min too and you need to start enjoying riding again.

That was my nice answer. Alternative.. You owe it to your poor ponies to make sure they end up in a good home. You may think they are ugly monsters, but they deserve an owner who will love them for cuddles, and being able to go out on a ride on a Sunday, and the grooming, and the poo- picking even!! This is what owning a horse is about and if I can do all this then go out for the day jumping and place I am over the moon but it doesn't make me love my pony any more or less because I bought him as a pony not constantly immaculate and well behaved winning machine!! And, if he has an off day the first thing I will look at is my own performance. Sometimes judges can be just complete muppets, and you wonder whether they were looking at the same line up as you?! But is that going to affect the love I have for my boy, NO! Maybe you don't deserve them?
 
I'm sorry you're feeling so low.

I've always really liked your ponies, I would own Moses in a heartbeat, I think he's stunning.

Are you feeling depressed about the three of them because you didn't agree with some comments a judge has made that has made and this has made you feel that you are inadequate and that your ponies aren't good enough?

You need to remember that a judges opinion is personal, unless you are showing under breed society rules there wont be a a well defined criteria of what is correct or incorrect and at local level even at the larger shows I've seen some truly bad judging this season so you shouldn't be disheartened.

If your ambition is to show at a high level then maybe you should consider buying a 'produced' horse or pony that already has an established record at the level you want to compete at.

If you are having issues with cantering why not have some lunge lessons or book so lessons on a schoolmaster so you can improve.
 
tabithakat64 said:
I'm sorry you're feeling so low.

I've always really liked your ponies, I would own Moses in a heartbeat, I think he's stunning.

Are you feeling depressed about the three of them because you didn't agree with some comments a judge has made that has made and this has made you feel that you are inadequate and that your ponies aren't good enough?

You need to remember that a judges opinion is personal, unless you are showing under breed society rules there wont be a a well defined criteria of what is correct or incorrect and at local level even at the larger shows I've seen some truly bad judging this season so you shouldn't be disheartened.

If your ambition is to show at a high level then maybe you should consider buying a 'produced' horse or pony that already has an established record at the level you want to compete at.

If you are having issues with cantering why not have some lunge lessons or book so lessons on a schoolmaster so you can improve.
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Good non-judgemental , helpful advice :)
 
Your post is really not very nice is it? NO horse/pony should ever be described as ugly, and you don't/shouldn't love a horse/pony based on what that animal can win for you.

If you are that desperate to win/be placed then maybe you should have proper lessons to at least learn to canter before you go calling your ponies names.

It sounds to me that they are probably a bit p***ed off with you too, never, never blame your horse/pony when you are obviously a novice yourself. Whatever you do make sure your three ponies go to really good homes and then take a year out yourself to learn to ride better and also to be a bit more humble.
 
While my first reaction to the OP wasn't very nice and tbh, a little jealous (along the lines of you don't know how lucky you are lady etc, etc :o) I can kinda understand how she feels.....

Having a nutty Sec D who matter what I did with him seemed always to be 2 steps forward, 10 steps back, you'd think you had a breakthrough on one issue and then another issue would rear (literally!) it's ugly head. It is very dispiriting, depressing and knocks your confidence to pieces and some people really don't cope well with that. TBH, when I was chucked out of the ring on more than one occasion and then barred by 2 RC:o because he was such a liability my reaction to the "experts on the floor" was C'mon, jump on if you think you can do it(they didn't :D) as I'm a stroppy cow. There were many times when I would have handed him to the first person who came along and never gone near a horse again.....

It's not nice feeling like a failure, we can't all sort our problems(whatever they may be) as easily as others appear able too. There's an Irish saying "there but for the grace of god, go I" and maybe we should remember that!
 
Lila said:
Sorry is this some kind of wind up?
Get a grip and Be greatful for what you have got. I know so many people who would kill for just one horse, ugly or not.

Also looking through your old posts your horses are lovely and you seem to have done well with them. A first rosette in dressage etc.
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My daughter 12 is just learning to ride (she rides my cob on lead) what she would do to have a pony of her own.We have a little section A here too,but too small for my daughter,so just a pet.We rent a 3.5 acre field.
I think your ponies would be better off where they would be loved for what they are.I do not do showing.

Where are u located?
 
I am struggling with getting a grip with nerves and cantering is a problem as late.
My little cob is no way to blame and I am getting lessons,after getting advise from people on this forum.
You may not win all the time,shows are for fun and enjoyment,try to look at shows as a nice day out.
Get a sharer to ride your ponies for you I did for my cob and he is doing fab,I dont resent him at all ,and enjoy watching.
I am now looking for a nice steady hack and i dont care if he is as odd looking,bow legged or knock kneed, as he will be one of the family and loved the same.
Nothing in this world is ugly..
Get some help and go enjoy your ponies,if you still feel the same in a few weeks,then its your duty to re-home them properly.
You owe them that!!!!!!!!
 
A sharer or loan sounds a good idea. Ive got a loan pony (company and pet) and I own a horse and he needs a pal.They will be together forever as loan to buy is the agreement.

You should enjoy the ponies-honestly. My daughter wants a pony of her own.
 
Arabelle said:
Overheard at a local show, a young boy cuddling his hairy, native pony as the flashy little show ponies whizz by and telling him: 'don't worry if you come last; the judge doesn't know you like I do.'
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OMG that is sooooooooooo lovely, it brings a tear to the eye! I think if i had been a judge and had overheard that i would have given him all of the first place rosettes i could find, what a lovely boy!

OP for what its worth.......i had a beautifully marked coloured horse, a 14.2, good conformation, lovely paces, would have walked any coloured classes etc....but that didnt stop him going bezerk at events......i did a fun ride and had 4 hours of plunging, broncin, and nastyness......trust me.....even the beautiful ones dont suddenly mean you can win/compete/ride/jump/show etc.....sometimes the f-ugly ones are the best.

Why did you a) get 3 ponies
b) get 3 ponies when you say you cant really ride
c) end up with unsuitable ones

(not a criticism....even the best riders in the world get it wron when buying a horse....just seems strange that you admit that you arnt the best at riding.....yet have 3 horses that are unsuitable?)
 
skychick said:
OMG that is sooooooooooo lovely, it brings a tear to the eye! I think if i had been a judge and had overheard that i would have given him all of the first place rosettes i could find, what a lovely boy!

OP for what its worth.......i had a beautifully marked coloured horse, a 14.2, good conformation, lovely paces, would have walked any coloured classes etc....but that didnt stop him going bezerk at events......i did a fun ride and had 4 hours of plunging, broncin, and nastyness......trust me.....even the beautiful ones dont suddenly mean you can win/compete/ride/jump/show etc.....sometimes the f-ugly ones are the best.

Why did you a) get 3 ponies
b) get 3 ponies when you say you cant really ride
c) end up with unsuitable ones

(not a criticism....even the best riders in the world get it wron when buying a horse....just seems strange that you admit that you arnt the best at riding.....yet have 3 horses that are unsuitable?)
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i got a bit teary too reading that :) soooooo cute!!! i love kids like that!!

TBH yes you may be feeling down, but i dont think you are right in blaming the horses and insulting them. Go and have lessons on different horses with a different instructor and get your cantering up to scratch. If you can ride them better you are bound to get more enjoyment and variety from having them. And so what if they dont do that well showing - hack out, school them, try walk and trot dressage tests etc! There is loads to do!! I accept that you are down about stuff but you come across really ungreatful. Also only seen pics of the chestnut but hes far from ugly.
 
I think if you want to compete succesfully you need to put some homework in!

Get some lessons, get more confident and just have fun for a while! Do something fun like Gymkana and fun rides, then once you've had some fun on your ponies have some lessons then get out there and compete.

My advice is to enjoy what you got! If it isn't fun then don't do it :)
 
unbelievable -
reading this post i thought this was a spoilt ungrateful child ( or a troll) but reading her previous posts its obvious this is actually a middle aged woman who not so long ago was singing her ponies praises
- disgusting
Please find your poor ponies loving kind homes
 
narkymare said:
unbelievable -
reading this post i thought this was a spoilt ungrateful child ( or a troll) but reading her previous posts its obvious this is actually a middle aged woman who not so long ago was singing her ponies praises
- disgusting
Please find your poor ponies loving kind homes
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Hmmmm my thoughts exactly :rolleyes:
 
Funny how Moses whatever hasn't been back since the tide has turned against her. I feel my first ever User Ignore coming on.

ETS She's an ADULT??? God forbid... sigh.
 
Has it occurred to you that she might have been a bit hurt by the not so pleasant comments and therefore not come to take part?
I seriously think that this bashing is undeserved, she's not abusing her horses - they don't care if they are considered pretty or useful. She's feeling down, lost confidence etc and to top it off got 'shouted' at on the forum, no wonder she's not replying.
 
Hedgewitch13 said:
Funny how Moses whatever hasn't been back since the tide has turned against her. I feel my first ever User Ignore coming on.

ETS She's an ADULT??? God forbid... sigh.
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Moses is the welsh d

the coloured is the unbroken one.

all i have to say is look at what i went through with jazz.
 
I just think its horrid when shes blaming her poor ponies for not winning rosettes recently - just last month she was singing their praises when they were winning.
This is pathetic - she is a a middle aqged woman!
I feel so sorry for those ponies - ponies can tell when you are angry - sooner she sells the better - selfish and totally unloving behaviour, if i reallly thought my horse was ugly id love and protect him all the more!!!!!
 
martlin said:
Has it occurred to you that she might have been a bit hurt by the not so pleasant comments and therefore not come to take part?
I seriously think that this bashing is undeserved, she's not abusing her horses - they don't care if they are considered pretty or useful. She's feeling down, lost confidence etc and to top it off got 'shouted' at on the forum, no wonder she's not replying.
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oh, dont start playing god!! this OP has blamed her poor unfortunate ponies for her lack of confidence etc,would you call your ponies/horses ugly and threaten to give them away to any old bod- dont think so!! she needs to get a grip and either be more positive and have lessons, or get rid to give somebody else the benefit of her ponies. So what if they dont win in the show ring, her attitude is totally wrong- poor ponies i say!!
 
rosiefronfelen said:
oh, dont start playing god!!
what a bizarre thing to say:confused:
this OP has blamed her poor unfortunate ponies for her lack of confidence etc,
all she has done is posted a sad message on an internet forum
would you call your ponies/horses ugly and threaten to give them away to any old bod- dont think so!!
I threaten my horses all sorts of things on regular basis, doubt if they understand or care tbh; some of them are far from pretty;)
she needs to get a grip and either be more positive and have lessons, or get rid to give somebody else the benefit of her ponies. So what if they dont win in the show ring, her attitude is totally wrong- poor ponies i say!!
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Or she needs a bit of help and support and a shoulder to cry on... as far as I know she doesn't go around beating the ponies and shouting at them, she came on an internet forum to talk about her feelings, I think that is a start.
 
rosiefronfelen said:
oh, dont start playing god!! this OP has blamed her poor unfortunate ponies for her lack of confidence etc,would you call your ponies/horses ugly and threaten to give them away to any old bod- dont think so!! she needs to get a grip and either be more positive and have lessons, or get rid to give somebody else the benefit of her ponies. So what if they dont win in the show ring, her attitude is totally wrong- poor ponies i say!!
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I think the term 'playing god' is a bit over the top. She is just viewing things from a different perspective.
 
yup....I'm guessing they don't know that she has called them ugly on the internet and doing just fine. I rather think people have turned this into something its not, sometimes your thinking can get a bit skewed on stuff and it doesn't take much to tip it over the edge.
you know what, I probably have shouted at mine in my own frustration recently (and then feel terrible about it later) and you know what he just sighs at me, lets me have a minute and off we go again. Thats horses for you, great levellers in the end but you have to get to that point :)
 
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